Why The Not All Like That (NALT) Christians Project works

On behalf of the small but passionately dedicated team responsible for The NALT Christians Project, I want to thank everyone who has helped make our first week such a tremendous success. Most of all, I want to thank the (as of this writing) seventy-five people who have taken the time and effort to make a NALT video. One of the craziest things about ushering this project through its first whirlwind week is that neither I nor my partners have even had time to personally respond to those good people who, throughout the week, continued to make us cry through the sheer power of their NALT video testimonies.

This is true: those of us who are vetting the videos before we mount them on the NALT site have an understanding that we can only vet two of them at a time, before we are guaranteed to have to take a, shall we say, tissue break. The videos are that heartrending. One after another, they just … wipe us out with their depth, clarity, honestly, and clear-headed conviction.

One of the reasons that these videos have the visceral emotional impact they do is because it’s so rare in life that you witness a person speaking a truth as extremely intimate to them as are the truths people are speaking in their NALT videos. It’s just … not something that too often comes up in life. About the only place it ever does happen is in movies. Well, NALT videos are movies—starring real people, saying the most real things any person can. And they’re just … mesmerizing. If you’ve watched any one of them, you know what I mean.

So thank you, NALT video makers. It is God’s truth that we feel that any one of the videos now on the NALT website would be justification enough for the website to exist. If I’ve said that once, I’ve said it seventy-five times.

If you’re an LGBT-affirming Christian who hasn’t yet made a NALT, please do. It’s extremely easy. We’re not looking for high production value. We’re looking for heart. And if you have a heart for this issue, don’t remain silent on it. We need your voice. The cause needs your voice. Don’t be shy. Don’t be hesitant. Feel the Holy Spirit moving you towards this, and … get ‘er done. Silence only hurts the young LGBT kids who most need to hear that there’s a place for them within the Christian fold.

I also want to thank some of the bloggers who’ve supported NALT. I wish I had time to read all such posts; I wish I was aware of them all. The six that come to mind because they’ve most recently meant so much to me are these:

NALT: A How-to Manual for Your Church, from Huffington Post’s Gay Voices. Choice quotes from: “But this confiding-gayness-in-secret thing grew tiresome, so my parents said, basically, ‘Why don’t we hold onto our britches and put it all out on the table? We’ll even throw some beef sandwiches in there.’My parents were “NALT” and didn’t even know it. … The first person who ever told me that I was going to hell was a leader at my church. I was 16, and I assure you that nothing haunted me more. Truth be told, I left my church ages ago because I thought my entire congregation saw me as “struggling.” But NALT involvement at your church could override people like that who hold such a piteous outlook on LGBT issues. Break the mold and seek out ways that you can counter Christians who misrepresent what is supposed to be a loving community. Give NALT a chance. It could help kids like me know that not all Christians are ‘like that.’”

A Gay Christian’s Apoplexy: The NALT backlash and the irony of a community’s anger in the face of love. Choice: “My heart is breaking right now, as I listen to video after video.  I’m hearing love and affirmation.  My heart feels as if it’ll burst, and is aching over these people’s goodness. … I am crying for those lost years ago who would have been desperate to hear the loving words of the people in the NALT videos that I’m seeing. Desperate to hear them while they were still on this earth. … As I am listening to and watching the kind eyes in these videos, all that I can do is to hold back tears of gratitude.  And fear isn’t anywhere to be found.  I see… I see, almost a plea of remorse and empathy in their eyes.  My heart hurts for the kindness that I see. I’m listening with a heart full of thanks.”

Christians Speak Up! Let The World Know “We’re Not All Like That” (from the U.K. website Lesbilicious): “On a personal note, I am a Christian woman who identifies as bisexual, and I know firsthand how painful it is when Christians, especially those that are part of your spiritual family, rain down hateful slogans or offer to pray for you, but not in a supportive way. I created the comic Jesus Loves Lesbians, Too [link was broken] as a way to share my story and to provide an outlet for other young Christians who are trying to reconcile their faith and their sexuality, those that feel like they have no one to talk to, no one to understand. Today, confident and strong in my sexuality and beliefs, I find comfort in the videos posted on the NALT site. Ten years ago, these videos and these people could have provided a lot more than that to a young girl who was scared to tell her Christian friends about her new girlfriend. Here’s where you come in, readers. If you are a Christian, and you want other young LGBT people and young Christians to know that we are not all like that, post a video to their YouTube site. If you have Christian friends who have never stopped loving you because of your sexuality, send them the link. Share on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, or any and every other site you can think of, and share often. Together, our voices can diminish those loud and few who claim to speak for God and God’s people. Together, we can show those that need our love and support that we are not all like that, and that they are not alone.”

