Balance of Good and Bad

Balance of Good and Bad September 22, 2016

My life has become wonderful. Everything I always hoped it would be. I have the doting husband, my own home, and I’m a stay-at-home mom to the sweetest little baby the world may have ever produced!

The weird thing is that since all these things have fallen into place, I’ve been having nightmares.

I’m not usually that prone to them but for the last few months I’ve been having bad dreams just about every night. And they rarely have to do with anything happening to the baby so I don’t think it’s anxiety over protecting him. I began to theorize that maybe maya has to maintain a particular balance of happy and sad within one’s life and so to balance out the happy in my waking life, my dreaming life takes on the sad.

A good theory until I mentioned it to Brad and he said that he is also deliriously happy with his life but is not having bad dreams.

Hmmm. It may go back to our basic natures. He tends to be someone who trusts in good and expects everything to work out. I, on the other hand, am a worrier who never expected to be happy or to get what I wanted from life.

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  • Sabina

    This is interesting, because I also tend to have anxiety dreams/horrible nightmares when things are going well in my life!

    I think that part of it might be due to my having an anxious nature in general, and part of it is a learned behavior of worrying, due to some things in how I grew up. When things seem TOO good, I’ve learned to try to look for something, anything, that’s wrong in my life so I have some control while “waiting for the other shoe to drop”. I’ve learned to anticipate problems so that I can fix them before they get too bad, or prevent them.

    In moderation, this is vigilance, but to the degree that I tend to take it, it just makes me less able to enjoy when things are good in my life. I’m working against this tendency and on accepting that yes, my life is pretty good, and no, things are not likely to explode (and if something bad is going to come out of the left field, worrying about it in advance won’t help- and things certainly aren’t going to take a turn for the bad BECAUSE I am happy).

    I don’t necessarily have advice, and I think my perspective might be slightly different due to our different beliefs, but you’re not alone. *hugs*

  • Merle Langlois

    I’ve never had this problem. I’m not sure I ever will have this problem. Maybe spending more time thinking about the suffering of others would harsh your mellow enough to stop the nightmares?