Quoting Quiverfull: No Technology, Only Outdoor Play Time?

Quoting Quiverfull: No Technology, Only Outdoor Play Time? January 31, 2017

quotingquiverfullby Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife – Children Are Bored, Impatient, Easily Upset and Friendless

Editor’s note: Luckily for Lori she lives in a part of the country where you can surf year round and the weather is nice enough to sent the kids out into the backyard. Not everyone has that option. Sometimes the weather interferes with outdoor time and it might not be inappropriate to allow the substitution of screen time or quiet indoor play. In the winter I used to take my children to the indoor skateboard park, or over to an indoor trampoline place or other activity that didn’t always involve playing outside. That’s the problem with broad sweeping generalizations, they don’t always work for everyone. It’s not one size fits all. Notice that Lori does not mention allowing her daughters to surf.

Children being able to play is also important for them. When I was growing up, back in the 60s, all the neighborhood children would be outside playing until the sun went down. When I was raising my children, we all gathered in the cul-de-sac and watched the children play while us mothers talked together. We didn’t have iPhones or computers to distract us. My grandchildren spend a lot of their days in their backyard playing and creating. “Unfortunately, technology replaced the outdoor time.  Also, technology made the parents less available to socially interact with their kids.” Be available to your children and let them play and interact with each other instead of watch a screen for hours every day so they will learn to have real life friendships throughout life.

I believe the best environment for children is in their home with their mothers full time. They can play, move, learn to work hard and have self-control! If you don’t have a backyard, take them to a nearby park and let them just run around. When I homeschooled my sons through junior high, I took them to the beach to surf after they were done with their three hours of schoolwork. The only screen was the television and we didn’t allow them to watch it much so you, young mothers, have to be much more vigilant in helping your children have a healthy, well-rounded childhood.

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  • AuntKaylea

    “Keep your kids home and then deprive them of access to the technology so that they may never be the doctors, scientists, or engineers. While they may not have have any skills to contribute to their world, or even to build professional careers, the many memories of surfing instead of learning what everyone else knows will bring them comfort in their poverty. “

  • Nea

    Okay, make sure that your children are ignorant of basic technology that their peers use. That’ll guarantee that they’ll never be behind their peers and they’ll “just know” know to regulate their interactions with that technology when-not-if they have it. There’s no way this plan could fail!

    Nor were there parents who kicked their kids out of the house for reading too much when they “should be out running around on this nice day” before there was personal technology. Nope. Never.

  • Friend

    I spend more time with teens than with smaller kids, so the concerns about brain development and socialization are somewhat different. HOWEVER, what she writes is just plain bunk. Phones have not replaced family, friends, and the outdoors.

    Every teen I know has a cell phone, and every teen I know is incredibly busy with school and activities. Plenty of teens play sports or dance year round, and they have phones. They are physically fit and socially active. Since they can talk and text with friends, they spend less time driving around in packs, and less time isolated.

    And a word about phones and safety. Tracking software and “find my phone” features help countless parents keep track of their kids–and vice versa. In recent months, teens in my neighborhood have used their cell phones to tell their parents 1) the car won’t start, what do I do, 2) I was just in a fender-bender, did I say and do all the right things, 3) the gym was closed, so we’re driving to a different gym if that’s OK, 4) the house is on fire, but we all got out and called 911.

    Please reread #4.

    (Edited to clarify.)

  • Friend

    I’m sure parents in the past griped about Johnny spendin’ too much time on the porch with his gol-dern whittlin’.

  • Friend

    Nice. The New International Version. 😉

  • SAO

    3 hours after my son is home from school, it’s dark. He’s in HS, so he has several hours a day, but beach afterwards would require a flashlight.

  • pagankitty

    I love how she brags that her junior high kids only did 3 hours of school work a day so that she could let them surf for the rest of day. There’s no way this damaged their education. She’s definitely a better mom than moms who let their kids learn terrible terrible things like computer programming. All that screen time. How will those programmers adjust to society and get a job??


  • AFo

    But won’t letting them outside potentially expose them to those evil secular kids and their sinful “fun” activities?

    Seriously, I wonder how these kids react to seeing “normal” kids doing all the things they’re not allowed to and not immediately getting struck down by an angry God. I don’t think I’d be able to handle that kind of cognitive dissonance.

  • Finding Home

    I like how she just assumes that most people have a big backyard, but the ones who don’t probably live near a wonderful park. Christianity is just for middle-class to wealthy people in well-maintained subdivisions, I guess.

  • TLC

    Recalling a former co-worker’s story about growing up in Spanish Harlem, NY in the 1970s. Because their neighborhood was so dangerous, playing outside was not an option. Her dad took them all up to the roof of their apartment building for an hour every Sunday, and that was it for their outdoor time every week.

    Lori, not everyone lives in suburban white privilege like you do. Sometimes staying inside with technology (if you can afford it) is better than going outside and dodging bullets.

  • Nadja

    With Lori always comes back to the same thing. She only knows her reality and can’t comprehense nor imagine that people’s lives are different than the hers. For example widow parents living in a flat with not help available, kids with disabilities. That’s what sheltered life does to people.

  • ShinyZubat

    “…learn to have real life friendships…”

    Ooooh, I always love that one. Did you all know that it’s impossible to get to know someone unless you physically are with them in person?

    Growing up, my husband and I went to all the same schools since middle school. We saw each other every day, pretty much. But it wasn’t until we started chatting on AIM every night that our acquaintanceship really blossomed into a friendship, and eventually turned into something more. If it wasn’t for those hours of screen time, we might never have gotten so close.

  • B.E. Miller

    HOAs are Godly!

    (Sorry, couldn’t resist.)