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  • Diana A.


  • John G Slawson via Facebook

    She is a beautiful girl. There is no question that she should have as much love and support as is needed!! God’s blessings to her and her loved ones!!

  • DR

    This made me cry and challenged me to really reflect on how honest I’m being with myself and with the people in my life and mostly, with God. While I’m straight, those of you that suffer at the hands of just simply being known are such an example to me.

    May you continue to experience the peace that passes all understanding. Thank you for reminding me that peace comes with a price.

  • Joanne

    Heroines are those who tell the truth to power, no matter the consequences. It is frightening to some people to accept change – and to accept that the world and how we have viewed it might be very different than we thought. I grew up with one simple statement that hung in my room for decades: God doesn’t make junk. It is that simple.

    I hope all parents accept all of their children with only love in their hearts. Its really the only job a parent has when a child is grown and making their way int he world.

  • Karin

    You are a brave and beautiful woman, Fang-yi. Thank you for sharing your life with us here. God loves ALL of us. 🙂

  • Jill Sophia via Facebook

    Loved and shared!

  • Adara Pallady

    My prayers go with you Fang-yi. You have a lovely soul.

  • Barb

    God be with you and your family, may they will come around soon. God loves *all* his children and when they were created he pronounced them ‘very good’. Love to you!

  • Rhea


    It took amazing boldness and courage for you to share your story like this. Brava! Continue being true to who you are and God will continue to bless your life 🙂

  • Karen Rowland via Facebook

    God bless..I truly hope and pray that all of the people around her are graced with the true understanding that God loves each of his children equally, and loves each of us for who we are… God Bless Fang-yi….what a brave bold spirit….

  • Leslie Marbach

    What a beautiful testimony, Fang-yi! This paragraph particularly caught my attention:

    “I do believe it is a blessing to be a member of a discriminated minority; we keenly desire the righteousness from God more than most members of the “lucky” majority, and we learn to not take love and kindness for granted.”

    This is what I’ve had rolling around in my head for awhile. Thank you for putting words to my thoughts. 🙂

  • Valerie

    I wish you Peace and blessings. You are so brave. <3

  • Linnea

    Beautiful. You are a beautiful woman, Fang-yi. I couldn’t imagine being rejected by my family like that. Good for you for being brave enough to believe in a God that loves you the way you are, even if the world is rejecting you and lying to you. All the best.

  • Right? I just loved those words of hers.

  • Gordon

    “I am deeply grateful that God created me to be a lesbian.” All of us, gay and straight, need to think really hard about that and let it sink in. This heroic young woman is an amazing example to this gay man in his 50’s. Thank you, Fang-yi. And thank God for you.

  • Christelle

    Wow. Beautiful.

  • Jeff

    “Now I understand that if I couldn’t love every piece of myself, my broken heart would make it impossible to love anyone else.”

    You are blessed to realise this at such a young age, and I am blessed to read this at a time when I am finally starting to not merely acknowledge it academically, but take it to my own broken heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you, for your happiness and for the truth of Love to overtake those who have, against the teachings of Jesus, so hardened their hearts against their fellow humans.

  • Wow, Jeff. Way to bring a tear to my eye.

  • This is both an inspiring and a sad story. It is inspiring to see a young woman sort out so much about herself and those around her under such difficult circumstances. It is sad to realize how much work needs to be done in the world to affirm that everyone has the right to love and be loved, (among many other basic human rights that I won’t go into now.) Fang-yi Hung, I would like you to know that there are many, indeed millions of people who support you and affirm your right as a person, and as a Christian, to love and share your life with the person you choose. God be with you.

  • Jean Allison Namaste Stuntz

    God’s peace be with you always. You cannot control the actions or attitudes of others, all you can do is show them what real Christian love is all about.

  • HJ

    Fang-yi, I am a Christian lesbian too, and you are a wonder and an inspiration to me! Thank you for being my newest role model. Also, your writing is beautiful and touching.

    You have crammed so many kernels of wisdom into what you have shared here, it’s hard to pick a favorite, but I really love: “But, strangely enough, I think it’s a perfect opportunity to wait and see what God will do for His own name, justice and love.” That says it so perfectly. Thank you for sharing!

