January 11, 2020

Anger is a natural emotion that all humans experience in life. Yet, frequent displays of anger is counterproductive to the necessary process of interpersonal healing and problem resolution. Before I continue, please allow me to share a disclaimer: This advice is not written by an expert who has an easy life and is out of touch with reality. Yes, I am a licensed clinical social worker in practice for over fifteen years. But sadly, I have internalized some of these… Read more

July 29, 2019

What is the balance between selfless love and the responsibility for self-preservation? Regarding the immigration dilemma, is maintaining law and order pivotal to America’s ability to welcome foreigners from all over our diverse world? It seems that in today’s political climate, people are mistaking mass illegal immigration on America’s southern border as the presence of refugees who are seeking asylum (from political or religious persecution, war violence, communism, and starvation in their own countries). Some foreigners do qualify to be… Read more

May 11, 2019

To the Proverbs 31 Mom, yes you: Shhhh! Let’s keep it a secret. People think that you are a Proverbs 31 mother. (Smile, smile, wink, wink. Let’s not let them in on the stink!) You are busy working your magic. As wife and mom, you tend to your responsibilities. (Smile, smile, wink, wink. Let’s not let them in on the stink!) Let the praises flow freely. Let the generosity of spirit pervade your home. (Smile, smile, wink, wink. Let’s not… Read more

April 17, 2019

Social workers generally use the term marginalization to refer to the discriminatory treatment of an individual or minority group of people as a lesser status than the main or majority group. These folks are to be feared or treated with suspicion as an “other”. Dehumanization is usually the marginalization of people to an extreme degree. To dehumanize is to view folks not as a different kind of human, but a lesser kind of human, a subhuman or nonhuman. The “dominant”… Read more

March 26, 2019

In higher education today, it is widely taught that America is an imperialist, greedy capitalist, brutal colonizer of the innocent world. And chief among these sinners are white, Christian men. Therefore, caring, compassionate people need to get on the social justice bandwagon to “level the playing field” and fight the injustice. However, life and Scriptures have taught me that social justice is different than biblical justice. Christ did not come just for “the triply oppressed” or the “most marginalized people”. He… Read more

February 14, 2019

Americans celebrate Valentine’s Day on February 14th every year.  You don’t have to be religious to recognize erotic or romantic love between a couple. However, Christians often point to agape love (that Creator God has toward His creation) as the basis from which other affections spring forth, including friendship (phileo love), familial love (storge), and couples’ bonding (erotic).   In fact, the following sentiment is often shared by Christians on Valentine’s Day: Yet, it was a quote about love from… Read more

December 29, 2018

As a counselor who’s been in private practice for almost a decade now, I have observed that human relationships are full of challenges. The wounds from childhood and family members are often long-lasting, affecting our adult relationships, ability to function at work or connect with the neighbors, even our parenting journey. And since no one is God or raised by God, no one is spared from relationship struggles. Holiday blues are common after large family gatherings. Holidays are times often… Read more

November 15, 2018

Shame is a huge topic that cuts to the core of our common humanity. Shame keeps us in bondage to sin and self defeat. As famous TedTalk author and research professor, Brene Brown puts it, it’s a vulnerable emotion that must be dealt with openly, honestly, and with sensitivity. According to Dr. Brown, shame can be identified as feeling bad for what or who I am, while guilt is feeling bad for what I’ve done. Since shame has more to… Read more

October 23, 2018

As a middle age mom who’s halfway done with raising children (hopefully), I have to admit that God has quite a sense of humor. Young, unsuspecting parents generally come in to the parenting journey with a sense of optimism, idealistic goals, and determination. Patience and perseverance are rarely something that young parents associate with the new, exciting journey. Yet, just a few years into the experience and all of us have changed.  Unfortunately the change is not without trials and… Read more

September 12, 2018

Patriarchy is not a bad word. Period. Neither are radical feminism and matriarchy comforting words. Patriarchy, in its pure sense, is a society made up of family units that is led by the oldest male, usually the father of the household. Have humans done patriarchy well? No. And that is why we are here discussing why patriarchy is not a bad word.** According to the Meriam Webster dictionary, patriarchy is a “social organization [or societies] marked by the supremacy of… Read more

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