Up to date on the news as usual, I’m here to comment on Jen Fulwiler’s post at the Register last December, “Why are there no Catholic Mom Bloggers on this Top 100 List?” The article references Babble’s Top 100 Mommy Bloggers.
The question has been puzzling me, this long wintry month, as almost all of the blogs I read are written by Catholic women who are mothers but who elude the title “Mommy Blogger” for a number of reasons, as Fulwiler herself does.
While several of my favorite bloggers have written books (I’m honored to have contributed to this one), none have placed buttons on their sites so that fans can shop for blog related merchandise. While many operate a business through their blogs, none of them are selling themselves. While all of them have children, they’ve long since given up justifying their reasons for doing so.
Most Catholic married women expect to be mothers, so there’s no need to fetishize their choices or even to identify with them overmuch. They are mothers, who by and large enjoy being mothers and who make great investment in their children, but “Mommy” is not their persona.
Rather, they’re talking about Brahms, they’re reading the complete works of Shakespeare, they’re writing novels, reviewing books, and blogging the Wasteland. Some love fashion, but I suspect most would have scruples with becoming a fashionista, or an anything-ista. Almost all of them reference Christ, or aspects of their faith with regularity, or if they don’t talk openly about Christ, he is the hidden center of their thought.
A few things they are not doing:
1. Taking celebrity-style portraits of themselves.
3. Bringing their whole families into the blog business.
4. Fabricating desire for their lifestyle.
In short, they do not fetishize or commodify themselves, their lives, their families or their motherhood. And if there were anything they wanted you to get out of reading their blogs, aside from some insight into how Catholics live, it would be Christ himself. He’s always been a difficult sell.