    Peace and prayers go with you. I am glad you are here.

  • Beth

    Fang-yi you are true inspiration! Stay true and stay strong . . . you are love!

  • Kathleen

    I am the mother of a son who is gay and I accept him completely. I hope that your parents hearts open up to accept you as well. I wish for you all the best.

  • Dear Sister,

    I admire your sense of completeness at loving yourself as your are created by God,as being necessary to love another. This was the message that our beloved Lord gave us: “Love one another, as I have loved you.” I pray that your family comes soon to understand that you are exactly a God created you, and in his own perfect image and self.

    I pray for your happiness and bless you and thank you for sharing.

    In His Love,

    Brother Carl

  • Rebecca

    You are a strong and amazing person, God loves you THE MOST! ;)))

  • Hi Fang-yi,

    I am also a Christian lesbian. I live in Canada where we have equal rights and responsibilities under the law. It can still be difficult because many parts of the Christian church have sunk into hatred. Happily, many churches have realized the harm they were doing and have come to a better understanding of the Gospel message of inclusion and love.

    Your sentence, “Now I understand that if I couldn’t love every piece of myself, my broken heart would make it impossible to love anyone else.” made me think of a sermon I delivered three years ago, except that the object of my love was God.


    All blessings to you.


  • Paula

    What a lovely young woman. I will be praying for you and for your family Fang-yi– that love and understanding will prevail.

  • Carol

    God created me a person with a mental illness. I am also a birth mother. Discrimination and condemnation take all forms, and I can empathize with Fang-yi Hung about the exclusions we often go through with some Christian Churches. What a brave and lovely woman, with a big heart and a wonderful way of communicating to us all. Jesus’ message was one of love and forgiveness, and ultimately, acceptance. I pray that we all will be accepted by our brothers and sisters as they learn about Jesus’ love, instead of filling themselves with hate.

  • Amy Buttery via Facebook

    Thank you, John, for allowing us to come to know this brave and extremely well-spoken young woman. I hope her family and her fellow citizens can come to grow into the maturity that she shows here.

  • Susan Golian

    Dear Fang-yi –

    You sound like a beautiful and courageous young woman – I would be so very proud to be mother to a daughter with a splendid spirit like yours. Actually, I AM mother to a beautifully spirited child and give thanks to God every day for that blessing. I will pray that God will open your parents’ hearts to the love and grace of God of that He blessed them with when He gave you to them!

  • Al

    Thanks so much for your beautiful and courageous letter.

    I didn’t always, but like you, I now believe that, “it is a blessing to be a member of a discriminated minority”. Who we are, as gay people, has a special value, because we have to work so hard to accept ourselves in a world where many see our way of loving as unacceptable. It isn’t and it can’t be because we didn’t choose it, so it can only be our privilege to surrender to it.

    I wish you all the best life has to offer.

  • Skerrib

    Thank you for sharing, Fang-Yi!

  • I shared this with a friend who has 30,000 twitter followers so I hope that her message goes far. What a lovely soul with such a brave spirit.

  • Daven

    I do not think that their is a god, but if there was one it would not condemn gay people. i hope that one day people can overcome their prejudice so no person will ever have to go through this again.

  • Jennifer

    Greetings, Fang-yi!

    Love to you and your Family and friends.

    This transition from discrimination to acceptance is going to take a long time for your culture. We are STILL struggling with it here in the U.S.

    The old world traditions are unaware that their sexual piety rules were a temporary scaffolding created to support the builders as they built the main structure of civilization. It used to be important to protect and celebrate fertility and the mating of male and female pairs for reproduction of the species. This is no longer important. There are enough people on the planet already and we know how to survive. What is important now is to become more loving human beings who co-create beauty and kindness and intelligence. This was why Jesus came to Earth in the first place. Not to tell people to keep being fruitful and multiplying and to keep struggling against the elements and enemies and eating their food by the sweat of their brows. All that has been established already. He brought a new phase of being human that is more subtle and more amazing and so much more exciting!

