Encouraging Your Husband – Part 4 Dress to Please

Encouraging Your Husband – Part 4 Dress to Please August 17, 2017

EncouragingThis same commenter of Nancy Campbell’s is now trying to equate dressing like your husband likes is IMPORTANT!! If Queen Esther had been schlepping around in sweats the Jews would have died according to her.

This is a series looking at the marriage advice given in Nancy Campbell’s book ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’.

While packing for a move I have turned up are books, terrible idiotic books filled with toxic advice. One of those books is by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’. I think I ended up with this book in the aftermath of leaving my old church, given to me by one of my former friends that thought it would ‘help’ my marriage since in her eyes my husband leaving our old church meant that I wasn’t doing my job of wife well enough. Reading through this book now I cannot help but laugh at some of the suggestions. The book is entirely written by commenters and comments from Nancy Campbell’s website.

Dress With Purpose

Honoring your husband by dressing pleasantly for him is not a trivial matter! Queen Esther saved her whole nation because she presented herself in a beautiful and dignified way before her husband. The king offered her up to half his kingdom, he was so pleased with her. Taking time for several minutes a day to honor your husband is not much compared to a full year Esther spent in beauty preparation. Esther 3:17 says she obtained grace and favor before the king. Verse 16 tells how he even proclaimed a holiday in her name. Do you think the king would have been so willing to grant her desire and save Esther’ people if she appeared before him as so many of us appear before our husbands every night?

Dressing just for him also shows our children we respect and esteem our husband. My children are used to my daily transformation now. At first, they often asked if I were going out when they saw me come out of the bathroom looking much improved. I used these opportunities to tell them how much I loved their Daddy and how I wanted to look pretty for him.

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  • elanoreirlys

    this reminds me of a story of a woman who did her hair and make up ’round the clock. Kept it on when she slept, bathed etc. Even had wigs to cover the grey. She insisted it was because she wanted to put her best foot forward and be beautiful all the time for her husband.

    However, she had a happy ending–her son (who was make up artist of all things) helped her appreciate her natural beauty and gave her a make over and used more natural make-up– and gave her a new haircut– to ease her through her transition.

    Hope this writer in Nancy’s book has a similar experience and realizes you shouldn’t have to be “on” all the time, especially for your husband.

  • Tawreos

    Esther 2:7 And he brought up Hadassah, that is, Esther, his uncle’s daughter: for she had neither father nor mother, and the maid was fair and beautiful; whom Mordecai, when her father and mother were dead, took for his own daughter.
    Esther 2:12 Now when every maid’s turn was come to go in to king Ahasuerus, after that she had been twelve months, according to the manner of the women, (for so were the days of their purifications accomplished, to wit, six months with oil of myrrh, and six months with sweet odours, and with other things for the purifying of the women.

    Nancy needs to read her bible. Esther started out beautiful and spent a year purifying herself. Why do I get the feeling that I spent more time on research than Nancy or any of her readers did, or am I just taking it out of context?

  • Ann Kah

    If it takes fancy dressing to please your husband, you’ve chosen your husband badly.

  • Cozmo the Magician

    Dafuq? I thought the buybull says woman should dress modest and only harlots try and be sexy. I’ll never get this stuff. Good thing I’m a guy and can just say ‘Yo, woman! make me a sammich’ and not have to worry about what i’m wearing. Unless I need sex… The I’ll make sure its just a pair of boxers I can take off quick. FFS. Are there people out there that actually live like that?

  • Saraquill

    I’d rather go the way of Vashti.

  • Chiropter

    So my husband should always wear a charcoal suit to keep me happy too, right?

  • Evelyn

    Mmmm. With a nice trim cut and a colored shirt with a coordinating tie. Yes, this definitely needs to be added to The Rules.

  • Almost a chimp

    I showed this article to my wife an hour ago. I’ve no idea what she thinks about it ‘cos she’s still incapable of speaking without laughing.

  • Petticoat Philosopher

    If it takes fancy dressing to make your husband not countenance genocide, you’re really in trouble!

    Of course, Esther knew that. She curried favor with her husband, the king, because she wanted to save her people. She used the means at her disposal. It wasn’t about wanting to please him because that was her role as a good little wife. It was about gaining enough influence with him to foil Haman’s hold on him. Weird story to pick to demonstrate how awesome and heavenly submission is.