The NALT Christians Project offers permission and an invitation, from leading progressive Christian blogger Slacktivist (who awesome NALT video is here): “It always surprises me, and depresses me, to realize how many American Christians — white evangelicals, especially — are desperate for permission to love, for permission to stand on the side of justice rather than on the side of unfairness and injustice. (You are hereby granted permission, officially. There’s a downloadable certificate and everything.) I think the NALT Christians Project is a good way of showing them that they have such permission. Here is the testimony of the faithful. Here are Christians from all over the place “unapologetically expressing their full acceptance of LGBT people.” And look! They’re still Christians. This love and acceptance is an expression of their Christian faith, not a rejection of it.”

A Time To Believe Differently: The NALT Christians Project. From: “The NALT project potentially does two important things. It presents a much-needed counterpoint to the harsh rhetoric of the Christian right who attempt to marginalize people who are gay (i.e., fighting against ‘the normalization of homosexuality’). It also reaches out to people who are gay and suffering at the hands of the church; it’s a way for followers of Christ to stand in solidarity with gay people who seek to live authentic lives with integrity.”

Why I support the #NALT project despite its flaws… From: “This is a theological project: This project is asking people to talk about their faith and how it relates to real life. Not just real life, but one of the biggest, hot-button issues of our time. Not only that but it was a non-Christian who named it, who said ‘Ok, Christians, tell me, what do you think?’ Of course I stand behind that. Somebody wants to know what I think about my faith and what it has to say about this issue? Sign me up.”

Thank you to these bloggers—and to those NALT-supporting bloggers whom, alas, I know that I have missed.

I also want to thank the members of the press who’ve done so much to help spread the NALTy word. To a person they’ve all been kind, thorough, and fair. It means so much to us that they cared enough about the NALT Project to … well, ask us about  it. Their coverage has been amazing.

The deepest possible thanks also to those LGBT-affirming interdenominational Christian organizations and ministries who have partnered with NALT. It is of such vital importance to us that any young LGBT person visiting our site sees represented there the Christian denomination with which he or she is familiar—the one they care about, the one they know, perhaps the one in which they were raised. The power of that ready affirmation cannot be overstated. Right now we are but showing the linked (and hover-named) logos of our partner organizations along the bottom of each page of the NALT website. In development we have a separate page on our site, on which we will present information about each of these important, long-standing, and often trailblazing organizations, each of whom has for so long been so lovingly and diligently leading the cause that NALT has only just joined.

On Wednesday I, NALT co-founder Wayne Besen, of Truth Wins Out, and my wife Catherine, who is so integral to NALT, had an hour-long teleconference with fifteen representatives of the largest and most important LGBT-affirming Christian organizations and ministries in the country. Some of those on the call were from organizations currently in the thoughtful process of discerning what exactly their relationship with NALT might best look like for them. In faith we pray that these organizations continue in dialogue with us, that ultimately they come to find The NALT Christians Project worthy of their name, so that together, hand in hand, we might work with them toward furthering the cause we share.

Last, but most certainly not least, I want to thank those who have taken the time to email or otherwise get to us messages that throughout this week served to so uplift and inspire us to keep doing what we’re doing. Here are some of those heartening communiques:

I have been guilty of thinking all Christians are hateful and all alike. Thank you for showing that I can still learn something new at this late stage in my life.

Thank you so very much for developing this project! I suspect that this will contribute to saving precious lives. I appreciate your courage to pioneer this effort. … I simply cannot express to you the healing that is already taking place in the world by having these videos available. I have already experienced some healing.

I read about this in the paper today, and I was really excited. I am not a Christian myself, but it’s good to know there are Christians out there like this. One of the reasons I quit Christianity was the hostility toward the LGBTQ community. I’m still not going back for other reasons, but my animosity toward the religion has lessened because of this.

Wonderful! There are so many amazing kids here in the Bible Belt who need to hear from you, NALT Christian allies. This is such an important and much needed project. Thank you.