    Who knows how many different ways human beings can love?! More is better! The Early Church was not dealing with the kind of loving relationship that you have with your girlfriend. They were dealing with sexual exploitation, manipulation and domination; the true essence of corruption and evil. With those nasty elements removed, homosexuality poses NO THREAT TO ANYONE!! And while we’re at it, heterosexuality could benefit from having those elements removed as well!! The “heterosexual lifestyle” is where the most corruption and evil are located, simply because it is more common – and the church is notoriously negligent about improving its behavior in this area! It has and still does sanction kidnapping, incest, child-molestation, slavery, brutality, rape and even murder in heterosexual relationships – something that Jesus AND Paul would be furious about and never tolerate!

    This time of trial will pass for us as a species, even if many of us live and die before we see the end of it. Our part is to take our spiritual development forward in the place we find ourselves and at the very least, keep the ground we have gained. You are a friend of God. And God is our Friend. Love will endure.



    I’m not homosexual or bi-sexual.

  • Mindy

    Kudos, to you, Fang-Yi, for your courage and your thoughtful assessment of your situation – mostly, for continuing to love your family, even as they hurt you by rejecting you, probably the most intensely pain they could deliver you.

    I see your beautiful face and in it I see reflected the women I hope my daughters (adopted from China) will become. I read your words and can only hope that as they grow up, they will remain as open and loving and true to themselves as you are. I hope your parents ultimately learn what a true blessing you are – their daughter who understands Jesus’ message probably better than anyone else they know.

    Thank you for sharing your story here. The LGBT people in my life will surely appreciate it when I share it with them!

  • Lee Walker

    Dear sweet sister in Christ,

    Thank you for your brave love of Christ and the Church to put yourself out front as a spokesperson for so many of us. Are you familiar with Pastor Joseph Chang of True Light Gospel Church in Taipei? He, his partner, and several members of his church toured the U. S. last year and they spoke and sang at my church here in Houston, Texas. I know he could put you in touch with many other gay & lesbian Christian Taiwanese there.

    God bless and keep and protect you!

  • Mindy

    Wow, Jennifer. I love this. What a great comment.

  • Lee Walker via Facebook

    I hope she will get in touch with Pastor Joseph Chang, here on facebook!

  • Sonia Newton-Shostakovich via Facebook

    What an utterly beautiful testimony.

  • K.E.

    Fang-yi, thank you so much for your courageous letter. It takes a great deal of heart and strength to write the way you did, with that level of honesty and transparency, and put it out there for the world to see.

    What I admire most is the thread of love that carries through your entire writing – you never hatefully condemned or slammed anyone who has wronged you, even though nobody would have faulted you if you had. Instead of using words of anger and hate, you showed understanding and a loving nature – something Jesus would be quite proud of, I suspect.

    I sincerely hope that your family learns how to accept you for who you are, all of the person you are. You have shown yourself to be a kind, thoughtful, intelligent young woman and they have all the reason in the world to be proud of you! Good luck to you in everything you do in the future.



  • theresa

    As a mother and a Christian, I pray for you, your partner, and perhaps most of all, for your parents. I pray that their eyes will be opened, and that they will realize that you are a good and decent and kind person, and THAT is what matters most. I wish I could give you a mother’s hug, and tell you that you are right. You are the person God made, and that is a good thing.

  • Paul Schroder

    This must be what it’s like to be homosexual in the southern U.S.A. You are a very courageous woman. You may lose the love of your biological family due to their fundamentalist beliefs but you will gain a new family of those that can love you more unconditionally. Follow your love of Christ and believe that you are who you were made to be. God loves you because God made you. And I love you because of your courage, openness and honesty. Keep being an inspiration to others.

  • What a grace-filled story you share, Fang-yi. I truly hope you feel embraced by our love for you. This love comes from God and it will continue to strengthen you on your journey.

  • Jackie Weiss

    Blessings to you Fang-yi and many prayers of thanks that you have found your true self and are a beacon of strength to others who find themselves struggling to share their true selves with their family, friends, church and the world. May your shining example of bravery and self-discovery convince others to do the same and find compassion and share loving-kindness with the LGBT community.

  • Lucinda Martin via Facebook

    Thank you for sharing your story. What bravery you have shown. Blessings from Phoenix, Arizona.

  • Mary

    God bless you, Fang-Yi for your honesty & courage! I will pray for your family that their love for you will transcend any differences you have about your sexuality. I admire your strength & I know that God has something very special in store for you. From one Christian to another: May the peace that passes all understanding keep your minds & hearts in Christ Jesus.

