So men, here’s the key that will unlock the door to your wife’s confidence and security: pursue the lifelong practice of studying your beloved, then put what you learn to work. Read more
So men, here’s the key that will unlock the door to your wife’s confidence and security: pursue the lifelong practice of studying your beloved, then put what you learn to work. Read more
Most of us think that letting a little steam out of the kettle now prevents it from exploding later, right? And taking a few minutes to vent just feels quite satisfying when we have steam pouring out of our ears. As it turns out, though, doing this actually hurts instead of helps. Read more
We value freedom, but in our research with teens we discovered that it is far more than just a “value.” At this stage of their lives, it is THE value. In fact, it is so motivating, so powerful, that to many teens it becomes like a drug — one that they are even willing to lie to their parents to keep. Read more
There are definite reasons wives keep checking in on the state of their marriage relationship and guys, it’s important to be aware of what might be triggering your wife and her insecurity. Read more
Do you have a teen or pre-teen daughter at home? Ever gotten frustrated at her “drama queen” episodes? I’ve had so many moms and dads ask me what to do in those situations since, they say, they don’t want to be manipulated, enabling, or escalate an already bad trend. Read more
Normally around Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to tell your special someone why you love them. Today, I want to share examples of why I love YOU, my readers. And just so you know: there’s a reason I’m doing this, beyond just a way to say thank you! As I’ve done the various research studies, I’ve seen that ALL of us need encouragement to keep doing the routine, good things that make relationships better. That make life better. We usually... Read more
In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing has stood out: the power of a mom’s words can build up her son or (accidentally) tear him down. Read more
Lynn and her husband, Dan, have been married for 20 years and their youngest son is leaving for college in the fall. Over the years, between busy careers and kids’ extracurricular activities, Lynn and Dan just kind of . . . drifted. But not drifting in a pleasant, easy-breezy way; they’re basically living separate lives far apart from each other—just under the same roof. The truth of the matter is that Lynn and Dan feel anything but easy-breezy in their... Read more
In more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. While nearly all men are visually tempted today, and many hate and struggle against the temptation, most of those same men also think their porn use has nothing to do with their wives. They may feel awful about it, but they really don’t understand why their wives would. As one man summarized, “Sometimes I deal... Read more
A friend told me recently that she and her husband were heading to meet some friends at a new restaurant, and having fun until her husband tried to guess his way there. (“I know it’s across the river, and where that neighborhood is…. Let’s see if I can find it!”) In this day of a million map and direction apps, my friend was flabbergasted that her husband refused to use any of them! She got cold sweats as the minutes... Read more
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