I read about NALT in an editorial piece by Leonard Pitts Jr. in my local paper. I went to the web site and after watching the various videos I was in tears. As a woman with a transsexual history, and one married to another woman, I and my religious upbringing have been in a raging war within myself. I was tossed out of our Rectory (I was raised Catholic) by my collar at 19, because I “still thought I was a girl and questioned God’s plan for me as a man. Later in life I drifted towards the LDS faith. I had a meeting with my bishop when I started transition. He told me it was acceptable and I could appear feminine at services but that I faced excommunication if I did anything to alter my gender. I told him that that wasn’t an easy thing to do, because I truly felt my gender at birth was female but I had been born with sexual characteristics that defined me as male—and it was those characteristics that I would be altering. Two weeks later I was excommunicated and my name stricken from all church records as well as from their database used in ancestral research. To me the greatest loss I felt transitioning to the person I have always since as early as I can remember was was the loss of my faith. I have watched since my abandonment by what I felt were my basic beliefs in a GOD being used to condemn my very existence as a person. I have listened at Pride events to me being called an abomination and forever condemned to the fires of hell, heard preachers call for internment camps to be built to house those like myself till we die; I’ve heard that transgender people “should be locked up in the far reaches of mental institutions and drugged out of their minds.” It has been this continual barrage of hate filled words that have cause me so much pain an suffering from something that I was raised to believe was a loving and acceptable God and his followers. I have always known that not all people of faith felt this way, but hearing them actually speak out about it was not often something I heard openly spoken. I have always longed for a day when I would no longer only hear from church leaders with their condemnations of LGBTQ people, but that their very congregations would stand up and say that enough is enough. I have have read and heard today, from true Christians, what has finally made me feel a small flickering light start shining into my heart that the belief I once had, and have since lost, might one day be made as bright as it once was.

Thanks for making this stand and going public. I am so with you as the parent of a LGBT. Count me in.

As a straight Christian who believes in LGBT rights, I am so glad to see this. It not only helps the LGBT community to know that not all people of their faith condemn them, but also we Christians who are becoming disheartened by the continual messages of hate sent out by Christians in the media. Thank you for doing this.

I am very excited to see your website… after watching Michael’s video on Youtube, I was more convinced than ever that what I felt in my heart and spirit was true. I am happy to have heard about your site. … Your site is wonderful, and it is enlightening.

This offers peace to me. Thank you.

I want to watch all the videos. I have to say that I supported NALT when it launched because it seemed like a great idea, but I had no idea how happy it would make me to see those videos. I grew up a conservative Christian, and since coming out I’ve had an extremely negative view of Christians. To the point of hate I would say. So seeing these videos, it’s like little pieces of my soul are being healed. And it really doesn’t matter what else happens because of this site, you have produced something that has healed a wound that nothing else could. I think you are a genius for coming up with this idea. It is an incredible gift you are giving as a result to anyone that has ever been hurt by Christianity. Amazing.

Thank you for your message! I’m not Christian, but I have always believe in kindness and compassion to others. It’s great to see organizations like yours that TRULY stress the same thing.

I just read several articles about your group and this project, and I want to express how pleased I am to see this. I was raised in a conservative Christian family but never felt comfortable with the overwhelmingly negative judgment against LGBT people. I ended up pulling away from all things ‘Christian’ because I couldn’t believe in a religion and a savior that was so condemning. The only choice I saw was to accept this view of Christianity or stop being a Christian. Now I believe that the current ‘spokespeople’ for Christianity have misinterpreted the message of Christ, and it is time for the rest of us to speak out about the message WE read of in the Bible. Thank you for creating this project.

When I read Leonard Pitts’ column in today’s Detroit Free Press, I thought, wow, this is great. I do not practice any religion and have not since I was a teenager due to the bigotry, and sometimes outright hatred, espoused by most. I am 78 years old. What you are attempting is thrilling. Here’s to your success.

As a happily married heterosexual who identifies as Liberal Christian Democrat, it has been an uphill battle to stand up against fellow Christians’ hatred of gays. And I have literally stood up…in church…to speak FOR love and against my own churches’ crusades. I have left more than one over it, but I live in a hotbed of conservatism and it has been a challenge. So glad to see this movement going SO public. These are things I have been saying for years. Bless you all.

I just wanted to thank all of you for undertaking this project. I’m a gay man who has had his share of issues dealing with Christians who are not like you and are fond of using the clobber passages. I must admit that the experiences left me with an acute case of Christianphobia. Thanks to a seeing a few genuine Christians, I have slowly been able to realize that you really are not all like that. While I doubt I will ever be able to get over my own mental blocks enough to ever rejoin a Christian church, I feel like the effort you are making will heal a great many wounds. I look forward to the day where I can hear the words “Christian values” without bracing for impact. Good luck, and thank you.

As a LGBTQIA ally I’m desperately in love with this concept! I will pitch this to my Open and Affirming UCC church also. I will also talk to my Adult Gay/Straight Alliance group to do this as well. Thanks and praise to all!