  • Anne Kinney

    Though it may sound like a bumper sticker it’s also true; “God doesn’t make mistakes!” You are exactly who and how God created you. Perhaps your family can’t see beyond your sexuality but everyone here who has read your words CAN. Your love and acceptance will pave the wave for all the changes to come. You are an inspiration, you are courageous, you are beautiful.

    Thank you so much for sharing.

  • Matt

    Fang-yi, you are so awesome. I wish I knew you in person :).

  • Catherine

    What a brave, compassionate woman you are! I hope one day your parents will be proud of their amazing daughter.

  • Elizabeth

    Fang-yi, what an eloquent story. Your parents are lucky to have such a smart and devoted daughter. Your partner is blessed to find someone with such an open heart. You’re a true leader to all of us.

  • Josie

    Fang-yi, you are a beautiful, inspirational woman whose loving spirit shines through every word you write. I pray for abundant blessings for you and your partner, and also that your parents’ hearts will be softened and realize what a blessing they have in you.

  • I don’t know how to do this and have it last more than .01 seconds, but, THANK YOU, all of you, who have taken the time and concentrated energy to let our dear Taiwanese friend know that, out here in the big, bad, wild and wonderful world, she has more friends than she (or, in fact, any of us) could have ever dared to imagine that she does.

    As Fang-yi goes, so go we all. A screaming, infinitely echoing thank-you to those of you who get that. (And—let’s be frank—our deepest sympathies that you do.)

    For the rest of you: We are here when you show up. We promise.

  • Susan in NY

    Fang-yi, stay strong! My thoughts and prayers will be with you. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You truly are an inspiration to all, both gay and straight.

    And if you are every in New York, you are welcome to stay with my family. Just contact John and we’ll work it out.

    Susan in NY

  • Don Rappe

    I’m sure your parents love beneath their misgivings. You, like them, are a missionary. You are bringing the message of God’s love, as Jesus taught it, to many people who would otherwise be unable to hear it. One day they will understand, even as they are understood. They may well be proud of you. I am proud of you. John’s maps show me that my town of Brownsville Texas USA. is at about the same latitude as your city. A good place for old people like me to retire and for many, a good place to raise children. We have so many children our average age is only 26. May God bless you and your loving partner. Your picture reminds me a little of a young 33 year old woman from Taiwan I worked with in Chicago 25 years ago. Her name was Cindy Yao and her father is (or was) a professor of physics. I was very fond of her. In the unlikely event you are acquainted with her, say “hello” for me. we often ate lunch together on Fridays because we liked the same kinds of food. Peace be with you!

  • Jean Ehrman via Facebook

    I admire this young woman’s strength and compassion. I pray that her parents will realize that God created her just as He intended her to be. Blessings from Fort Wayne, Indiana.

  • dan(Chicago)

    Thank you Fang-yi Hung for being so brave and open. You’ve inspired me.

  • Much love, Fang-yi. 😀

  • Blessings upon you!

  • A beautiful soul.

  • Stuart Dobie via Facebook

    Go worship and may God minister to you and those you are worshiping with in great and mighty ways.

  • You’re lovely and you’re going to be fine. More than that. You already are. <3

  • Ryan

    Thanks, Fang-yi Hung, for being brave and open. We are praying that you will be successful and look forward to hearing more from you.

  • Ryan Collins via Facebook

    Have a great, Spirit-powered time, and may the Lord guide you and shine brightly through you!

  • Donna

    I am a mother, grandmother, Christian, mid-western, straight, American Christian. Although not ordained, I have graduated from seminary with a Masters degree. I would be so proud for you to be my daughter. You are bright, ambitious, brave, and honest! What more could any parent hope for? I hope your family comes to recognize what a treasure you are and will realize that their understanding of scripture is flawed. Jesus loves you, and told us to love everyone, especially those who are cast out and alienated from others. God made you just as you are, and loves you just as you are. Praying for many continuing blessings for you as you struggle to be faithful to who God made you to be, and as you continue to provide encouragement and inspiration to so many others! God bless you, dear daughter of God.

