Step #3: Create a game plan
The third action step is to develop a game plan for managing household stuff. This includes explicitly addressing routine household needs, projects, grocery shopping, and other daily tasks.
However you split it up, the key is for both partners to view the division of labor as fair.
For example, if the wife is working longer hours and earning more, the husband might take on more tasks related to childcare, grocery shopping, and house maintenance.
And just like the wife is asking the husband to be okay with her earning more, she has to be okay with him doing those tasks differently than she might. For example, if he takes their child to the doctor while she’s in a big meeting, she has to be okay with the fact that he might make a different decision that she might, while she is unavailable. She has to respect him enough to make those calls.
At the end of the day, our different wiring and styles may collide. But this doesn’t have to cause friction if both partners go into it with eyes, and hearts, wide open.
As the apostle Paul encourages, “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong. Do everything in love” (I Cor. 16:13-14 NIV). In the ever-changing landscape of societal, financial, and marital norms, the ability to adapt, communicate, appreciate, and work together as a couple is a faith-filled, courageous, act of strength in and of itself. And if it’s all done in love, your marriage can thrive no matter what your income model is!
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