Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Just Found Out My Mother’s Example Was Completely Wrong

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Just Found Out My Mother’s Example Was Completely Wrong July 6, 2017

AnsweringThis week a lady from Mexico is praising Debi Pearl for giving her advice via the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ that’s already made her relationship with her fiance better. Naturally she blames her mother for modeling the exact opposite behavior.

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Just found out my mother’s example was completely wrong

I feel the need to thank Debi Pearl for this amazing book. I’m from Mexico (Yes, a “macho culture” but also a matriarchal society) and I’m getting married in October, so a friend of mine gave me a Spanish version of this book…I just couldn’t stop reading it! I felt so relieved…you’ll see, I love my family, and my parents have been loving and caring, but after reading this book I confirmed my mom has been giving me a wrong example for almost 25 years on how to be a woman, not to mention how to be a good wife at the eyes of God. She’s very authoritative and has an important position at out local church…now I hope my father finds the strength to recover his own place. Anyway, I had already had problems with my fiance because of the wrong ideas I had about my role in our relationship and our future marriage. I felt like there was something that I was doing wrong, but every time I’d ask my mom for a piece of advice, she would encourage me to show my intellectual superiority and continue to “fight for my rights and my place”. So “Preparing to be a Help Meet” came in the right time! My fiance has already noticed -and complimented me- on the big changes in my behaviors and I couldn’t be happier, because now I know I’m doing what God expects me to do and, at the same time, I’m bringing happiness and trust to my future husband. I’m not afraid of future ugly fights anymore, I’m looking forward to being his 24/7 help meet! Thank you so much! Love form Mexico!

If you could talk to this young lady what parts of Debi Pearl’s theology would you warn her the most about?

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