  • otter


    It is the passion of courageous individuals like you that helps a culture move from the prison of fear to the freedom of the open mind. I believe you will soon have many allies because of your daring and your kind heart.

  • Michelle Henley Matthews via Facebook

    You are what Christian love should look like….go get em!

  • Blessings upon you Fang-yi, you will be great because you preach the greatness of the Lord. Good luck and know that we love you! ♥

  • Margaret

    What an amazing Christian you are, showing love and patience in the face of anger and fear. You inspire me to be more patient with people who say crazy terrible things about me because I am gay and Christian. I wish love, progress and light to you and your partner.

  • hugz!!!! <3

  • Heather Gray via Facebook

    Beautiful, beautiful, right and perfect! You have a strength of heart we should all hope to find for ourselves. Follow where it takes you, and your gift of inspiration will reach beyond the scope of all you thought possible <3

  • InaCat

    : ) I can’t help but think of C.S. Lewis, who wrote openly and bravely about his own struggles with identity, love, and relationships in the context of both the ‘accepted’ rote of Christianity that was all around him, and the deeper relationship with Christ that the true and sincere followers search their whole lives for.

    I commend your courage, and admire your heart, lass – I will pray that God sends your parents an understanding deeper than that of the advertized churches, who profit from the pain and fear of their own flock.

  • Caroline Miller

    I’ve never before actually wanted to reach into my computer screen and hug a person, but that’s how I feel towards Fang-yi after reading her beautiful and touching story. This is especially poignant for me because I am studying Mandarin and also have a job offer in China that I am likely to accept. I feel both exhilarated and terrified at the prospect of starting a new life in a country where I can barely speak the language, but I believe it will be all worthwhile if I encounter at least one person like Fan-yi. She absolutely radiates the spirit to which all Christians should aspire. Stay strong, Fang-yi – you have captured our hearts, and now your cause is ours as well.

  • A & J Roe

    Fang-yi – thank you for being so brave. You have no idea how far your message will reach. Sending much love from your friends in Canada!

  • God bless you for this work you are doing! You are making a way for others, letting them know that they are loved. The world needs more of that!

  • Tara Kennedy via Facebook

    Best wishes, and many prayers!

  • Kerry

    Fang-yi – you have a beautiful soul.

    I hope someday soon your family will see that God loves you JUST the way you are and they can too.

    Here are some friendly churches in your part of the world


    Sending love, prayers, and best wishes to you and your family,


  • Jay Launt via Facebook

    Prayers ascending for you and your witness for Christ. May you mirror God’s unconditional love.

  • Susie Bennett via Facebook

    I am so happy and excited for you! I hope that you will be blessed by this church community in your role as worship leader. You have my full support!

  • Love love love!

  • You are a remarkable woman doing difficult things. I hold you in my prayers. May the light of Christ shine in you and on you as you go.

  • Prayers and much love for you, Fang-yi.

  • Fang-yi, I am the Christian mother of a Christian 17 year old gay son. You are EXACTLY who God made you to be and your life is going to be a testimony of God’s love and acceptance to your nation and to the world. Have courage, and now that there are MOMS all over the world that are sending you our love and support! And guess what? DADS too!

  • Fang-yi you are beautiful and amazing just as you are and don’t ever forget it!

  • Jack Scruggs


    I wish you all the best. I was outed to my father before he died, and he had a hard time dealing with the fact that I was gay, but came to terms with it, and we became closer than we had ever been, because I could be honest with him. I never told my mother, but she knew, and loved me unconditionally. My parents have died, and I am an only child, my extended family has been supportive. I came out at church several years ago, and it was a liberating experience. I have been loved and supported by my fellow parishioners and clergy, and also know that God loves me. Coming out allowed me to be truthful about my life and who I love, and this is so important. Take care, and know that many here support you!

  • Best wishes and love to you!

  • Richard Williams via Facebook

    Rev Fang-yl Hung, Carry out your destiny and spread peace and love.

  • Dear all, you all made me cry so hard. I can’t stop crying cos of your love. All of you, thank you so much. Thank you for your love and encouragement. Every word touches my heart deeply. I am utterly grateful for these beautiful messages. I will remember all your blessings. Oh Lord, how blessed am I! (And feel free to contact me, please.)

