Quoting Quiverfull: Be Joyously at Home You Selfish Woman!

Quoting Quiverfull: Be Joyously at Home You Selfish Woman! September 2, 2017

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies -Division of Labor

Editor’s note: Just like Lori Alexander it seems that Nancy Campbell cannot come up with new topics. She simply recycles old themes: Stay at home, be joyous, raise your children in the cult, gardening, womb-womb-womb! To many ‘Division of Labor’ means things like one parent cooks and the other one washes the dishes, or similar scenarios. Sorry, Nancy, women were not all created to be Dobby the House Slave.

I believe in the division of labor for marriage and family life. However, in our career we are blessed to embrace all the advantages and yet we don’t have the disadvantage of only doing the same thing day after day. Oh yes, we do have to do many of the same things, but we are not limited to them, nor do we have to do them the same way if we don’t want to. We can think of a new way of doing it. We are queen and manager of our home. We can make our home what we want it to be—a place of order, blessing, joy, and laughter. We can be as creative as we want to be. We have a domain to rule over. We are not subject to doing one task all day long. We have many different tasks.

But we do have specialization of labor. God has ordained this for the man and woman. He created men with 50 percent more brute strength than women. They are stronger to work hard to provide for their families, to take the weight of the overall responsibility of the family, and to protect their families.

He created the woman as a maternal being. He created her physically to conceive a baby in her womb and to nurture her babies and children. He created her for the home where she can release her God-given creative abilities. The sky is her limit.

However, when husband and wife both to do the same things we will not experience the same productivity. Oh yes, a wife may be able to earn more money than her husband, but in leaving her home and children she sacrifices her God-given career for a lesser one. No amount of finance can make up for the loss of the mother in the home.

Family life is fragmenting today because women are leaving the home. What is the fruit? The couple may have more money, but their family weakens. The families of the nation are weakening, and therefore the nation weakens.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Anonyme

    This culture (not just Nancy) puts SO much emphasis on a woman’s fertility determining her worth. I wonder how damaging this can be to women who are infertile and/or have an infertile partner.

  • Rachel

    50% more? Citation please.

  • AFo

    “The sky is her limit”- not if she’s forced to stay home and only allowed to do gender specific tasks. Nice try though, Nancy.

  • Kathi

    Oh for goodness sake! Doom and gloom. I’m surprised the flooding wasn’t due to God’s judgement of women not living up to their roles and the so-called weakening of the family.

  • Lucy

    Upvoted. One look at men’s and women’s Olympic records in any sport ever would debunk that little piece of bullshit instantly. Whatever the strength difference is between men and women, it’s negligible at most and noticeable mainly at top athletic levels where tiny increments of performance make a difference. That difference in strength most assuredly is not 50%, and I suspect it’s limited to certain types of overt strength, not all types of strength. Like, a man and a woman would probably be able to hike about the same distance with a backpack carrying the supplies each of them needs on before wearing out if their overall fitness is similar and their builds are similar and they are each wearing the same weight backpack, a backpack each person can manage over a long distance – and no, the maximum weight you can lift is not the load you should be carrying while hiking. Nice try*.

    *Those last two words weren’t directed at you. And of course, I was referring to cis men and women. If both people were transgender individuals who had not transitioned, the roles would be reversed, and if they were XX and XY non binary people, they would fit the category of the “woman” and the “man” in my hiking example, respectively.

  • Mimc

    The first result I got when googling says 40% upper-body and 33% lower body but since our society fantasizes being physical strength more in men they may be more likely to do strength building exercises. It would be better to compare people with similar exercise programs. So I think the Olympic records are probably more sound when isolating the actual biological difference instead of differences in habits. It also has almost nothing to do with many many jobs. I’ve never had a job were I was required to lift more than 50 lbs by myself.

  • Lucy

    Also, women are likely to be steered towards different exercises than men are, and are often discouraged from being big and muscular as surely as they are discouraged from being fat, if not more so sometimes. Besides, the male counterpart to “delicate” women isn’t a muscular man, it is a thin, weak man who is labeled things like “weedy”, a “dork”, and other unflattering labels.

    Part of the exaggeration of this difference, I am sure, stems from the fact that thin, unathletic men (and fat ones too) are basically written off as “not being real men”. Which is, of course, bullshit.

  • Chiropter

    There’s only so many ways to say women are second class before you have to start repeating yourself. As Lori learned the other day, you can’t say it outright either.
    People either already buy into this BS or they never will – so these fundy bloggers are just abusing their own base. Anyone with a healthy sense of self gets the hell out, so they just badger the poor women left behind, or build up the lunacy of men who enjoy the cultural superiority they’re granted in conservative religious circles.

  • Lucy

    That comment kind of made me think of the toaster speech scene in this video, which is from Lilo and Stitch: Stitch Has a Glitch:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKkt3nGy7Yg

    It’s not very good quality, sorry, but at 1:20 in the video, when Pleakley and Jumba are caught stealing the toaster, the way they wax on about how very many many wonderful things you can do with toast to Nani to avoid getting in trouble, kind of sounds like what Nancy and her ilk are doing when they oversell women’s “natural” domestic role as being far less limited than it really is. And, like the way the different types of toast you can make are dependent on what breads you have, the tasks the woman “can” do are heavily controlled by what resources and avenues they are allowed. And in the case of those women, there really aren’t a whole lot of avenues there. And, just like the way Pleakley and Jumba clearly sound like they are in the corner and have been caught out, Nancy and her ilk know damn well they are put on notice and are selling a lot more than they have to offer.

