Just curious if you are aware of research regarding the correlation between general marital satisfaction and specifically satisfaction with the sexual aspect of the relationship. Is there a correlation between the two, and if so, how strong is the correlation. Also, would you say that marital satisfaction generally leads to greater satisfaction with the sexual aspect of the relationship, or vice versa? Or is to too difficult to establish a cause/effect relationship and better to say that the two really... Read more

Have you ever noticed that artistic renditions of the past depict well-to-do folks as pale and plump? This was a manifestation of their socioeconomic status. Unlike the majority of their lower- income counterparts, they had an abundance of aliment and no need to perform hearty manual labor while being exposed to the elements. Ironically, esteemed and well-to-do folks of our time have evolved to appear tan and slim, also a symbol of socioeconomic status. Their appearance suggests they have the... Read more

I’m so glad I found your blog through the MMB listings. What an awesome service you are providing. I think your advice was spot on and I wish the original poster every success in implementing it. I think I’ll go back and read some of your previous questions. I like the way you ‘think’! I have been a little guilty of thinking about the ‘what ifs’ sometimes even though I’m largely satisfied with my relationship. It probably IS just a... Read more

I think we sometimes have some sort of glamorized notion about “falling in love”- that marriage should be some sort of perpetual bliss. And while we should experience this joy in our marriages, much of our lives together are still fairly routine, mundane stuff- paying bills, doing laundry, preparing food, etc. Don’t underestimate the love you do have for your husband or overestimate what you think you should feel. There are some excellent conference talks about “falling in love” and... Read more

Thoughts for a man??I’m hoping you might share some words of advice for a marriage that is deteriorating everyday. My wife and I have been struggling with an issue for over five years and its killing our marriage. We have three beautiful children and my wife is convinced that we should have another. I on the other hand do not.Initially I wanted two kids. One of my biggest personal flaws is that I have very little, if any, patience. –a... Read more

I am so thankful I found this blog! I am not really sure where to start.. I married my husband the day after I turned 18. I did this because I “thought” I loved him, and I was desperate to get out of my house. My father was abusive to my mother, and I couldn’t stand seeing it anymore, and couldn’t live with my dad anymore. We were sealed in the temple and I thought, “I can make this work.”Overall,... Read more

You have much to say on the subject of staying together despite struggles. This is ours- we were both believing LDS members married in the temple. Now my husband no longer believes and has begun to drink and have what I think are very different views on life, goals, etc. than he did when we were married. In some ways I feel he is a different person. I do not share his views and do not want some of the... Read more

I had been meaning to post a comment anyways, but now that someone has found my original question relevant, I want to say how my progress is going and what has helped me. I have noticed that now that I know orgasms can vary in intensity, what I thought before to be nothing, was in fact an orgasm! It was important for me to realize that it doesn’t always feel like something extraordinary. Sometimes it just feels kinda good. But... Read more

I recently discovered you and I have been enjoying reading through your site. I have a problem that I’m not sure has been addressed here (at least not in the way I’m currently experiencing it!). I was married in the temple to a return missionary. He was raised in the Church and I was a convert (of 4 years at the time of our marriage). Before our marriage my husband sat me down and made sure that I understood that... Read more