I was just telling a rather militant atheist the other day that not all Christians were hateful. That individual told me that if they aren’t, then why aren’t they standing up against the others who are being hateful? To be silent is to condone such actions.

This is awesome. Thank you to all those who speak out on behalf of goodness.

Here is good proof that they aren’t all bad. They are standing up and, even though I am not Christian, I would stand with them.

Just saw this at joemygod.com and wanted to say thank you. I am not Christian but I have many friends who are and they will love this. This is a much needed site. So often I wish I could here more than the rants from the extreme right who have twisted the Bible to something I don’t recognize. I know this will take off and be a very good thing for everyone. Thank you.

This is great! I love the It Gets Better videos and what they represent – strangers reaching out on the internet to people going through bad times, and the classic concept of “what do you wish you could tell your younger self?”. I hope this will be a very powerful message, both to the gay-bashing folks claiming to speak for Christianity, but much more importantly to the people suffering as a result. I hope it takes off, and that many voices join in support!

Thank you so very much for starting this I am A 46-yr-old gay man and have had bad experience with church Christians. I was raised with the Assembly of God church and it is good to know that there are Christians out there who truly show Gods love. Thank you.

As a Seminary student at Lancaster Theological Seminary and a long-time member of the United Church of Christ, I thank you for this platform to get our voices heard. I plan to listen to the videos over the weekend and hope to upload a video of my own. While I was attending our local community college, I undertook an independent study which allowed me to explore the “clobber” passages as well as interview various clergy about their thoughts/feelings. This was about 6 years ago. I like to believe we are making strides toward being inclusive and following Jesus. I hope this platform will help the world understand that we are not all like that!!!

Thank you everyone involved in NALT. What you are doing is important. Many of the videos have moved me to tears. I pray this project snowballs until the voices of hatred and bigotry are finally put in their place. It looks like Christianity is finding a way forward.

I do not make videos , so am writing my support. The anti LGBT rhetoric supporters claim to be Christian really goes against the most important Christian teachings. Christ the radical taught us not to judge others because our own lives would not bear scrutiny. Christ taught us to love and welcome others, that the last will be first, and especially to treat others as we would want to be treated. I am one of those considered likely to be anti LGBT: a grey-haired lifelong Roman Catholic. There are many more of us who know our religion should be welcoming, not alienating. Someday the hierarchy will need to follow us.

I am a Catholic and I’m NALT. Thank you and know that there a plenty of people who support you.

I’m not sophisticated enough to make a video, but I wanted to let you know that I am one of those Christians who is definitely “Not Like That”!!!

I do not know how to do and send a video primarily because of my age, 70, but I am so glad this website exists. For the life of me I do not understand how the message of Jesus can be interpreted to exclude and judge, though I do see the contradiction when I judge the fundamentalists. To me Jesus was so inclusive and radical that few people have had the courage to truly follow him.

Wow. This website is fantastic. Although I no longer belong to any religion, I was raised Catholic. I am not LGBT, but I have many dear, close friends who are. One of my oldest friends has been with his partner for 17 years — they own a beautiful home, two rescued greyhounds, and are an active part of their community in multiple ways. Another one of my dear friends is planning his wedding in Vegas for next March! Another one of my young friends (I’m old enough to be her mom) came out to me a few years back — I was the first person she told, and was honored to be such. All this to say — it hurts me to see/hear hateful and ignorant comments directed towards my friends and those in the LGBT community, particularly when those making the comments use Jesus Christ/God as an excuse for their own prejudices. So thank you, thank you, thank you for this website!

I hope a lot of Christians take the opportunity presented by this platform to show the love.

I love it! I want to share this with the whole world.

Just thanks and god/dess bless you.

I am so glad to have [the NALT Facebook page] page called to my attention. We need to make known far and wide that there are countless Christians who are supportive and fully accepting of LGBT persons. We need to flood the media with this message!

I used to be a Christian. I am saddened by the disparity between what Jesus taught, and what too many “Christians” practice in His name – this includes the attitudes of my extensive family. I applaud Dan Savage and those who are helping to make us more aware of LGBT issues, including Leonard Pitts Jr’s recent article. I am caring for two 94-year-old parents, so my time and money are totally limited, but I appreciate this opportunity to at least state my support of your efforts. Thank you!

