The Secret to Being a Wife He Adores

In the research for For Women Only and The Kindness Challenge, I’ve seen an overlooked, seemingly old-fashioned secret. If you want to be a wife that your husband adores, practice using an affirming tone and eliminating a contentious one. Tweet… Read more

What You Need to Do Before You Have Sex With Your Wife

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready to cool off and mend the relationship. What better way to make up than to spend a little intimate time together, right? Just one little problem, though: physical intimacy is the farthest thing from her mind. What’s the deal? Tweet this: “For a woman, physical intimacy isn’t usually the solution to a problem, but rather, evidence that it’s been resolved.” For a woman, physical intimacy… Read more

The Most Horrifying Current Terrorism Event You Don’t Know About

Friends, normally, I stick to relationship content. But I think everyone needs to be aware of a recent terror incident in Egypt. Although the Manchester and London terrorist attacks were horrifying, and I’m grateful for the outpouring of support to those families and those cities, I paid far more attention to those incidents than one I also heard mentioned in the news. I never even sought out more information. The media never featured it. Yet it was far more personally… Read more

These Four Phrases Will Make You a Hero to Your Wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife happy. And in many ways you already do! But if you want to hit the happiness jackpot, here are the four phrases that (in roughly… Read more

You Need to Know These 4 Pitfalls for Teenage Boys

Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still wasn’t quite ready when my pre-teen son began struggling with the same visual temptations as everyone else! In honor of all boys… Read more

How to Respect An Imperfect Husband

Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about in your book For Women Only. How do I do that? My husband has a huge amount of pride and is unable to accept any criticism or failure on his part; he always throws mistakes back on me. I can’t help but see him as irresponsible and prideful at times. I know that I have delivered some harsh criticism to him over the 14 years of… Read more

This One Sneaky Trap Will Kill Your Marriage

“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I can’t tell you how often I have heard that phrase. Most recently last weekend, after the worship services at a mega church in the Midwest. The pastor had interviewed me as the sermon on Restoring Hope for Marriage, and asked what my research shows are the most crucial marital actions to do – and to avoid. Afterward, several people told us they wished they hadn’t… Read more

Here Is the Simple Key to Kindness and Joy

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all… [W]hatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”  — Philippians 4:4-5, 8 (NIV) Picture this common scenario. You have been at odds with your spouse or roommate for a few months.  Sometimes things are okay, but tension, irritation and frustration are still much more… Read more

3 Things Beneath Your Husband’s Desire for Sex

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.”  We women may think sex is just a physical need for a guy, but that’s not most of what is going on. When his wife responds to him – or initiates it herself! – it meets a deep emotional need to feel that his wife desires him. 2. “I love you and want to be closer to you.”  We women want to feel close outside the… Read more

One simple choice will make you a kinder person

Here’s the good news: If you want to be a kind person, the quickest way to get there is to build a habit of praising others regularly. Here’s the bad news: You already think you do have that habit… but you probably don’t. You don’t express affirmation nearly as often as you think. A few summers ago, our family was out in the countryside at a Fourth of July fair. It was a popular affair with games, music, food booths,… Read more

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