Loving The Sinner…

Loving The Sinner… March 4, 2017

livingliminalby Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal

Love the sinner, but hate the sin.

Despite what some people say, this phrase is not from the bible.

But it is frequently used by Christians an excuse to declare how sinful the ‘lifestyle choices’ of others are.
“I love you, but you’re going to hell.” “I’m only telling you how sinful you are because I love you.”

I do not believe that anyone has ever felt loved by that! And I’ve certainly never seen anyone change their behaviour because they were told how much their sin was hated.
But the bible does tell us that God’s kindness leads us to repentance. So maybe we can leave it up to him to deal with other people’s sin. Just maybe that’s his business, not ours.
All Jesus told us to do was love our neighbour as much as we love ourselves. Not to go around pointing out their sins. Just to love them.
And last time I looked, we weren’t doing that very well! So maybe we can concentrate on practicing what we have been told to do, and let the instructions we’ve added fall to the wayside.
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Living Liminal lives in Australia with her husband and three sons, and she is learning to thrive in the liminal space her life has become. She writes at Living Liminal. 

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  • Friend

    That whole “you’re going to hell” message is dehumanizing, whether or not it’s coupled with “I love you.”

  • AFo

    People who presume to know what God is thinking or how he would react to something are ridiculously arrogant. He is beyond our powers of human comprehension, and I refuse to believe he has specially told a certain group of people who is and isn’t going to hell.

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  • Christine Sarah Pike

    But I really think that is how ‘sinners’/unbelievers are viewed. To my shame, this is what I was taught and believed for a long time; although you’d never state it quite so baldly, anyone who isn’t ‘saved’ isn’t really a proper person – just a shadowy half-person who is of much less value than a believer until and unless they grow a proper soul (i.e. become a born again Christian).

  • Jennny

    Yes, I was taught to believe that too. I really thought – till I went away to college – that fundy-believers like me and my tribe were the only ones leading truly happy and fulfilled lives and it was our duty to tell the rest at appropriate and inappropriate moments of their rebellion against God. I was genuinely puzzled when a fellow-student’s gran died and she and her family COPED with it, expressed grief and loss, but didn’t immediately think of ‘turning to Christ’ like my tribe said they would in moments of distress. (Cannot believe my own naivety at 19yo – or my arrogance, that the student might seek me out and beg to know how to find the Jesus-joy that I delusionally thought I radiated 24/7.)

  • Christine Sarah Pike

    This is why I now have such enormous difficulty with Christian ‘love’. It’s a very pale imitation of the real thing.