Idea #2: Share a specific idea with your pastor or marriage ministry leader – and help with next steps.
If your leaders know there is an interest in discussing sexual intimacy from a biblical standpoint, they may be more open to wading into this area at a Friday night couples’ event, addressing it in married couples’ small groups (see the bullet points at the end for one idea), creating support groups, or teaching on intimacy during the worship service. The key is: your idea has to be as specific as possible.
As Todd Doxzon told me, “As a pastor, I have a million people giving me a million different ideas. So to make something actually happen, someone with a passion for that idea has to give me a practical, quick picture for what it could look like. Like show me an article about it. Or a short video. If I can see exactly what they are proposing, and have a very clear next step, I’m more likely to say, ‘let’s do it.’”
In other words, as an example (and forgive the shameless plug), “Hey pastor, I’d love someone to talk about not only general marriage topics but also intimacy at our fall date night. Here’s a five-minute clip of Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn talking about it, so you can see what I mean. If you like that idea, we can put them on the list of speakers to explore.”
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