Please keep speaking out! Too many Christians across this country, and most especially in small towns and communities, have kept quiet out of fear of being ostracised by homophobic bullys. The Shadow of the Cross should be a place of refuge, love, and redemption …not a vantage point from which to knowingly and willingly hurt, harm, or marginalize others. Keep encouraging, motivating, and promoting the real ideals of Christianity!

It’s about time.

Fantastic. How do we go about supporting you?

Powerful stuff! Christians, by the power and love of all that is true, we must all unite!

Thank you so much! I am so absolutely happy to know that this page exists! I thought I was alone. I have felt alone for a very long for being believer in God but still being an LGTBQ ally. I live in La Grande, Oregon. Sadly our claim to fame in the world is a mayor who made anti-gay remarks on facebook and the suicide of Jadin Bell. I live in a town full of hatred against the LGBTQ community and for so long I have avoided church for just that reason. This page and project makes me so happy. Thanks!!

So happy to have found your site and this page. So many of us grew up hating ourselves mainly because of our religion and the “Christian” beliefs spewed from the pulpit, and from our families who, unknowingly, taught us to hate ourselves from a very young age. It’s not something that you get past overnight…I still have a hard time walking into a church because of all the pain organized religion represents to me.

Great! Very glad to see this.

This organization is life-giving and life-saving!!!

It warms my heart to think that those who need to hear these words of love might learn of the NALT Project and see & hear the voices of Christians who are Not All Like That!

This is a site my Christian friends and family who follow Christ’s words and deeds could get with.

What a great project. Thanks NALT!

Oh for heaven’s sake. Through my tears I thank you so very much for this project.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! My wife and I will be submitting our video this week. Also, we attend an open and affirming church in Atlanta. Can we, as a church, do a video, letting people know where they could go locally to find support? Or are there other ways we could stand with you as a church?

Thank you so much! Looking forward to making my NALT video! Thank you for this project!!!

How do I order window stickers? Also – will t shirts become available?

I just have one question, WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN!?!

About John Shore

John Shore (who, fwiw, is straight) is the author of UNFAIR: Christians and the LGBT Question, and three other great books. He is founder of Unfundamentalist Christians (on Facebook here), and executive editor of the Unfundamentalist Christians group blog.  (In total John's two blogs receive some 250,000 views per month.) John is also co-founder of The NALT Christians Project, which was written about by TIME,  The Washington Post, and others. His website is JohnShore.com. You're invited to like John's Facebook page. Don't forget to sign up for his mucho-awesome newsletter.

  • SimonAlipio

    Here are my thoughts on the subject. The Bible is clear on God’s plan for each one of us

    The Bible says that “God’s created us in His image, male and female, He created us.”
    Jesus’ own words confirm what God said in Genesis 1:27
    “Jesus answered, `Have you not read this? From the time God first made people, he made them a man and a woman.
    5 God said, “A man must leave his father and mother and must stay with his wife. The two of them will be like one person.”
    6 So they are not two people any more, but they are one person. Man must not separate what God has joined together”
    This tells us that the struggle with same sex attraction is part of our fallen nature and is not part of our original nature before the human fall.
    We need to go back to God’s original plan for His creation as well as understanding the real cause of the human fall.
    Our real enemy is not other Christians but the fallen archangel satan and his friends.
    The Bible tells us that the human fall has to do with illicit love and fornication
    and was passed one through the blood lineage from generation to generation.
    Until Christians understand well the cause of the human fall and its consequences, we cannot resolve the issue of homosexuality.
    Yes we need to be compassionate and love others as Jesus did but we should never forget or reject what Jesus said concerning God’s plan for man, woman and family.
    God did not make us straight or gay. It is nowhere in the Bible. The consequences of the human fall created this situation that brought so much suffering.
    Each human on the face of the earth struggle with his or her sexuality. Homosexuality is one aspect of this struggle.

    • AtalantaBethulia

      Re: “The Bible tells us that the human fall has to do with illicit love and fornication and was passed one through the blood lineage from generation to generation.
      Until Christians understand well the cause of the human fall and its consequences, we cannot resolve the issue of homosexuality.”

      Traditionally, “The Fall” has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with Eve disobeying God and eating from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, if one takes a literal interpretation of scripture.

      And if one takes a literal interpretation of scripture and follows an apologetics path to explain the origins of humankind, as does Ken Hamm of Answers in Genesis, one makes the assumption that God’s original plan for mankind involved incest.

      And if that sounds icky and grosses folks out such that one’s response is: “There must have been some other way that just isn’t mentioned in scripture”… well, then … one’s theory about the argument from silence that scripture never says anything positive about gay relationships kind of goes out the window.


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