Hardly anyone believes it, but it’s true. Obedience brings tremendous freedom to our lives. But we can’t possibly know that unless we practice it. And practicing it is hard, and sometimes all against our instincts. And hard stuff sucks. Except, as I wrote recently about something else, the hard stuff is also the great stuff.
There is no greatness in taking the easier, wider path.
Katrina is writing on that, as regards the call to chastity and celibacy that so many people dismiss as silly or unrealistic:
Yes, I may not be having sex but that is only one very small aspect of my life. I am not defined by whether or not I am sexually active and who I am sexually active with [. . .] Just as I am sure homosexuals are not solely defined by who they have gay sex with. If they made their own list it would be just as long as varied as mine. First and foremost they are humans and deserving of dignity. Our Church actually says so. Contrary to popular belief, neither myself nor the Catholic Church hate gays or want them to suffer lonely miserable lives…
[CCC2358] The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
… just practice chastity; which is what myself and millions of other people on the planet not having sex are doing – and not dying from it, might I add. In fact, it’s quite the opposite of misery and death, this not having sex.
I expect some will accuse Kat of being simplistic, here, or even cavalier. I don’t think she’s trying to be either. I think she’s trying to counter a powerful and all-pervasive narrative that is itself simplistic and cavalier in some ways, and perhaps reductive. I think she’s laying down a challenge to be about more than we think we can be.