Frankly, I don’t believe this statement: “Most LDS women, upon learning that their husband masturbates even occasionally are more likely to have thoughts of divorce than they are to have it move them “towards a more intimate and loving relationship.” After we married in the Provo temple, I was a little nervous to let my wife know that I masturbate, but that is not the kind of thing a husband should keep secret from his wife so I gave her... Read more
A while ago I was asked about research regarding marital versus sexual satisfaction. I recently came across these articles that touch on this subject: Personality, Skill, Sex, or Attitude: What Makes for a Happy Marriage? Correlation Between the Frequency of Sexual Intercourse and Marital Satisfaction Relationship Satisfaction and Sexual Satisfaction Read more
Ten Important Research Findings on Marriage and Choosing a Marriage Partner Marriage and Sexual Satisfaction Read more
Here is a colleague of mine from Wisconsin, Polly Drew, who writes an advice column for the Journal Sentinel in Milwaukee addressing an issue we see often on our blog – lack of affection from a spouse. JS Online Read more
Please take note that I am conducting a poll on masturbation on the “sidelines” of my blog. I would very much appreciate everyone’s input. Please be assured that this poll is held completely anonymously. Thank you! Read more
I completely agree with your answer. I think it’s 100% up to the couple. My concern is that I went to my bishop to ask about it because my husband and I are going to different schools in different states right now and I wanted to make sure that me taking care of my own needs in the meantime is OK. He said that it should only be your spouse stimulating you. No exceptions. He said that because I had... Read more
I have a question for you regarding oral sex, and I have read many of your blogs regarding it. My husband and I are newly married, but we have been having some problems in the bedroom. On our honeymoon I discovered that I wanted to be intimate with him more frequently then he did with me. I took it personally, and it became a problem. I have become quite insecure with myself. It doesn’t help that he’s busier then I... Read more
Great blog, I enjoy reading it for many reasons. I think sexuality is a thing that needs more discussion in Mormondom, and you are providing a wonderful, respectful, qualified resource. I’m a single guy in my late 20’s who has referred many other single friends and family members to this blog to just absorb information. Keep it up, please! I would like to get your thoughts on something that isn’t really about sex per se, but certainly has to do... Read more
I want to thank all of you who provided much helpful feedback regarding how I could go about making some monies on the time I am spending developing this blog and answering the wonderful variety of questions it is receiving. I have decided against my original idea of a subscription since so many voiced concern regarding financial ability and/or willingness to pay on a regular basis. My biggest fear is that concerns regarding finances or anonymity would keep certain readers... Read more
Do you know where I can find an LDS therapist besides LDS Family Services? There is a site called ldscounselors.net where you will find LDS counselors and therapists listed. It is important to understand that the therapists/counselors on this site have paid to be on it – in other words, not ALL Mormon counselors or therapists are represented. This site is associated with the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists. (AMCAP) Like any association, professionals must pay yearly dues to... Read more
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