Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Visionary People!!!

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Visionary People!!! September 20, 2017

AnsweringYoung girl buys right into the idea of types of men and women as invented by Debi and Michael Pearl and asks a very confusing question about her own beau Mr. Visionary. She is upset that some folks think she is being controlled by her Mr. Visionary.

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Visionary People!!!

I’m a [definitely] young girl in a commited relationship with a TOTAL visionary. These guys ARE a lot of fun – Debi knew what she was talking about. They always take on big projects, and they are the ones to change the world – one great idea at a time.

I have one of the sweetest, kindest, most loving of men – he never makes a decision without talking it out, and he’s been there for me during many rough hours! He gets along perfectly with my family, controls his temper, reaches out to others, and has changed opinions after we talked – as of course, have I.

There’s just one thing though, I was NOT expecting. That’s some of the ideas and convictions a Visionary holds. They’re just – outrageous to this Steady-daughter. o_O And other people! I am the Crazy Girl. He has firm convictions, which is a blessing, but some of them step on my comfort zone, like not believing you should even trim hair, or do anything to make yourself ‘look better’… and that means he doesn’t want me to either, long term! Maybe that’s a compliment to me… And there’s other things like that – little things, but I’m not used to it. Not listening to certain genres of music, even what I consider appropriate – little things.

People assume, if I honor his wishes, that I’m being ‘controlled’…. and that’s made me gun-shy, as a VERY independent person. We made an agreement that, since we’re getting ready to be married, he would lead, just in the relationship role, and I would follow, ditto. People don’t like that! They think the practice is just another form of control. Haha -and the older, married ladies around me don’t submit.

But I’m not used to this! My family has always been very laid back about many things, and not questioned motives. So, older ladies… what do I do? Where do I learn to ‘not sweat the small stuff’, how do I address issues that mean a lot to me, and just enjoy the ride?

What do you think? Should she listen to others about the possibility that she’s being controlled, or is this just all humblebrag?

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