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This turned up in a Facebook group today. It is a post from disgusting Larry Solomon of Biblieal Gender Roles not only rationalizing porn usage, but excusing the worst of it. According to Larry in this post from 2016 titled “10 Hard Truths that Christian Wives Must Accept About Their Husbands and Porn”
Newsflash Larry! The only things in life one must accept is staying their ethnicity, paying taxes and death. Everything else is literally open to change or interpretation. Including where your line of acceptability is, what you can or will accept in the behavior of a spouse. Larry does not seem to understand its healthy and normal to hav boundaries with the behaviors of others in our lives.
Larry spends a lot of words telling wives that as long as Mr. Wrong is bringing home a paycheck, and not depriving you of sex you have no right to divorce him for turning into a porn-devouring machine. He even goes so far as to claim that if the kids aren’t seeing his collection of “Jugs” magazines laying around then no one is harmed. Then he follows all of that by comparing liking porn to being a functional alcoholic.
“Is there any instance where a husband’s porn habit would cause direct damage to his family? Yes. If a man leaves out nude magazines or leaves movies laying around where young children would be exposed to them this would not be a healthy environment mentally speaking for children to be in. But if a Christian woman’s husband engaged in his porn habit with discretion away from the presence of his children then there is no danger to his children.
Again let’s say this was not a porn habit – if a man were what is known as a “functional alcoholic” where he never drives drunk and he keeps his drinking private and he still works and provides for his family then while this is still a problem it is not something that rises to the level of creating an unsafe environment either spiritually or physically for his family.”
First of all, not seeing the porn does not mean no one is harmed by it. Kids can pick up on tensions in the household between the parents without either parent saying a word. Add in a woman who is seriously grieved by her partner’s porn habits, and not able to paste on a happy face and pretend. The grievous harm pornography does to some men by causing them to commodify women in their own minds. It ruins relationships, and kills families sometimes where there is dissension over it. Not to mention the greater issues of sex trafficking and abuse of women to produce the porn.
That analogy of ‘functional alcoholic’ does not work either. You find that quite frequently these so-called functional alcoholics are anything but functional, sowing chaos, dysfunction and discord wherever they go. Most of them can pull off a normal facade only in small increments, and are surprised to find they’ll fooled no one.
“If a woman’s husband denies her sex as a result of his porn habit or for any other reason than that is cause for divorce. But if he regularly has sex with her but he also has a porn habit a Christian wife biblically speaking does not have cause for separation or divorce.”
Many churches, pastors and Christian ministries consider pornography to be the same as committing adultery, a breaking of the marriage vows. It can be considered a type of mental infidelity. This is usually the prevailing wisdom on pornography in most churches.
Larry-boy is a piggy, a piggy that wants his cake, wants to fondle that cake before eating it, but does not want poor beleaguered Mrs. Larry to say anything to him about it. Everything about this man screams sexual dysfunction. Yet again he is attempting to take something vile and justify it so he does not have to find guilty about it.
To use or not use pornography is something each couple has to decide before marriage. It should be discussed. The porn itself is not the problem, it’s the expectations. It’s not wrong for everyone, but there must be agreement, not this vile harassment over it. Larry also does not seem to understand that there are a number of women who enjoy erotic entertainment as well as men.
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