by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife – Don’t Pamper Your Children
Editor’s note: Is there some fundamentalist world calendar that causes QF enforcers to all write about similar subjects at the same time? I am finding a lot of ‘Don’t Spoil Just Spank’ posts on the usual peoples blogs today. In the unquoted bits of this piece Lori explains you just have to ‘be firm’ and ‘not allow’ certain behaviors like tantrums to turn out perfectly obedient children before she makes the huge leap to say that those kids allowed to get away with the things she considers bad behavior are doomed to awful lives. I don’t think it’s much of a leap from her words about awful lives to the hell and damnation Steven Anderson preached last night in his post on discipline.
“Gentle Parenting” is the rage right now. Some even refuse to say “no” to their children. They have their children sleep in their beds. They would never spank their children because they claim Jesus is a gentle parent. We were gentle parents but not in this way. We were kind, loving, affectionate, warm, and joyful with our children but we said “no” often to them as the Lord says “no” to us about many things that harm us or are not good for us. They didn’t sleep in our beds (We are both light sleepers.) and we spanked them on their bottoms (We never abused them.). We were firm parents but didn’t pampered them continually. (Pamper means “to treat with extreme or excessive care and attention.”)
It doesn’t mean you can’t give them nice gifts, take them on vacations, and have fun with them. It also doesn’t mean you can’t ever pamper them at home or when they are very sick needing special attention but it shouldn’t be a way of life and define the way you raise your children. There is great harm done to children who are continually pampered. They will grow up to be emotionally weak and unable to handle the storms of life if you do. Boys will grow up to be lazy men and daughters to be rebellious and do as they please.
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