Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 Everything Women Do is Wrong?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 Everything Women Do is Wrong? March 17, 2017

quotingquiverfullby Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy – The Jezebel Profile

Editor’s note: Last bit. We learn that women can try to control without even realizing they are. In Debi Pearl’s world there is no winning for a woman no matter what you do. The goal post shifts every time you look. That is the ultimate in keeping someone cowed, controlled and fearful, never let them assume they are doing anything right.

A woman who criticizes her husband for watching too much TV no longer honors him. When a woman tries to control areas of their life together because she thinks she is right, she is usurping authority over him, and lording over him. A depressed, discontented woman, who feels that her husband does not meet her needs, is dishonoring God.
Hurt feelings are a way to control. Silence and emotional retreat are ugly, destructive ways to control both your husband and your children. Anger, sickness, exhaustion, and even fear are all used to control those you care about. Some women control their husband by having an intense spiritual hunger. Jezebel comes in many disguises.
There are many various and subtle ways to control and direct your husband. One of the ways to take control is to tell your husband that you want him to be the spiritual leader in the home and then let him know that you are waiting to follow. You can lead from behind just by clearing your throat at the right moment. Many nice homeschooling moms are the spiritual leaders in their homes. They play the masculine role spiritually. How this must grieve the Holy Spirit of God.
A man cannot cherish a strong woman who has expressed her displeasure with him and is holding out until he fulfills her ideal. You say he should have Christ’s love. Is that what you want? Do you want your husband to have to seek supernatural power just to find a way to love you?

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • KarenH

    Jesus God, marriage is too damned much fucking work in the Patriarchy. Best to stay far, far away.

  • Anonyme

    Jesus H. Christ. Even the Catholic Church has a more “liberal” view of women as spiritual leaders compared to this tripe. Women may never be able to have ordination and serve Mass, or be given “official” positions in the Church but at least they’re allowed to teach and speak on spiritual matters.

  • Tim

    “Some women control their husband by having an intense spiritual hunger.”

    Don’t you dare hunger for spiritual things. That’s your husband’s job, and if he wants you to be spiritual he’ll tell you.


  • A. Noyd

    Silence and emotional retreat are ugly, destructive ways to control both your husband and your children.

    You need to shut up about how to control children, Debi. Your family’s preferred method has killed more than one. Nothing more destructive and ugly than that.

  • AFo

    So basically, don’t ever do or say anything to try to improve your life or your marriage, just sit back and take it and know that it’s all part of God’s plan.

  • Nea

    And this, ladies and gentlemen, is what Mikey said and sounded like when he “washed her with his word” to “make her a gift fit for himself.” We know from both their writings that Debi once tried to leave Mikey; that he threw a fit when she just asked him a question about the price of meat.

    And now she’s tamely announcing that depression, fear, even physical illness will make a man’s dick fall clean off. He browbeat her (or otherwise abused her) to the point that she honestly thinks that a woman who has any action or thought that doesn’t prop up her manchild-master’s unquestioned Command 24/7/365 is loathed by God almighty himself. That “he for god only, she for god in him” is somehow somewhere actually in the Bible.

    Jesus wept.

  • texassa

    Relationships should not be unilateral. A relationship where one person’s needs and feelings are considered while the other party’s are not is unhealthy and emotionally abusive. The “advice” from these people is ridiculous.

  • texassa

    Right. If this were my only option for a relationship I’d be single FOREVER. And happy!

  • AuntKaylea

    Who has not been discontent? Hurt? Fearful? Sick? Tired? Silent? Spiritually in need? These are not about controlling others, but a normal part of being human. The Psalms are filled with prayers about these things. Did Jesus not become flesh and dwell among us so that He might demonstrate His compassion for us in these very things?

    I would venture to say: if there is a Jezebel, defined more accurately as a woman who is actively advocating the public worship of a false god, it is Debi Pearl herself, who is advocating worship of one’s husband over God.

  • gimpi1

    So, the entire thrust of Mrs. Pearl’s screed is, “Women can’t have a brain, thoughts, needs or desires at all. Using your mind is ‘usurping your husband’s authority.’ To be a good woman, you must not think or feel. Just rejoice in everything your husband does, no matter the outcome, and do whatever you’re told. Once you’ve shut off your mind, it gets easier.”

    No thank you.

  • SAO

    All the upvotes

  • zizania

    I heard a joke the other day. Q: Why do brides wear white? A: Most household appliances are white.