Are Mormon Men Weak Minded?

Yet again we see a story where young women are held accountable for the sexual arousal of their male peers due to their clothing. Utah Cheerleaders Feel ‘Body Shamed’ After Male Classmate Complains That Their Skirts Led to ‘Impure’ Thoughts This seems a silly story to report on, if it wasn’t so prevalent in our [Read More…]

No Repentance Needed for Abuse Survivors!!

A friend shared this talk, Healing the Tragic Scars of Abuse by Elder Richard G. Scott, in a FB group I’m a part of and was confused by it. I wondered what you thought. This is a group that supports survivors of childhood abuse.  I believe there are many who have experienced abuse who find this [Read More…]

Upcoming Presentations – Take Advantage

I am often asked if I would be willing to present in areas outside of Salt Lake City. Well, here are two such opportunities!! HOUSTON I’ve been asked to speak at Houston Oasis on October 2, 2016. The title of my presentation will be How do we and Who Gets to Define Healthy Sexuality? and this event is [Read More…]

Messages Teens Pick Up when we Teach Shame-Based Sex Ed

Today’s guest post is written by Maya Dehlin. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Maya is an 18 year old, recent graduate of high school. She received the prestigious Utah’s Sterling Scholar in English, runs her own photography business (Tear Off the Mask) and is currently taking a [Read More…]

The tired question: Do people “choose” to be gay?

Today’s guest post is written by Dr. Jim Pfaus. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Dr. Jim Pfaus is a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Concordia University. He states on his faculty page, “My research is generally concerned with the neurochemical and molecular events that subserve sexual [Read More…]

Atlantis Article… Are you kidding me?

The recent article regarding gender and sexual orientation posted in The New Atlantis has started a flurry of discussion in religiously conservative circles. When talking with some colleagues within the sexual field about how we can respond to this, one stated, “It’s crap. That’s the only response it deserves.” And I agree. Yet I know [Read More…]

Beware of Sex Addiction Assessments

Many people take online “sex/porn addiction” assessments to see if they would qualify for the “diagnosis” that I’ve already noted does not exist. None of these assessment tools have been approved by any governing mental health body.  Most of the questions are completely subjective and make it so that many people could easily qualify…. for [Read More…]

Beware of Sex Addiction Treatment

I have written and talked a lot about the controversial issues surrounding “sex/porn addiction.” This has been such an important topic for me to focus on because of the large amounts of LDS people who have come through my office having either self-diagnosed or spouse-diagnosed as an addict (for usually much less behavior than the [Read More…]

A Ward’s Embrace to a Gay LDS Couple

Today’s guest post is written by Nick Einbender. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Nick and Spencer Mickelson met at the annual Affirmation Conference in 2014 and, as they say, the rest is history. Nick is a dentist in the United States Air Force and Spencer works [Read More…]

What is Sex Positivity?

What is meant when you use the term “sex positive?” This is an excellent question. And like many terms (i.e. feminism, spirituality, academics, philosophy, etc.), it can be defined in different ways by different people and organizations.  However, I will try to explain the basis of how we generally use this term within the mental [Read More…]