Marital Intimacy and the Importance of Framing

Wendy Watson Nelson gave a talk at the January 2017 Worldwide Devotional for Young Adults that focused on marital intimacy. As a fellow Mormon and with my expertise as a certified sex therapist, I saw some very helpful aspects of her talk as well as some vague, incorrect and even harmful assumptions that can set [Read More…]

Mother and son bridge the void of faith transition…

The following excerpt is from an anonymous guest. With the spirit of Christmas all around us… I am particularly touched by the love and understanding this mother is able to freely offer her grown son. Many family systems within our midst are suffering with members going through transitions in faith journeys. And regardless of which [Read More…]

Why is the “sex addiction” diagnosis harmful?

Dr. David Ley was recently interviewed by a reporter about sex addiction and the recent AASECT position statement. I have permission to post the writings he prepared for the interview.  This is an EXCELLENT read! Excellent in helping explain that when we, as sex-positive and certified sex therapists, stand against sex addiction — we are [Read More…]

Op-ed by Neuroscientists stating “Fight the New Drug” Misrepresents Science

An incredibly important oped, Anti-porn School Program Misrepresents Science, was published today by the Salt Lake Tribune written by EIGHT neuroscientists debunking the type of “scientific research” support we keep hearing from organizations like “Fight the New Drug” that goes into school/church settings and gives inaccurate and harmful information to our youth and young adults [Read More…]

I pled guilty to domestic violence & now I’m facing a custody battle…

I am currently facing a pretty difficult custody battle with my soon to be ex-wife. With the holidays coming up, I’m having a lot of anxiety about not being able to see my kids. My wife is trying to get full custody. I think her chances are greatly increased because of a criminal charge that [Read More…]

History behind Historic AASECT Position

I was so pleased to see a historical account by Dr. Russell Stambaugh about the development of the AASECT Position on Sex Addiction that was just released last week. He is an esteemed colleague who has a long history in the association and was involved in the process. There are still disagreements within the AASECT membership as to [Read More…]

Book Review: God Told Me to Hate You

I was asked by Patheos to do the following book review: In God Told Me to Hate You: An Evangelical Minister’s Escape from the Clerical Closet, Tom Muzzio describes his journey as an Evangelical Christian convert who became a prominent clergyman but eventually loses his faith due to a combination of facing his homosexual orientation [Read More…]

AASECT Position on Sex and Porn NOT being Addictive

Breaking news in the sex therapy field! “This Statement was sent to the over 2,000 AASECT members this afternoon. It is the first statement of its kind by a national sexuality, mental health, sexual medicine, sexual science or sexuality education national organization in the United States to make a written statement of position on the [Read More…]

How are we a “light” to the world?

Most relationships are complicated… not all good… not all bad…  My relationship with my religion and Christian people in general (especially after this election season and some of the trends we saw from the “religious right”) definitely falls into this category. The gospel messages and basic principles are so beautiful, helpful and true. Love one [Read More…]

Count Your Many Blessings

Happier Human Did you know that being grateful actually improves overall well-being?  On this Thanksgiving eve I thought I would remind us of the great research being done in the field of Positive Psychology, where the focus stays centered on how people successfully find contentment and meaning in their lives.  Small things like keeping a gratitude journal, [Read More…]