Lori Alexander Says All Hail the Holy Testosterone!

Lori Alexander Says All Hail the Holy Testosterone! January 18, 2019

Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife has been strangely boring lately. There are only so many ways to tell women to stay home, smile and submit. Today she’s back on one of her favorite dead hobby horses – male lust, as in the menz have all the testosterone like God intended so make with the sexy times.

Too sarcastic? Sorry, but Lori brings out the b word in me every time. See above graphic. She’s one of those people that in a perfect world would have their heads shoved into the paint shaking machine down at the Sherwin Williams and shaken until they gain common sense. One can dream.

Most of her article is Lori repeating her chat room commenters thoughts. They mostly seem to boil down to men have so much testosterone that they are constantly horny, meaning that there are more babies born.

I beg to differ. Women can want sex just as much and even more than men. It does not always have to be the holy testosterone.

Lori does not seem to understand that women do frequently compete with men in sports, and best them. Not football, that seems to call for freakish amounts of body bulk and with the recent emphasis on traumatic brain injuries going on in the NFL perhaps that’s not a bad thing.

Putting people in tiny little boxes of “must” and “should” like this just leads to heartache and frustration. Women can want sex more often than men. Women can play sports. There are women who are architects, builders and in every field men work in. There are men who stay home with the children and love it.


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  • Nea

    When I think how many women’s inventions contributed to the creation of computers and the internet so that women can use their computers to get on the internet and say women don’t invent or contribute anything, I want to weep.

  • Jennny

    So if a man’s testosterone wants him to become a ballet dancer, needing superb strength and control, not least to lift ballerinas….I suppose…that should be suppressed? Too feminine? I had a neighbour who wanted his son to be ‘all boy’ and enrolled him in a soccer club very early, one where a scout from a top club was known to recruit. The boy liked coming over to me and watching the bees, butterflies and frogs in my wildlife-friendly garden. His dad used to roll his eyes and say disparagingly ‘Oh, Nature Boy!’ which I thought was sad – they moved away so don’t know how it panned out for the child! Rather hoped he’d become a David Attenborough and earn as much as a soccer player!

  • Saraquill

    When was the last time Lori studied biology, never?

  • Anri

    She does know testosterone isn’t just a human hormone, right?
    That it’s common to pretty much all vertebrates, including the non-freeway-building sorts?

  • Tawreos

    I am not sure that testosterone had much of anything to do with men building just about everything. It may have helped, but I am pretty sure that subjugating women into lesser roles in society helped make sure that men built everything.

  • Glandu

    or made sure men took credit for everything women built?

  • SAO

    If men’s marginally greater strength, speed, and height made a difference, then you’d expect to see success in life correlated to body build, with football players at the top and short guys like Robert Reich (former labor secretary), aging fat guys like Trump at the bottom of the pyramid. Certainly pro-footballers make tons of money, but college football players who don’t make it into the pros have bodies a hell of a lot more like pro players than people like Gates, Buffett, and Bezos and incomes that are quite different from the pros.

    So, if the difference between men is uncorrelated with success, the difference between men and women has to be uncorrelated, too.

    Building the railroads and took physical strength, but countries like the Soviet Union had women working alongside men. But now, roadbuilding merely requires the ability to sit at a computer and solve engineering equations, which the very handicapped Stephen Hawking could do, or operate bulldozers, steam rollers, etc, which require no more strength than driving a car.

    In short, this boils down to using a science factoid (men have more testosterone) to justify sexism. It makes as much sense as saying having external gonads is a requirement for bridgebuilding.

  • Saraquill

    “It makes as much sense as saying having external gonads is a requirement for bridgebuilding.”

    Well of course it is! How else is someone going to hammer things in place? /sarcasm

  • bekabot

    His testosterone causes him to want to protect, provide, build, create, conquer, compete, be aggressive, and do what men do.

    IOW, his testosterone is such an awesome sauce that it doesn’t leave much room for God or gods, let alone women. Good to know.

  • Friend

    The Women’s Football Alliance is a women’s professional tackle football league with about 67 teams: http://www.wfaprofootball.com/

    Girls are allowed to play youth football with boys, and they do just fine. It’s beneficial* for them and for their boy teammates. A few girls have played on boys’ high school teams.

    So far no women in the NFL, except one assistant coach and one zebra.

    *barring injury

    /sports rant

  • Friend

    I’m tempted to write that testosterone turns men into robots who erase records of women’s contributions, starting with Mary Magdalene as the first apostle. But really, what does Lori mean by saying that men are the ones who “build cultures”? That takes away part of her argument about women’s satisfying role at home, and erases women’s direct contributions to culture. It’s also just a little too compatible with notions of the superiority of European high culture, but I don’t want to read too much into her hasty scribblings.

  • Allison the Great

    Lori’s never studied Jack Shit.

  • katiehippie

    And women have it too.

  • AFo

    Lori once again reveals her ignorance. Girls have competed in traditionally “masculine” sports such as football or wrestling. Women have also made lots of contributions to civilizations. Elizabeth I is widely considered the greatest English monarch who ever lived, Empress Theodora ruled the Byzantine Empire alongside Justinian as an equal, and that’s just two examples. If Lori actually read something other than her chat room, she’d be much better off.

