by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife – Women Obey Their Lying Emotions
Editor’s note: After posting a bunch of repeated themes that were largely uninteresting this week Lori decides to support Doug Wilson, a pastor that married a young girl to a convicted sex offender. Remember a few days ago when Doug started another fictional correspondence with a ‘miserable wife’? That is the thing Lori is praising and quoting to prop up her own toxic theology on marriage. Birds of a feather I guess.
Negative emotions are so frightening and threatening in the cult. Whoever said you have to do what your emotions call for in every situation? It’s human have moments of disappointment, or feeling bad or miserable. The important thing with emotions are to acknowledge them, not necessarily be blown about by them or immediately act on emotion.
Women are 70% more likely to divorce their husbands than husbands divorcing their wives. Their husbands aren’t meeting up to the expectations they have created and these false expectations are tearing apart their families. Many women don’t believe they need men in their lives anymore and can do it on their own but sadly, they find out quickly that it’s not that easy. Douglas Wilson wrote this article about an entirely fictitious person but I can tell you that it fits me almost to a tee and I am sure it does many of you as well.
From the day Ken married me, I knew he loved me but he didn’t show it to me in the way I wanted him to show it. Therefore, I would be continually upset with him when he wasn’t acting like I wanted him to act and I wasn’t getting my way. These feelings would swirl in my mind until I made a mountain out of a molehill and spewed my irrational contempt towards him in a fit of anger. Then I would give him the silent treatment until he apologized appropriately. I was allowing my lying emotions to destroy our relationship.
Ken tried to speak truth into my life but for some reason I was deaf to what he said. He would say the same things over and over again but my emotions and feelings blinded me to my sin so we would continually argue about them. He was a good man. He worked hard. He was faithful to me. He deeply loved his children and was very involved in their lives but I all I could see were his faults and my emotional lies.
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