I’m going to try to be very, very careful and respectful as I ask this question. My husband and I were married in October of this year. Our marriage is fantastic… that’s not my problem. My problem is the temple. I received my endowment two weeks before our marriage. I was extremely anxious for months before that date, and for several days after I was the most depressed I’d ever been, bordering on suicidal. I have always been a faithful... Read more

I just found out that my husband has probably been having an affair. It doesn’t come as a complete surprise because a couple of months ago he told me that he feels we are growing apart, since then I have had major trust issues(I thought unjustified). He travels for work, the first years of our marriage I traveled with him, but he is only in a city for a couple months and it is impossible to raise kids in a... Read more

I need to get this big weight off my shoulders about how I feel and the things happening in my life right now. In my relationship with my wife, she says sex and intimacy must be separate. Physical intimacy can not be given for fear that it will lead to sex. (We can’t have intercourse right now because we had a baby 4 weeks ago.) She will hug me if I ask and kiss me I think if she feels... Read more

What about adults that cut themselves? Although self-cutting is usually a trend more commonly attributed to adolescents, it is also the case that many continue this behavior into adulthood. Some may even begin cutting as adults. Statistics show that females are more prone to self cutting than males. It is important to recognize that cutting is not a suicide attempt. Instead, it is a coping mechanism that is used as a way to deal with intense feelings/emotions that a person... Read more

Please take note of the new poll on my sidelines regarding masturbation. I wanted to take the advice I received from one of you regarding separating the male/female population on this question. Thanks to all of you for the great discussion on this topic. Read more

I just want to take a minute and wish everyone a very Merry Christmas. I hope that you are all enjoying this special season close to family and/or loved ones. This can be such a healing time with more readily offered forgiveness and love. However, for those who may be feeling alone or sad – I just offer the thought of the baby born so long ago whose sole purpose in coming was to offer redemption to us all. With... Read more

More research and statistics on sexuality: Sexual Satisfaction Among Married WomenBy the numbers: Statistics on sexuality and sexual satisfactionSexual Dissatisfaction in Marriage Read more

Excellent article that covers a lot of the sexual topics we have discussed on this blog. Sex Drive: How do Men and Women Compare Read more

I think that much of our sexuality is driven by our thoughts. In my case, I have a much greater interest in/need for sexual intimacy than my spouse. Because of my spouse’s disinterest (or the large disparity between our interests), it feels like this “need” often goes unmet for me. I think frequently about my desire for a close, intimate relationship with my wife, and I wonder if my perception of an unmet need actually causes me to think about... Read more