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by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – Why God Wants You To Seduce Your Husband
Editor’s note: Please have a barf bag or bucket handy when reading Larry comparing sex to drinking water.
The Biblical formula for sex is a woman makes herself affectionate “as the loving hind” and beautiful as the “pleasant roe” and available“at all times” and she ties her affection, her beauty and availability together to make herself sexually intoxicating to her husband. In other words – in the Biblical model of marriage a woman seduces or sexually entices her husband to come to his well and drink of the waters of her body and by doing this she intoxicates him, or ravishes him with her sexual love.
Now the team effort is that the husband must respond – to her affection, her beauty and availability. He must choose to “drink his fill” of his wife so that he may be intoxicated by her sexual love.
If a wife denies her husband sexually is she doing him good or evil?
She is doing him evil.
Sexual denial in Larry-land for any reason is ‘evil’ instead of the reality of the moment. There will always be those times when sex isn’t appropriate for reasons of illness or stress or opportunity no matter what he claims. You aren’t obligated to do the Lori Alexander thing and figure out how to sneak sex with your husband if the family is all crowded into a single hotel room, or you’ve got the stomach flu.
If a wife has sex with her husband, but does so in a grudging manner is she doing him good or evil?
She is doing him evil.
In over thirty years of marriage one of the things I have learned is that there are going to be those moments where one partner or the other will have sex even if they aren’t fully into it just to keep their partner happy. Yeah, it happens, it’s usually not a big deal, it’s not a ‘sin’ or ‘evil’. If this is crushing his manhood it’s pretty frail to begin with.
If a wife has sex with her husband but does so in a frigid manner is she doing him good or evil?
She is doing him evil.
If there is such severe ‘frigidity’ then perhaps the non-frigid partner needs to actually talk to the other partner to ask if there’s something wrong, what could they change to make the experience pleasant for them, offer to go into therapy, anything, but above all actually TALK to the other partner and consider dealing with the underlying issues.
If a wife refuses to make a good faith attempt to cause her husband to be satisfied with her body and be ravished with her sexual love by getting to know his sexual preferences and acting on those things is she doing him good or evil?
I would argue that a woman who fails to make a good faith attempt to know her husband’s sexual desires and satisfy them to the best of her ability in order to cause him to be ravished by her sexual love is in clear violation of the Word of God.
I would say that a man that refuses to talk to his wife about why she does not want to have sex with him and makes no effort to change on his end to accommodate whatever is going on with her is in clear violation of the Word of God.
God has created woman to be a source of comfort, blessing and pleasure for man and this is why he commands that husbands are to find sexual satisfaction in their wife’s bodies and be ravished by their wife’s sexual love.
But a husband cannot fulfill this command on his own any more than he can fulfil God’s command to be fruitful and multiply on his own. For a husband to find satisfaction in his wife’s body and for him to be ravished by his wife’s sexual love requires active participation rather than just passive participation on his wife’s part to accomplish these goals.
In order to do this a wife must make her husband to believe and feel that her body is available to satisfy his sexual desires whenever he wishes. She must seduce him with her body and her sexual love for him.
A woman who simply spreads her legs and gives sex in a frigid manner is not cooperating with her husband to fulfill the command of God which requires BOTH their participation to fulfill. Wives must not just submit to sexual relations with their husbands but they must also give their husbands something to be ravished by!
In this article, we simply showed the command of God found in Proverbs 5:19 that women should sexually satisfy their husbands with their bodies and seduce their husbands with their sexual love. But we did not talk about how a woman could act out this command and set about to seduce her husband.
Many times, in the Scriptures God not only give us commands but he also give us examples to help us understand ways in which we can act out those commands. For instance, in 1 Timothy 5:14 God tells women to “guide the house” and then if we look back to Proverbs 31 he gives a detailed example of how a woman can fulfill her duty to “guide the house”.
In the same way in the area of a wife seducing her husband God has not left women without an example. In fact, God has given us not only a chapter like Proverbs 31, but an entire book in the Song of Solomon! In our next post, we will assemble a series of examples and principles found in the Song of Solomon that can act as sort of “A Biblical Guide to Seducing Your Husband”.
The bolding above is mine. Reading through Larry’s take on how to seduce your husband will either be stomach turning or a laugh riot. I’m not sure exactly which one…. stay tuned…
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