  • Julia Childress

    Is it allowable for a couple to enjoy cooking together, or with their children? Is it okay if the husband and wife work together to plan the budget and pay the bills? Or, what if the man actually enjoys vacuuming and he know his wife hates it? Will God smite him if just does it, or should the wife feel that she has to perform this task that she hates? And what if the mom stays home with her pre-schoolers then returns to work as a teacher when the kids are all in school (again, assuming that God didn’t smite this couple for not homeschooling)? Division of labor sure makes life complicated.

  • Tawreos

    “We can make our home what we want it to be… We can be as creative as we want to be.”

    I am a little surprised that Nancy feels this way. I thought she could only make her home what her husband wants it to be and be as creative as he allows her to be.

  • Sastra

    We are queen and manager of our home. We can make our home what we want it to be—a place of order, blessing, joy, and laughter. We can be as creative as we want to be. We have a domain to rule over. We are not subject to doing one task all day long. We have many different tasks.

    Okay. Not every woman hated being a housewife. Not every woman dislikes being a homemaker. There are negatives, but there are positives. And so forth, and so on. I’m a homemaker myself; I’ll grant that.

    But selling this as THE one-size-fits-all ordained woman’s role? Totally achievable and fulfilling for every female on earth? Oh, please.

    And once you’re a “queen,” you’re dethroned in favor of a “king.” Nope. Can’t relate. I ought to be sympathetic, but even I see another argument against Christianity here.

  • Anonyme

    Nancy would probably lose her mind over a recent Reynold’s Wrap (aluminum foil) commercial that shows a mother going to work and the father cooking and taking care of the kids. I found it a refreshing change from the “dad can’t even operate a dishwasher or change a diaper, hur hur derp” ads.

  • The Jack of Sandwich

    Men may have more brute strength than women, but neither my job, nor my wife’s job has any need for brute strength. So we can both work our jobs and then share the housework at home, with no need to worry that one of us is disadvantaged at one of those tasks.

  • Tawreos

    Uh oh, Nancy’s invisible friend is going to be so mad at you for taking a reasonable approach to life.

  • thatotherjean

    So–if men are inherently stronger than women, and thus better suited to tasks requiring strength, why did Michael have such a problem taking out the garbage in that incident you complained about, Debi? Isn’t he required to do joyfully those tasks to which he is suited, just as you are?

  • Anonyme

    And why didn’t he carry the bag of crabs on their ill-fated honeymoon introduction to spousal abuse? Since he’s (supposedly) so manly and strong…

  • Almost a chimp

    What, not even over the threshold?
    What’s that? Oh, you weren’t referring to Nancy! My mistake.

  • zizania

    I own and manage my own business. I can run it any way I like (as long as it’s legal) and be as creative as I please. And, by the way, my “child” is 32 and quite capable of taking care of himself, as is my husband.

  • Saraquill

    The back posts of NLQ covers this in detail. It’s not pretty.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    It occurs to me that if you cannot conceive of any relationship in other than authoritarian / heirachical terms and you believe it a religious duty to compel compliance by violence through beatings to enforce discipline, the fact that men are physically stronger than women on the whole (though 50% is slightly exaggerated, I suspect) would make it obvious, indeed necessary, that women were necessarily and rightly subservient to men.
    (To anyone else, with a somewhat less toxic approach to relationships, not so much.)

  • The Jack of Sandwich

    Might makes right!

  • smrnda

    If we’re talking about supporting a family through work outside the home, I’m thinking that this physical strength different isn’t going to matter in many jobs. For jobs that require a great deal of physical strength, many men aren’t going to be qualified.

  • smrnda

    On the finance and the loss of a mother. First, just because a woman works does not mean she is totally absent from the home or the lives of her children. Second, we’re seeing that finance matters quite a bit in outcomes for children, to the point where educated affluent women who work out side the home really do give their children an advantage. I think kids need their parents, but the idea that there has to be a stay at home parent for all 18 years until a kid leaves home seems a bit excessive.

  • bekabot

    But we do have specialization of labor. God has ordained this for the man and woman. He created men with 50 percent more brute strength than women.

    If by “brute strength” you mean “upper-body strength” I suppose this might be true — which makes it oodles weirder that an average middle-class man, in the ordinary course of his life, will typically end up doing so much less physical donkey-work than will an average middle-class woman. Peculiar, ain’t it.

  • Quinsha

    Strength difference is why machines were invented. Why in the would would you try picking up a pallet load of merchandise by yourself when you can use a forklift?

  • katiehippie

    Well she also said this “We have a domain to rule over”
    She is in charge of the home

  • My mom worked at a time when most moms stayed at home and I’m very glad that she did. My grandmother kept me until I was about 5 (when she died). Those times when she was keeping me while my mom was at work are my only memories of her. When I was older I had to learn to do my own (and others’) laundry, some simple kitchen tasks and other “survival skills”. When I got to college about half the guys had no idea how to do their own laundry but they were living in the dorm and that was something they suddenly had to do. (It’s not rocket science, but you can screw things up if you don’t know what you’re doing.) My mom would have been miserable as a stay at home mom. I think a lot of women were. It’s good when they have a choice but frankly most don’t because without two incomes there just isn’t enough money.

  • Tawreos

    Until her husband gets home.