Trump Triggering PTSD in Sexual Assault Victims

As a therapist, I have never before taken a public stance on who people should vote for within the political spectrum. This year that has drastically changed — and I am not alone: America’s Therapists Are Worried About Trump’s Effect on Your Mental Health. I was taking a stance against Trump long before the Washington Post [Read More…]

Working Together to Prevent Suicide

Due to a variety of circumstances, I often contemplate suicide. I really do believe that my loved ones would be better off without the sadness and difficulties I bring into their lives – especially my children. They tell me otherwise but how do I get past what I know to be true? They say it would [Read More…]

Salt Lake Tribune Op-ed: Accurate Sex Education for Teens

With three colleagues of mine – all experienced therapists working within the Mormon community and all Certified Sex Therapists – we decided to write the following op-ed after receiving several concerned questions from parents about the Fight the New Drug organization being allowed to present their materials in public school settings.  We will be using The [Read More…]

I’m Gay and this is My Church Too!

With General Conference among us, I know we are bound to hear much about the ideal Mormon family status: a heteronormative couple married with children. We already had this be the case in the General Women’s Session. Unfortunately, this type of focus continues to discount and minimize the presence of many other types of family [Read More…]

Troubling Report is Disavowed – Yes, of course!

Today, faculty members of John Hopkins University published an op-ed in The Baltimore Sun, Hopkins faculty disavow ‘troubling’ report on gender and sexuality stating their stark disapproval of the review that had been published in The New Atlantis, Sexuality and Gender. On September 8, I wrote a blog post titled, Atlantis Article… Are you kidding me?, where BYU [Read More…]

Perfectionism is a Poser

I’ve been seeing a therapist lately for depression. And one of the things she keeps bringing up is perfectionism. I kind of get what she’s saying. But I want to be the best person I can be. I am overwhelmed on a pretty regular basis as to how to go about this. I have 5 [Read More…]

“Virtue” Reclaimed

I remember being taught in YW and Sunday school as a youth that it would be better to die than live as a rape victim or have sex outside of marriage. That I should defend my virtue “even unto death”. That is so messed up. I’m glad to see the change in the Young Women’s [Read More…]

Our child custody arrangement needs to change…

At the time of my divorce I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I was so overwhelmed and wanted the whole thing over as quickly as possible. Looking back I think I conceded too much in regards to the custody arrangements with my children. My ex-husband said things like “I’m the priesthood holder in [Read More…]

A Critique on “The Great Porn Experiment”

In 2012 Gary Wilson gave a Ted Talk called The Great Porn Experiment where many claims were made that do not have scientific backing. These types of efforts to educate the public backfire by giving people misinformation that then affects such things as relationships, parenting strategies, sexual education, and even mental health treatment. Fight the New [Read More…]

I’m aroused… Now what?

So after yesterday’s post I thought I’d offer the following suggestions parents can talk to their adolescents about as strategies they can use when they notice they are experiencing sexual arousal. Notice. Huh…I’m noticing I’m having an arousal response… (this might happen in either an intellectual, emotional or physical way — from a fantasy thought in [Read More…]