Were the Sacrifices Worth it?

Were the Sacrifices Worth it? September 22, 2020

Earlier today I saw this and I had to ask myself the question: Were all those sacrifices worth it?

What they are talking about here is the idea of the homeschooling stay at home moms above all else. The ideal pushed by many wealthier cultural enforcers of Quiverfull.

This is the sad hard reality for Quiverfull families who don’t have television shows, a line of books, a big ministry, or a spouse in a high paying field.  They are trying to stick to a standard that is miserable without personal wealth, being promoted by those with enough personal wealth to do it without sacrificing a thing.

Remember when we first met TLC’s the Duggar family? They lived in a tiny three bedroom home with one bathroom if I recall correctly. Buy used, save the difference, feed the family baloney sandwiches and casseroles made of cheap canned soups, frozen potatoes and the cheapest meat available? The girls wore those baggy jumpers made from whatever cotton fabric was on the dollar rack at Walmart. No one’s ideal of prosperous.

Or the Rodrigues living in what is basically a converted barn. Dressing the children in bottom of the barrel Goodwill leftovers like street urchins. Going around begging for contributions while claiming it is their ministry?

The Pearls and their tales of old cat food cans and seed corn contributions from the church Michael ministered in. All the tales of making do with what they had.

We’ve seen Steven and Zsuzsanna Anderson smushed into the tiniest of homes with over ten kids. With food rationing, and Zsu serving very carb heavy meals that are cheaper. I will give Zsu credit, she’s found a zeitgeist friendly way to make money with her modest swimsuits, cookbooks and homeschooling organizers and helps.

None of this sounds ‘successful’ in the slightest. All you have to do is to peruse a few message boards for stay at home homeschooling mommas and you will see tales of extreme poverty. It’s why so many of these women fall head first into multi level marketing schemes, and end up losing lots of money.

I’ve seen people criticize them for not growing large gardens, and all sorts of other ‘must dos’. What they are missing is that all of these things like gardening take a certain amount of start up money. If you’re hovering on the edge of poverty you’re not going to have the funds to outlay for a rototiller, seeds, hoses, hoes and other basics, even if it’s just for the initial groundbreaking.

No amount of Nancy Campbell babbling about setting your table with dishes from Goodwill, or others explaining how to bake your own bread with expensive Einkorn flour going to work to ease the lack of money.

So here’s my question again. Was all that sacrifice actually worth it in the long run?


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About Suzanne Titkemeyer
Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 34 years You can read more about the author here.

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