Soulmates: Is There Really Such A Thing?

Do you believe in soulmates?

This is a question that girls love to ask each other. Usually when they are between the ages of 12 and 22. The one person that you are meant to be with, the one that you will find because it is fate. What a romantic idea, right?

I think in America right now it is popular to be cynical. You don’t want to show your true feelings too much because it seems that people don’t respect fanciful or romantic ideas. You might feel foolish if you admit that you believe in a soulmate.

My ideas about soul mates have changed.

When I was growing up, I was told that there is not one particular person that is meant for you. There are billions of people in the world and many of them could be perfectly suitable marital matches. Love grows after marriage (I think the Indians in the audience will probably recognize that phrase!). ┬áLove isn’t about rainbows and puppy dogs and feeling happy all the time. Love is work. Attach yourself to a good man and do that work.

Five years ago I would have told you that there was no such thing as soul mates. I would have said that you just need to find an acceptable match and then work at it.

Yet there have always been stories about “love matches.” Humans have been telling each other great love stories forever (love that develops both before marriage and after marriage). And, given reincarnation, it makes sense that there are other souls that we do encounter again and again.

I didn’t believe I had a soulmate until I met him.

Four days ago I married the man that I am certain was meant to come into my life, was meant to be my husband. It would be hard to imagine two more compatible people. It really does feel as though we were created for each other. We fit together so completely and so quickly that it felt as though we had known each other forever.

I think we have. I think we’ve traveled lifetimes together and will continue to do so. I believe our souls are linked and we will help each other progress towards the goal of life.

Not everyone gets to marry someone so perfect and I feel incredibly lucky and blessed. I was happy to pledge another seven lifetimes to Brad and I expect we’ll do the same in every lifetime after this one.

Does everyone have a soul mate?

I don’t know. We may have a soul mate who is not born to be our lover or spouse in this lifetime. Perhaps the person who we were married to in a previous life is now encarnated as a dear friend. I have friends who I think I’ve spent time with in previous lives too. Like my friend Sarah who has been my best friend since we were two months old. My mother says we showed a special connection with each other right from the start.

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Ambaa is an American woman of European ancestry who is also a practicing Hindu. She is fascinated with questions of philosophy, culture, and the meaning of life. Join her in the journey to explore how a non-Indian convert to Hinduism experiences her religion.


    This is all nice and mushy, but what I wanted to ask you was this, what if you already have spent seven lifetimes together, and this was your last time, would you commit for another seven more times ? Don’t answer this now, because people who are recently married, they are still in love, and they normally say yes, and when the times are hard, things changes. Just think about what I just said.

    • Vivienne Walker-Wells

      I lost my soul mate. We put our careers and money first. We’ve been divorced a little over a decade now. We still see each other from time to time even though we are not connected by children or anything. In fact, I saw him yesterday and my heart stopped just as it did the first day I met him on December 8, 1988. He is my soul mate. Nobody will ever replace him. And yes, I’ve tried. In our next, I hope we’ll both do a better job of protecting what was perfect. Our relationship was so effortless that we didn’t have to work at it. I think we were both sure it would always be that way until we, sadly, let so many less important things get in our way. Yes, I would commit to seven more lifetimes with him. In fact, I would commit to 7,000 more lifetimes with him.

      • Ambaa

        Oh goodness! That’s so sad! *Hugs* I wish I could heal it for you.

      • HARRY

        Why don’t you just go and tell him how you feel, because men are not difficult creatures, and they do like the honesty and up front approach, or is he with someone else now. And if he isn’t, then go and try to fix it, and if he still say no, then you know where you stand, you did your best to try to fix it and what you thought was right thing to do and then you know not to feel sorry for your self and you can’t do no more, but if you don’t try it then you will never know. Rather then writing this, tell him this from your heart, otherwise you will regret this rest of your life. And I wish you all best.