Lately The Transformed Wife Lori Alexander has been making more videos on YouTube along with making her little handwritten memes and churning out blog posts plus instagram posts. Sheβs a regular career gal, but her career is apparently winning over the interwebs to her brand of legalistic fundamentalist not-Christ-like version of Christianity.
Iβve watched a few now and the most surprising thing about them is actually seeing the author, and seeing what she is like. Sounds like. Iβll not spoil it and let you draw your own conclusions.
Todayβs Lori speaks on discipline, how she never allowed her kids to have tantrums, or misbehave in any way. I am guessing she never allowed them to behave like normal children, imperfect with needs. No human reactions or normal childhood behaviors allowed to intrude on her own personal Lori-stan.
So what is Loriβs solution? Exactly the same as the Pearls. Beat the child, but with a wooden spoon on the upper thigh instead of a plumbing line anywhere you can reach. Hereβs Loriβs direct answer in the comments of the Youtube video to someone inquiring how young you can start the physical discipline. She calls it βTrainingβ just like Michael Pearl.
Actually, no, please do not hit your 15 month old baby! First, they are too little to reason with, so they are clearly not going to understand why you are hurting them. Youβve just going to confuse a child that young, along with start to alienate them from you, their parents.
Youβre teaching your child that the bigger person who can inflict physical pain will always win. You teach them that violence solves problems instead of reason, that their needs to not matter, only their immediate compliance.
Recently we touched upon the many other reasons not to hit, because it sets a child up for a host of things. From a recent post on Michael Pearlβs post on spankings (that are really brutal beatings)
Thereβs been a great deal of legitimate research lately on what happens when physical punishment is meted out in homes. None of it good. Homes with brutal punishment are more likely to produce teenage criminals. It causes anxiety in children, increased aggression, malignant self concept β believing you are bad, increased risk of depression and mental illness. People that were beaten and abused as children are more likely to be spousal abusers. So many negative things have now been linked to harsh physical punishment.
You cannot beat kindness into a child. There are much better ways to discipline and assure good behavior than spanking. We favored the βLove and Logicβ books in our house. What have you learned works better than being cruel to a child?
Thankfully more states and countries are starting to ban corporal punishment because of the risks of a life time of problems.
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