Violence is Okay Because it is ‘Manly’?

Violence is Okay Because it is ‘Manly’? January 21, 2019

Screen cap from the Gillette ad

A very short post today. This popped up on my Facebook the other day in response to The Transformed Wife Lori Alexander’s complaining over the Gillette ad we’ve talked about several times now. From one Vaughn Ohlman,  the author of that silly courtship book ‘What Are You Doing?’, blog filled with bad marriage advice and attempted marry them off seminar. He is reacting to the Gillette ad now with this:

How is this even slightly socially acceptable? Hitting the wife? Killing an intruder? Violence is wrong. Self defense violence has no place being glorified, even if it has a place. This seems to be a feature, not a bug in the more conservative versions of Christianity, this love of violence as manly.

He is openly excusing domestic violence and spousal abuse as an acceptable exchange for protection. Vaughn minimizes the violence to support another type of violence. Intimate partner violence is never acceptable. It cannot lead anywhere positive.

But it makes me wonder about Vaughn’s intimate relationships and the possible levels of violence.

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Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here.

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