Stop Shopping Selfish Woman!

Stop Shopping Selfish Woman! March 25, 2019

A can of peaches propping up my china cabinet after the movers or customs folks snapped off the heavy ball and claw foot.

This is one of those posts that just gets under my skin. Why? I’m dealing with something related to what Nancy Campbell is talking about here and it’s like what she says in her post on Above Rubies. About not needing to own possessions or shop is just plain old wrong.

Everyone needs possessions, at least a few very basic things. Life isn’t a game determined by how little or how much you have. The trick is to have enough possessions to live the kind of life that suits you. That’s a different number for each of us.

Nancy thinks that the problem of women not staying home with their children instead of working boils down to having too many possessions and too much shopping.

She even goes as far as to say few possessions and no shopping is ‘God’s plan’ for you. I see no evidence for that assertion anywhere in the Bible at all.

Newsflash Nancy! Towels wear out and must be replaced, along with a big list of other possessions. It’s not realistic to think that you never replace things, or that shopping is some sort of fun sport.

Now I do love and agree with Reverend Billy and the Stop Shopping choir it’s a very different thing that Nancy’s reasons for not shopping.

Through the years I have known ladies that love to shop. In fact, I’d say the one I know that is the most voracious shopper is an Evangelical Christian. But her shopping is strictly always for bargains, not to be spending money.

I loved going shopping with her even if we bought little or nothing because of the fellowship, the laughter and the fun. How is that harmful? Everyone needs times of relaxation, of friendship, of fun. It makes going on forward in your day that must easier when you have those times to look forward to.

I personally hate shopping, and it’s Amazon all the way here. Plus shopping in Costa Rica is impossible because there is just not that many things to buy.

Also, Nancy Campbell’s logic that you save on gas and clothes is equally flawed. Gas, maybe. Clothing, no, not as long as there are rules and laws forbidden people from going naked. You still need clothes, maybe not as fancy or many if you are not working outside of the home. The savings will be minimal, unless you go back to some standard like in “Little House on the Prairie” where you have an everyday dress and a Sunday dress.

But it’s the do not have possessions thing that really gets to me right now. I am unpacking the last of my things from the States. This has been a really hard move for me personally. Some of that is tied to having to give up so many possessions. Some to having possessions arrive in pretty awful shape, like my oak china cabinet in the picture above, a snapped off huge claw foot currently being supported by a can of peaches until I can get a woodworker out here to fix it.

You don’t notice the snapped foot when the cabinet is filled with china fortunately. Nancy is wrong. Having your possessions can be comforting assuming you do not overdo it.

Possessions do not define us. They don’t claim us. But they make life a bit more comfortable. I do not understand how Quiverfull enforcers like Nancy, Lori, Debi and others can be so quick to dismiss all those things that make life more tolerable. It’s almost like none of them are happy unless many others are suffering.

I wonder how Nancy Campbell squares her obsessive love of tablecloths, china and flower vases with the have few possessions rule?


And on that note I have to say that is why the updates for NLQ have been coming at odd times. I am up to my eyeballs in dusty boxes and ruined possessions. We will be back on schedule by the end of the week hopefully.

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About Suzanne Titkemeyer
Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here.

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