The Wisdom Within Us

I am currently hosting a Mormon Matters Retreat… and one of my favorite parts is when we give time for each attendee to introduce themselves and share some of their story, their relationship with Mormonism, what they are currently struggling with and what they hope to get out of the experience. I am always humbled [Read More…]

Mormon Matters Retreat THIS Weekend!

Three hours left to my drive from the bread basket to the Rocky Mountains. Making it right in time to get our retreat started this evening for which I’m so excited! I know we are going to meet phenomenal people, hear amazing stories and share useful resources. We still have a few slots open! Can’t [Read More…]

Faith Transition Seen Through the Lens of Trauma

Why do faith transitions hurt so badly? Many of my non-Mormon friends don’t seem to understand why a shift in my beliefs is leaving me so depressed and broken? What is wrong with me? Is it normal to take what I feel like is a huge, painful betrayal so hard? This is absolutely normal. It [Read More…]

The Principle of Modesty: Why We Are Getting it Wrong

There are many ways that our current modesty rhetoric falls dreadfully short of teaching this principle correctly. We tend to focus mostly on women’s attire – instead of the much deeper meaning of the word. Both men and women should find the assertions we make about the impact women’s clothing offensive. The fact remains that [Read More…]

How do we define pornography?

How do we define pornography? A fairly typical definition of “pornography” goes like this: “Printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings.” This leaves a lot of wiggle room… How do we define half of the terms in [Read More…]

2 Upcoming Retreats for Faith Transition Folks

I will be a co-presenter at two upcoming retreats (Dallas July 7-8 and Salt Lake City July 14-16) meant to help those who have or are going through what we call a “faith transition.” This can mean those who have left their religion all together, those who are facing doubts or questions about their religion [Read More…]

Sabbath Delight

As I contemplate the many principles we try to live as Latter-day Saints… I often think of how these principles (the ones that would actually originate from divinity)… would be meant for our benefit. And how often I have messed up this basic principle about principles — where I use them as a measuring stick [Read More…]

Forced to Look at Our Straight Privilege

A 12-year old young woman forced us, as an LDS membership this past week, to look at our privilege as heterosexual members straight in the face. [Read more…]

Mother’s Day Tribute

Mother’s Day can be both a wonderful and difficult day for many and it’s complicated sometimes to know how to honor the many journeys everyone is on, while also wanting to validate one’s own. I came across the following tribute on Facebook yesterday and it was so touching to me that I asked it’s author [Read More…]

We Are Not the Authorities on “Counterfeit Marriage”….

I wrote a post at the beginning of the week celebrating a video the church released showing a family being affirmative of their gay son and owning the many ways their ignorance and bias had harmed him and their family system. I was so moved and genuinely celebrated this step in the right direction that [Read More…]