    Dear John, I can’t thank you enough. You have my love! I will keep translating your blog. And keep going.

  • God bless you. My love is sent to you across the miles. Take heart.

  • KimJ

    Dearest Fang-yi,

    You are a BLESSING and are fearfully and wonderfully made! (psalm 139) Thank you for your courage. I sit here in the US with a mother and extended family who love me and support my partner and me. I take this for granted. My prayer for you is that your family’s hearts will be softened and your relationship will be healed. Keep doing what you are doing. You are on the right path. Peace and love!

  • sending love

  • Elizabeth

    Fang-yi, you told us to contact you, but you didn’t tell us how! I checked your blog. Maybe it’s there in Mandarin. I was so proud when I woke up this morning and read you were a worship leader. As we say in New York, you GO, girl.

  • Awesome! Fang-yi, you inspire me! God bless you 🙂

  • Allie

    I have a good friend who came to America from Taipei. She is very proud of her culture, language, and heritage, and gave me a name in the Taiwanese language and taught me how to write it properly. Taiwan sounds so beautiful!

    Thank you for sharing your story, it’s an honor to meet you.

  • Thank you Fang-yi I hope that you can find a supportive, loving community that will become your true family, meanwhile we will do our best to support and accept you as the wonderful person that you are!

  • Linda Burton via Facebook

    You are loved. Sending support across the ocean <3

  • Lori Knight-Whitehouse

    God bless you, Fang-Yi. May you family learn to accept you for the beautiful Christian woman you are.

    –Pastor Lori

  • Jess Abel Wright via Facebook

    prayers and love headed your way. your courage is inspirational. your love is amazing.

  • Courtney

    Thank you for sharing your story, I will keep you in my mind and heart as I attend my hometown’s PRIDE festival today!

  • Stacey Lang Lampkin via Facebook

    you’re an inspiration

  • Moxie Marie via Facebook

    You are brave and beautiful, Ms. Fang-yi!

  • Jennifer Vance via Facebook

    Blessings to you, my Taiwanese sister!

  • Jennifer Vance via Facebook

    Blessings from Indiana, USA.

  • Dear Elizabeth,

    Sorry for that, and thank you for reminding me.

    Here’s my email: fyhung1937@gmail.com

  • Lots of love to you Fang-yi Hung. I admire your courage and inner beauty!!

  • You are braver than I’ll ever be and have more courage than I ever could have. Keep up the Good works!

  • mike moore

    You’re beautiful. God loves you more than those other so-called “christians” can begin to comprehend.

  • DR

    You are on the path to the life God intended for you to have. I believe the suffering we encounter along the way is meant to shape that life. You are magnificent, let the strength rise in you now. You have already found that magnificent courage of those that are truly free in Christ. That’s what you need.

    Immeasurable respect from me coming to you. Hold your head high, cry a lot, let the grief wash over you, the pain of the rejection – don’t try to push it away, don’t try to intellectualize it. Feel it. Get a supportive therapist you can do that safely with if you don’t have one. And then be your beautiful self. Thank you for allowing us to care for you, we’re the better for it.

  • Amy Ramsey via Facebook

    Sending love and good thoughts your way!

  • RoeDylanda

    Thank you, Fang-yi, for sharing your story. Your patience and hope are inspiring, and I wish you and your partner many blessings. Holding you and your family in the Light!

  • Thankful that God is showing His love through you! Keep running the race! Your crown is waiting!

  • Paul Walton via Facebook

    Thank you for your faithful courage.

  • Godspeed to you!

  • Josie

    Unless John is removing them, this thread has been remarkably troll-free… Hmmm…do you think it’s different for the haters when the “object” of their hate has a name, a face, and a story?

    So many blessings to you, Fang-yi. You have touched more lives than you know.

  • Melody

    It’s certainly possible. It’s much easier to prejudge the gay community when you don’t know any who are gay, or when you purposely distance yourself from them. It’s much harder to be obstinate and bigoted when you actually get to know someone you may have prejudged, because then you have true compassion for them and can’t condemn them so quickly. That’s why I think those with anti-gay views suddenly disappear when posts like these appear. They suddenly can’t bring themselves to say something callous or disapproving.

  • Melody

    God bless you for your courage and faith, Fang-Yi. Prayers and best wishes for you in your journey.

