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by Steven Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church – Positive Only Parenting
Editor’s note: While some folks go overboard on the participation trophies thing showing gratitude for cooperation is still a better plan than beating the bejesus out of a kid that has forgotten to take out the trash. Why are frightening children with threats instead of guiding someone with positive words the go-to move in this movement? If you read the unquoted parts of this piece Steven tells what has to be a highly fictionalized story of a pre school that refuses to ever say ‘no’ to a child’s behavior. Why hasn’t CPS been called on the Anderson family if it’s all beatings and threats of eternal damnation?
When kids don’t get spanked, it shows in their behavior, but the stakes are a lot higher than just the embarrassment this causes. Children raised without any real consequences will have a hard time understanding the reality of hell. It’s bad enough that people aren’t spanking their children, but there’s a school of thought out there that says not to discipline them at all.
Not only are parents withholding correction, but they are compounding that error by lavishing their children with unwarranted praise. We live in a day where people are giving children affirmation whether they do well or not. You go out in public and you hear these parents saying, “Good job, good job,” and you’re scratching your head wondering what the child did that was so great. Praising your children is part of being a loving parent but will mean more when it is reserved for times when they do something special or something without being told.
When children are constantly affirmed, they grow up unprepared for the real world, and they certainly aren’t prepared to come to church and hear hard preaching. Stop thanking your children for obeying you. When they express foolish things, don’t ignore that. The Bible says “correct thy son.” Spank them like the Bible says, and if you are homeschooling them, it’s okay to tell them they failed an assignment. Instead of praising them for the minimal effort they put in, have them do it over again and get it right.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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