The Wedding Dress

The dress may just be the best part of the wedding. Okay, that and the being married to the sweetest, kindest man in the world once it’s done.

I knew that there were a couple different directions I could go with the dress. As part of the east/west blend, I could do an Indian style dress in white. But I don’t really have any desire to wear white and red looks excellent on me. I can envision my wedding pictures with me in a deep red dress.

So, choice one was settled:

Choice two was style.

Did I want to do a red dress in a western style? Not at all. I love Indian clothes and find their styles elegant and graceful. There’s no part of me that has any interest in a western gown. They pretty much all look alike to me. White is boring!

The decision of what kind of Indian dress was more difficult. There’s things I love about all three of these styles. With suits alone there is a tremendous variety of looks and feels you can get from sweet and cute to dramatic and elegant.

I also feel very comfortable in saris and love the way they flow.

The thing that tipped me over the edge in favor of the lengha is that my mid section is one of my favorite parts of my body (or rather it has been in the past and will be again once I do some sit-ups)! I wanted the chance for it to look good. Yes, there will be a dupatta covering it (though maybe I’ll take that part off for the reception?), but with a sari, there are folds of cloth across the stomach and I’m already dumpy enough that I don’t think that will look as good on me.

So I went looking on websites for bridal lenghas. I knew I wanted:

  • heavy embroidary
  • significant amount of mid section showing
  • very flowy skirt
  • flattering cut to the choli

I found it surprisingly difficult to get all those things in one gown! I know that I could request a different neckline to the choli from the pictures on websites: that’s a part that’s easy to modify. However, I’d rather find one I already liked so I wouldn’t have to try to communicate a different vision.

Ideally I would have gone to India to get the gown.

Many Hindu brides take a trip to India to shop with their relatives and get several outfits for the wedding week. For me I could not afford a ticket to India at this time and all my vacation days from work for the year are completely spoken for already!

I settled on Cbazaar┬ábecause I found a dress I really liked. And I got it for $517. Compared to western wedding dresses that’s amazing! (Have you seen Say Yes to the Dress? No one goes in there with a budget of less than $1,500. Jeez!)

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Plus, a dress like this can totally be worn again. I remember a mother wearing her wedding sari to her daughter’s arangetrum.

It came down to a decision between these two:

I decided the skirt on the first one looked like it would be too tight, though I liked the top a lot. So I placed my order for the second one. Bonus: I love the see-through dupatta.

One of the nice things that Cbazaar did was they allowed me to have a sample garment made. I’m not seeing that option on there now! Wonder if they changed it. What I did was I submitted my measurements and for $30-some I was sent a plain lengha in those measurements to check and make sure it would fit before the real outfit was stitched. That gave me a LOT more confidence about ordering over the Internet.

When the trial outfit came, I took it to my future mother-in-law’s house to try it on. I was very happy with the fit! So I told them to go ahead and stitch the real thing. They kept on telling me how it would take a few weeks, but since my wedding is still five months away, I wasn’t worried. They ended up getting it out to me extremely quickly!

Here’s a picture of me in the trial outfit:

Happily there is a drawstring waist, so if my weight changes, whether up or down, it should still fit me!

When the real dress came, I could not believe how beautiful it was. The picture on the website does not do it justice at all. Nor do mine :(

Here’s a video of me getting the dresses…

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About Ambaa

Ambaa is an American woman of European ancestry who is also a practicing Hindu. She is fascinated with questions of philosophy, culture, and the meaning of life. Join her in the journey to explore how a non-Indian convert to Hinduism experiences her religion.

  • Meenakshi

    Eeeeeek! It’s gorgeous! Thanks for sharing!

    • Ambaa

      Thank you! :D I’m so excited to wear this with all my jewelry and my makeup done!

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  • Andrea

    It is so pretty! You better ban your fiance from viewing this page!!! :)

    Here’s a page with some bridal dupatta draping styles; not sure if you’ll cover your head or not but these are pretty.

    • Andrea

      Oh and I forgot to mention, you look fantastic in it! No need to be Size Zero; I always preferred Madhuri over Kareena anyway!

      • Ambaa

        Aw, you’re so nice! I am feeling a lot better about my body these days, though I would like to still tighten up a little at least :)

    • Ambaa

      Oooo, thanks for the link. I was just going to ask if anyone knew styles I could try!

      Actually, my fiance took the pics and the video! We’re having a lot of fun doing it together. I was surprised how little I cared that he saw the dress ahead of time. Shrug.

      • Andrea

        That’s one of the Western traditions we DID follow! It’s also part of Bengali tradition too; he saw the saree folded up when it came out of his mom’s suitcase but not me wearing it until I walked in. There’s that “Shubho Drishti” moment where you see each other for the first time – I am glad we did it :) It was very romantic!

        It really doesn’t matter though if he sees you in the dress, you will still be super extra beautiful to him on that day :)

        • Ambaa

          I’m figuring that he’s still going to be blown away on the day of when I’ve got all the makeup and jewelry and everything!

  • Adveta

    Hey you look really different and deep red suits you so much. I am from Cbazaar and we thank you for the appreciation. :)

  • Adveta

    Hey just check this video of how to wear lehenga choli by Cbazaar – and if you still need any help or clarity just mail us and we will be more than happy in styling you.:)

    • Ambaa

      Oh, thank you very much!

  • Ajith

    Hey Ambaa, Just wanted to tell how much we appreciate your words. The team of over 350 people have been sent your appreciation. You will not believe the smiles we see in their faces. They are all part of making a beautiful moment for you. your happiness has made our day here. Wishing you all the best and a wonderful wedding. God bless! Ajith-AVP (Merchandising), Cbazaar Team.

    • Ambaa

      Wonderful! Thank you so much for sharing my appreciation with everyone. I know in customer service you mostly hear about complaints and rarely about all the good stuff!

  • 5w_haul

    why don’t you take a look at rajasthani wedding dress they are best among indian dresses.
    you gonna need lot of ornaments lol..

    • Ambaa

      I’ll do a post soon to show you all my jewelry too! :D

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  • cheapdressale

    The dress is so beautiful. I like it.

  • shabee

    you look gorgeous !
    is this the very first product you purchased from cbazaar?
    im planing on buying a saree from them :D

    • Ambaa

      I’m trying to remember if this is the first time I’ve ordered from them. I don’t think it is. I’m pretty sure that I’ve gotten a salwar suit from them before. I have so many suits now that it’s hard to remember where they all came from!

  • vencanice

    Amazing wedding dress!

    • Ambaa

      Thank you!

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  • Jannat Bhullar

    you look beautiful in both way but second style more suit you and easy to carry !!

    • Ambaa


  • Laila Begum

    Lovely blog…..and u look beautiful. I too bought from and I am very happy with the purchase…