  • Melody

    Either that, or the more judgmental ones can’t reconcile authentic Christian love with their hardline beliefs, so they’re probably so dumbfounded they don’t know what to say.

  • Eagle

    You are glorious! You remind me of another Fang I know-a fierce, beautiful, strong-hearted lady. God bless and keep you!

  • Kerry

    Dear Fang-yi,

    Now you are making me cry.

    God Bless You and your sweet heart and soul.

    You deserve much happiness in life.

    Stay strong and know that you are loved.

  • Aggie


    Wonderful and touching article. Thanks.

  • Yay. I so wish I knew her IRL!

  • Angie

    Thank you, Fang-yi, for being willing to share your story–you are a well-spoken woman, and it was a blessing to me to read it. It’s not always easy to get a sense of the ‘voice’ of the person behind the writing, but your words exude a loveliness and a gracefulness that humble me. I read your responses and came away thinking, “Wow… now that is a true Christian.” Thank you.

  • Sherry Markwart via Facebook

    “Great is the Lord, and greatly to be praised; his greatness is unsearchable.” From Psalm 145. Blessings Fang-yi.

  • Dear Fang-yi

    May God bless you with peace, joy and happiness!

    John in London

  • Mindy

    Fang-Yi, your update was like music for the cosmos! May you find joy and peace wherever life takes you –

  • Mindy Brown Carney via Facebook

    What a dear!

  • Nicole

    Wow…so beautiful and encouraging to your Christian brothers and sisters, whether gay or straight or anything else. Thank you for sharing your story. Much love and many blessings to you!

  • It’s the weirdest thing: Not as single comment has been deleted from this post. Both I and the site’s Web Guru Dan Wilkinson from the beginning were ready to zap anyone who in any messed with this girl—and it didn’t come up, once. It’s just … extremely nice.

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  • Christine McQueen

    I almost didn’t read this, as I’m running several hours behind on Facebook postings and really need to get off the computer! But I’m glad I DID read it and I’m going to share it on Facebook right now! Everyone needs to read it!

  • Meridith Bloom

    Thank you for your act of courage in sharing. Sending support and love. Christians and Jews alike (me) learn from what you have taught us.

  • Jana Harrison Currier via Facebook

    Bless you, Fang-yi! You are an amazing person!

  • You’re a brave and beautiful person, Fang-Yi. Your simple sentence—I feel happy—speaks volumes. You are an inspiration to more people than you’ll ever know.

    After spending 3/4 of my life in a religious cult, and now shunned by my family after coming out to them, I’m quite turned off by organized religion. However, if I’m in Taichung I wouldn’t hesitate to visit your church to be able to meet you and your friends (I live in Taoyuan).

    Bless you! 祝你萬事如意 🙂

  • Steve, I LOVE your blog!

  • Hi Stephen, I’d love to meet you and hear your story. Just email me please. These two cities is not too far, right?

  • Craig Long

    Dear Fang-Yi,

    I live in Taichung with my South African husband. We found your story to be very touching. We too have experienced terrible discrimination in Taiwan – especially when it comes to marriage rights. My husband cannot be placed on my work visa (like the spouses of our hetero friends) and so, our family is always under threat of being broken up. We are facing big problems at the moment, as his student visa expires soon. He has just finished his degree, and will need to leave the country soon. God knows if he will be allowed back home (yes “home” – we regard Taiwan as our home, as we have been here for nearly a decade and wish to live here permanently, as my husbands family has also rejected him, so there is nothing for us in our native country – only the two of us, together) It breaks my heart to see my fellow Christians behaving so cruelly toward the LGBT community, and towards vulnerable gay teenagers. As a teacher, I have seen the terrible damage that homophobia can do to GLBT kids.

    And it is so difficult to find Christians who welcome us to their church. In ten years, I have not found one. I won’t give up though. It is hard to always pray alone, read scripture alone, and give praise alone.

    With love and support,

    Craig (longcraigh@hotmail.com)

  • Dear Craig,

    I read your words with tears. Deeply I feel heart broken for you and your husband. Yes I can figure out many reasons that you two could not find a proper church since the first day you arrived. A decade, and alone– these two words made me hurt. Meanwhile I am praying– what can I do for you?

