This will be a three-part series for young twenty-something couples pondering marriage – and those who love them. Please pass this Part 1 along to someone who needs it and encourage them to up for this blog so they see the very practical elements of Part 2 and Part 3.
Speaking at a women’s event recently, I talked with a young woman who married at age 20, in part because her husband was joining the military. They walked through a difficult first five years, and while she was thankful they were finally doing better, she wondered aloud, “Should we have gotten married so young?” She said, “All my friends are afraid to get married, and they are waiting so long. But maybe we did it wrong?”
“Should we get married young? Or should we wait?
Maybe you’ve wondered the same things. As I told this young wife, I’m not sure there’s a “right” or a “wrong” here. But there is a need for any couple, especially those who are less experienced, to make decisions about their relationships based on good information, wisdom, and prayer – and never based on fear.
If you are a twenty-something couple who might be a bit fearful about marriage (or if you love someone who is) you need to know: Being young doesn’t mean that “to have and to hold” has to remain on hold. If you’re stepping into God’s best for you, and you know that means marriage, then everything else – including age – becomes secondary. Millions of “young” marriages are wonderful and last a lifetime.
At the same time, it is crucial to confront some common roadblocks and ideas about marriage that can cause problems for the marriage or unnecessarily prevent you from taking that step.
Based on our research and other research done over the years, Part 1 of this series will share some bigger picture truths, while Parts 2 and 3 will dive into the actual roadblocks and the practical solutions. (As noted above, if you are not already a subscriber to this blog, please sign up in order to automatically receive Parts 2 and 3.)