Encouraging Your Husband: Bring on the Gravy Part 2

Encouraging Your Husband: Bring on the Gravy Part 2 September 15, 2017

IMG_1401Today’s post sounds almost like something Lori Alexander of ‘The Transformed Wife’ might right. Remember her upset with Ken’s choosing to eat potato chips and ice cream instead of the salads she was making?

This is a series looking at the marriage advice given in Nancy Campbell’s book ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’.

While packing for a move I have turned up are books, terrible idiotic books filled with toxic advice. One of those books is by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’. I think I ended up with this book in the aftermath of leaving my old church, given to me by one of my former friends that thought it would ‘help’ my marriage since in her eyes my husband leaving our old church meant that I wasn’t doing my job of wife well enough. Reading through this book now I cannot help but laugh at some of the suggestions. The book is entirely written by commenters and comments from Nancy Campbell’s website.

His Favorites!

My husband really enjoys certain foods, foods that often I don’t think are nutritional, or that are boring to me. We have argued over food for 15 years! However, over the past year or two, I have felt be deserved more than I was giving him in the way of food.  I began to think of what he would like for dinner, rather than what I think he should have. I now ask him what he would like before I make out the menu for the next week. I ask him what snacks he would like (he ha hypoglycemia and needs to eat a snack before heading off to his graveyard shift where his job is physically hard on his body) I now prepare a breakfast he enjoys when he comes home from work in the morning.

I try to have foods that are special ‘daddy’ foods on hand. I make the children respect him by not eating them all up before he gets to them. I teach them that their daddy works hard for us and that we need to have special treats just for him.

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  • TLC

    Oh, good. I saw this on Facebook tonight and it fits perfectly. See Lori, Nancy and all you quiverfull wives, THIS is what life with a husband is supposed to be about.

    https://momminghard.com/i-dont-help-my-wife-you-shouldnt-either/

  • lady_black

    The article is disappearing again!

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    What browser are you using? I’ll report it. I’m having the same issue. They are asking which browsers this is a problem in.

  • nmgirl

    I have the same problem and I use Chrome.

  • Anonyme

    This. This is fantastic. My dad always treated my mom like live-in help and felt that his duty to the family stopped after he got off work at 5:00 (there was also emotional neglect and eventually emotional abuse, but that’s a whole other story). I wish my dad had been like this to his wife and children. There would have been so many more happy memories with him and my mom would have felt more confident and appreciated. (Fortunately she had enough of the “good Christian wife” act and divorced my dad after 40 years. Better late than never, and I have more respect for her having done that than if she’d just “hung in there, because Jesus”)

  • Anonyme

    I can’t see it either, and I use Firefox.

  • lady_black

    This never happened before they “fixed” the format, EVER, and I’m starting to get really frustrated. It’s not the browser.

  • TLC

    Ugh. So sorry for you and your mom, but glad she finally got out.

  • TLC

    Please tell them that this redesign is a terrible mess, and they have many more problems than posts disappearing. This website is almost unusable now.

  • Specky

    Have tried both Chrome and Firefox. No article.

  • lady_black

    All of them.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I have been saying that all along. I’m going to tell my contact again. They did fix a few things, but it’s getting harder to use on this end too.

  • pinkie

    Me too, on my iPad.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Well, I can get on it and post comments without my browser locking up every few seconds– they did at least get THAT fixed.

  • Jessica Lynne Roulston

    Chrome..On my chromebook.

  • smrnda

    chrome (does not appear) firefox (disappears.)

  • Almost a chimp

    This may have nothing to do with the problem loading pages but it might be worth mentioning to your tech support.

    Another bloggers’ network recently started to have similat problems which turned out to be related to a comments add-on they’d installed. It was supposed to scan recent comments but they discovered that it was trying to scan through every single one of the many millions of comments ever left on the entire network, every single time somebody tried to load a page.

  • Aloha

    The other sites don’t have this happen. Only NLQ. I don’t know if it has something to do with the way the articles are uploaded.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I doubt it seriously because we are all uploading the same way on the same CMS platform. In the message forums for the site admins this seems to be a common problem

  • lady_black

    I have Chrome and Explorer.

  • bekabot

    Now not only can’t I get this at home, I can’t get it at the library either. Wow, this is annoying. (Added: no refresh tricks work.)

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Talked to someone at Patheos, who said it sounds like it has to do with the comment component. High priority for Monday morning.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Posting the post here in the comments because nothing I do fixes this and I’m tired of trying to edit:

    Today’s post sounds almost like
    something Lori Alexander of ‘The Transformed Wife’ might right. Remember
    her upset with Ken’s choosing to eat potato chips and ice cream instead
    of the salads she was making?

    This is a series looking at the marriage advice given in Nancy Campbell’s book ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’.

    While packing for a move I have turned
    up are books, terrible idiotic books filled with toxic advice. One of
    those books is by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies ‘How to Encourage Your
    Husband’. I think I ended up with this book in the aftermath of leaving my old church, given to me by one of my former friends
    that thought it would ‘help’ my marriage since in her eyes my husband
    leaving our old church meant that I wasn’t doing my job of wife well
    enough. Reading through this book now I cannot help but laugh at some of
    the suggestions. The book is entirely written by commenters and
    comments from Nancy Campbell’s website.

    His Favorites!

    My
    husband really enjoys certain foods, foods that often I don’t think are
    nutritional, or that are boring to me. We have argued over food for 15
    years! However, over the past year or two, I have felt be deserved more
    than I was giving him in the way of food. I began to think of what he
    would like for dinner, rather than what I think he should have. I now
    ask him what he would like before I make out the menu for the next week.
    I ask him what snacks he would like (he ha hypoglycemia and needs to
    eat a snack before heading off to his graveyard shift where his job is
    physically hard on his body) I now prepare a breakfast he enjoys when he
    comes home from work in the morning.

    I try to have foods that are special ‘daddy’ foods on hand. I make the
    children respect him by not eating them all up before he gets to them. I
    teach them that their daddy works hard for us and that we need to have
    special treats just for him.

  • bekabot

    Thanks very much. I’m glad I could read this, because it supports my theory that Fundagelical women tend to slip into the ‘mommy’ role, not with respect to their children but with respect to their husbands. The husband gets the kiddy-food (non-nutritive and boring for an adult like a wife) while the kids are encouraged to eat as though they were expecting their third heart attack. (It’s odd, that’s all; at least I find it so.)

  • Falconlights

    Disappeared for me, too!