No Longer Quivering
by Reagan Ramm of A Lovely Calling – 3 Ways To Get The Right Kind Of Man To Like You?
Editor’s note: So while it’s definitely a good thing to be yourself with people as much as you can this is just more toxic ‘Guys are better than you lowly women’ sort of thing. Soft Complementarianism. Why are men allowed to express interest but women are not?
You shouldn’t try to get a guy to like you because that is the complete opposite of the mindset you should want to have. Who are you thinking about when you’re considering how to get a guy to like you? You. Yourself. You’re thinking about what you want, not what would be good for him. (This applies to guys, too).
“Getting” someone to do something means you are manipulating them into doing something they wouldn’t normally do on their own.
Additionally, men who are striving to be like Christ and who want to eventually pursue a godly wife don’t want women trying to manipulate them into liking them.
I’ll say it again: the right guy doesn’t want you pursuing him!
This may sound counter intuitive, but it’s actually a turn off to the strong Christian man to be pursued by a woman. He doesn’t want to marry that kind of woman. In a marriage, the man needs to be the one to take the lead, and this is why the man needs to be the one to pursue. If the woman robs him of this duty by constantly being the one to initiate, not giving him a chance to take the lead, or frequently attempting to do and say things to draw his attention or admiration, it will quickly become irritating for him. He will see through your subtle attempts to gain his favor.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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