Men Do Not Want Children Because Women Are Selfish?

Men Do Not Want Children Because Women Are Selfish? March 7, 2019

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Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife continues on her crusade of blaming women for everything short of the Lindberg baby kidnapping and the murder of Abraham Lincoln. Now she’s claiming that the reason most men do not want more children is because their wives selfishly insist on him being part of the child’s day to day care and that he might just have to wait his turn for affection from the wife.

Here’s what I want to know. Where on earth is Lori finding such incredible immature, easily-threatened, thin-skinned baby men?

I cannot believe we’re having to talk about this yet again,but here it is. Men are grown ups. Grown. Ups. Hopefully being a grown up adult means that they understand when a baby or small child must take priority over their needs. Babies and small children have a limited ability to care for themselves, meet needs and have very imperfect control. So who needs to be the priority here? The grown ass man or the small helpless babe in arms?

If your man is so insecure that his emotions and self worth can be significantly affected negativity by your care of his child he is too immature for marriage.

On to Lori’s second point, that you should never require your husband to help around the house or with childcare. Again, why are men considered too fragile to help out? Parenting is a two person job. I’m not saying a man needs to come home from his job and cook, do the dishes, clean and everything else, but he does live in the house and sometimes that means doing the unfun things because someone is sick, or busy, or that’s just how it worked out.

What Lori is advocating here is basically a man who does not interact very much with his family. He sits in his chair drinking his Holy Spirit beer and gets waited on. He is not a genuine member of the family, more like a mascot or a sacred idol.

The third point being that it is on the stay at home mother only to discipline the children so that they do not annoy daddy is just another version of dad is a weird visitor here, not a full member of the family. Good effective discipline only happens when both parents agree on a method and work together. It’s not one-sided.

It’s almost like a man has zero control in his own home. Zero say. Zero responsibility. He just shows up like a walking sperm donor who pays the bills that they all have to tiptoe around. How Godly.

Pat him on his head and bring him whatever the Evangelical version of a pipe, slippers and a martini are and coddle him.


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Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here.

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