    I will write email to you, dear Craig.

  • Wow, thanks John! Reading Fang-Yi’s experience (which was forwarded to me by a gay friend in Taipei) was my first visit to your site. I have to admit that I haven’t been back since, but today I was browsing through it and am looking forward to reading more.

  • Thanks for your reply Fang-yi. When I have some time (and ambition!) I’ll sit down and share my story by email. Taoyuan is about 3 hours from Taichung.

    我聽說有很多外國人住在台中, 我覺得因為那裡的天氣比台北的天氣很好. 可是今天有颱風…小心啊喔!

  • Craig,

    Your story touched my heart. I do hope you both can stay in Taiwan and can find a Christian community that welcomes you.

    Did your husband just receive his degree in Chinese Language Studies? If not, perhaps he can enroll in a Chinese language center to continue his student visa. He’d have to sign up for 15 hours/week and maintain minimum grades and attendance. I don’t know if there’s a limit to student visas, but this might be an option.

    I’m crossing my fingers for you guys.

  • Hi Stephen, how are you today? we did have a stormy day here. The typhoon is leaving gradually. Hope you are doing ok in Taoyuan.

    I am looking forward to hearing from you.

  • Heidi Fischer

    Beautiful article. Thank-you for your courage.

  • Leighton Geldenhuys

    Hi Fang -yi

    I was just browsing through for where to go for English services. Then I came across you. Another blessed and amazing story. I’ve been in Taiwan for about11years,divorced due to the fact that I’m Gay. I do not have a problem being out cause in my hometown and family everyone as well as God knows.My ex-wife and I are great friends now, and that is only what God can do. At work though I’m not out…..hahaha LOL! If they fingd out or already know it is cool………. When my eldest daughter was told[15] at the time…….she said, ” Dad, who am I to judge you, you are the best dad Ihave ever asked for.” I sometimes wish my parents were still alive to have known how they would have felt. A lot has been going on in my life……..I need to sit down and talk…….I firmly believe that one meets people on the journey of life for and with a REASON. About 3weeks ago a childhood aqaintance left me a message on FB, ” Leighton ,I dreamed , you and I were playing in your front yard while your late Mom & Dad were overlooking with big smiles………” Me very interested in dreams and the interpretation/s thereof………..did some googling ………..turns out that they very happy with the road I’m on. Recently ………my partner of 11 years gave up a lot …………[ I always said I do not want to tell you to do it] ………….He accepted the Lord in his life……..and I could see a transformation daily……..inside and out…………WE SERVE AN AMAZING GOD! This morning we watched a service b

    by Joyce Meyers saying that she does not have time to waste her time on being angry, not in line with God, not loving, not doing what God wants her to do……….we are running out of time…..

    Let us. Love , be kind …….be good……..be real…….Be honest as if we will never have the time again! HE MIGHT BE COMING WHILE YOU ARE READING THIS, OR LATER, OR TOMORROW, OR AFTER YOU DIE……..OR……..BUT THEN YOU WILL HEAR HIM SAY…………WELL DONE MY SON………..WELL DONE MY DAUGHTER………..

    Nowadays we try to live by Jesus ‘ last words on the cross ,” IT IS FINISHED”

    Nothing I did before, in between or after can Change what He has accomplished.

    Gods Love and Hugs

    Leighton and Danny 0917 o40273

  • Lynne

    What a tragic, powerful story, Fang-yi. Thank you so much for sharing This statement really pierced me to the core:

    “But the most important thing was to make friends with myself, and to also learn to believe that Jesus wanted to make friends with me—that He truly loves and likes me.”

    I will be glad to go to my grave and stand again with Him, saying nothing more than that. If straight Christians cannot deliver that message, we’ve failed. And if anyone can teach us better, it will be gay Christians like you. I pray your parents return to you and please write again when they do.

  • DR

    I could not agree more with this comment.

  • DR

    I noticed that too. I think those who’d perhaps embrace Fang-yi’s father’s belief system need to keep things at a very conceptual, theological level. When we get down to the actual impact of the beliefs, things start getting pretty uncomfortable. Thankfully Jesus lives in the stories and the impact of our lives. Not the ideas about them.