by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife – Train, Train, Train Your Children
Editor’s note: This is in response to a reader writing to complain about her child she calls ‘high strung’ and ‘very dramatic’. She tells a story of the child spilling water on her clothing and oh so selfishly demanding to change clothing right then. Sounds reasonable to me. Wet clothing are uncomfortable and sometimes chafing. Would not an adult go change their clothing if it was uncomfortable wet? I know she says it was a ‘tiny’ amount of water, but she never says how ‘tiny’ that is. But being inflexible and treating reasonable requests as spoiled behavior is it really much farther to the rod both the Alexanders and the Pearls promote?
You see the flaw, go after it by talking, reasoning, and taking the appropriate action to help them to get over it. For instance, if she has water on her clothes, I would make her to continue to wear the clothes and behave properly. After a few minutes, take a hair dryer to dry it and talk to her about how that wasn’t so hard. “Why do (sic – missing word) have to overreact when there is a simple solution?”
Don’t let her make a big deal about anything that isn’t a big deal without a strong, level-headed response of working through it and speaking truth to her. But most importantly, I would follow up with her three times that day, the next day, and the day after to talk to her about that incident and how it really wasn’t something to get upset about, was it?
If you have a child who refuses to acknowledge an adult/friend that is with you when they say “Hi” to your child (because the child thinks she is shy), teach your child to say “Hi” right back in a warm and friendly way and answer any questions the adult asks them. Anything you see in your child that is a bad habit, bad behavior, or anything that is not good, train them consistently until they behave kindly and properly. In doing this, you will make their life as an adult much better and this is what parents are called to do with their children.
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