  • Samantha Vimes

    So, my PCOS was a sign from God that I was allowed to go out and compete and build cities and stuff, right? Special get-out-of-second-class-status card?

  • MuttsRule

    How have Lori and her groupies missed out on the wise words of Robert W. Patterson, the Trump SSA official now under fire for extolling the miraculous benefits of semen for women . He wrote that if women wanted to find Mr. Right, they should toss their birth control pills which reduce a woman’s “natural sense of attraction to men who would be a good biological match and enable her to conceive easily and bear healthy children.” Also, they shouldn’t let the man wear a condom, “lest they miss out on beneficial chemicals found in semen.” that have been scientifically shown to elevate the woman’s mood and self esteem. And “semen-exposed women” do better with concentration and cognition!

  • Lucy

    For that matter, if that strength gap (which appears to be women on average having about 90% the strength of the men if you go by current sports performance records) mattered that much in a fight, you wouldn’t ever see single predators taking down significantly larger prey (like, say, a lion vs. a wildebeest, which is about twice its size and just as muscular), because that predator would always lose. So the lack of women in certain areas of the military is likely because not just strength disadvantage, but because marginalization adds a whole extra burden of stress on top of training already designed to make one quit – and for that matter, elite special forces (which are more likely to favor training designed to make one quit) seem to have fewer black men as well than other parts of the military (not just a complete lack of women), which suggests that marginalization stress is probably a big reason why women as well have it hard in such programs – in effect, the marginalized person, be they female or of another race (or both) is having a much harder training course, stress-wise, than a white man is. Because marginalization is a heck of a mental burden to carry – it’s nothing to do with the person’s mental fortitude.

  • Lucy

    I kind of wonder, what journal did Patterson get those (bullshit) studies out of?

    Seriously, I think we can say that the source he got those studies out of would likely be more appropriately termed “his ass”. Or even “his dick”.

  • Mel

    Plus, the higher testosterone level in men brings a lot of dangers to men. Like a shorter lifespan (when women have access to OB/GYN care). Like a much higher risk of being murdered or committing suicide.

    Let’s be honest – most people throughout history have had the same life trajectory. They were born, worked hard for most of their lives then died. They were mourned by a tiny sub-section of the human race and were then forgotten. This sounds a bit grim – but it’s really rather liberating. Most of us live extremely average lives – and that’s fine.

  • MuttsRule

    There is a study, which the scientific world has totally ignored (although the tabloids loved it). Here’s a short critique:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unique-everybody-else/201209/semen-antidepressant-think-again

    Also, when looking for this on Google, I noticed that some wags were reasoning that if this is true, then oral sex must be the best way to get all those amazing chemicals, which would scandalize the fundagelicals

  • Friend

    Katherine the Great, Elizabeth II, Cleopatra, Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gandhi, Queen Victoria… Like them or not, they have wielded power.

  • Friend

    TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI! TMI!

  • Friend

    #nevermind
    #notascientist

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Average lives kind of rock! I was thinking about that earlier while preparing tomorrow’s post about someone’s dirty little secret. It’s a big secret. I started thinking about how boring my life is that my big dirty little secret is that I allowed my drivers license to accidentally lapse for two months last year. Boring can be safer.

  • lady_black

    Actually, semen makes me itch and burn. Robert can keep it.

  • lady_black

    I’m so sorry. That disease also messes with insulin sensitivity, big time. Make sure you’re treated by someone who knows what they’re doing.

  • lady_black

    Boring is GOOD! There’s a Chinese curse that goes like this: May you live in interesting times.

  • Jennny

    Yes, I’m old enough to remember a time before gadgets like electric screwdrivers, drills and many more that we take for granted and buy cheaply in any hardware store. My dad died when I was 15, and left me and my mother in a dilapidated house with little income, so we had to learn how to do essential maintenance. The gradual appearance of electrical tools was almost a modern miracle to me, I can do most DIY jobs with them, having weak wrists doesn’t matter. My DD, a doctoral student lived in a ramshackle hostel scheduled for demolition shortly. She’d learned DIY skills from me, and other students would knock on her door asking her to fix a window catch or the leaky communal shower. They thought she had some sort of paid janitorial roll there because she could automatically fix things when bits dropped off around them!!

  • Petticoat Philosopher

    That and/or just decided that it wasn’t important.

  • persephone

    My life may appear pretty standard, but it hasn’t been. I would be very happy to have had a lot less interesting.

  • persephone

    I have a basic rechargeable drill, and it is the best. So much easier and faster.

  • persephone

    Rejected Princesses and Badass of the Week are great sites for learning about women that make historians have dismissed or ignore d.

    Some dumbass male historian said that Mary,
    Queen of Scots, had no real effect on history. WTF?!

  • persephone

    Women have become allergic to their husbands’ semen.

  • lady_black

    I had heard of that. You can become allergic to any substance you interact with a lot, including semen. Given the symptoms, I probably am allergic.