1. He needs RESPECT. Respect is like oxygen for men. It keeps him alive, in a manner of speaking. And helps him thrive. Popeye needs spinach. Your husband needs respect. It’s the thing that makes him who he is. It’s almost like a magic serum to his soul. When he feels respected, he feels like he can conquer the world. He’s full of optimism and hope. He can handle tasks he otherwise might not think he can. He’ll care for... Read more
Sometimes I feel like a fake. I write about wifing and respecting your husband and stuff like that. And I believe every word I write. Down to the letter. But sometimes in the heat of the moment, I don’t always take my own advice. I can be stubborn. Like trying-to-get-an-ink-stain-off-your-favorite-shirt kind of stubborn. Stubbornness is like a drug. It affects how you think, feel and act. You never expect it to become a problem. But it does. The more stubborn... Read more
It’s not always the big stuff–infidelity, abuse, or money issues– that brings a marriage down. Sometimes it’s the little stuff. Sometimes it’s something as tiny as a word or two. One of the hardest things to learn as a wife is how to speak respectfully to your husband, which includes knowing when not to speak(which is no easy thing for me to do). Tiny words can hurt. A steady trickle of criticism, condemnation and complaints can take a marriage down... Read more
No woman can stay married to the same man her whole life. I’ve been married to three. I’m a much better wife to my current husband. And he’s a far better husband than my first two. Did I love my first two husbands? Absolutely, but I’m glad I didn’t settle for them. Let me explain. I’ve been married once. But in one marriage, I’ve been married to three different men. People offer lots of marriage advice, but most leave out... Read more
Do you remember the early days of your relationship? Before you were Mr. and Mrs? When a certain look would drive him wild? You laughed hysterically at his jokes. You smiled when he walked into a room. You went out of your way to make him feel special. After years of marriage, hectic schedules, bills and hurt feelings, those flirty feelings can become distant memories. In the distraction of life, sometimes we forget we still need to flirt with ours husbands.... Read more
Most women don’t have a problem with unconditional love– as long as they’re getting it. Most women understand the concept. What we don’t understand is the concept of unconditional respect. Yeah. That’s a struggle for a lot of us. If you’re thinking, “What if he doesn’t deserve my respect?” You’d be normal. Or “I’m not giving him respect until he’s earned it;” you’d be even more normal. Respect has nothing to do with him and everything to do with... Read more
It’s the third time this week you’ve asked him to take out the trash. But the overflowing trash bin still sits in the same place, cluttering up the kitchen. It’s such a simple thing (that he knows drives you cray-cray), but he won’t follow through. The more you ask, the more excuses he makes. Soon you’re ticked and engaged in marital combat: The Complainer vs The Procrastinator. How do you deal with a procrastinating husband? It’s a game I know well.... Read more
Is it natural for you to greet your husband at the end of the day with a Pinterest-worthy meal and a kiss? Do you remind yourself you need to be a better wife? Do you lie in bed thinking, “I’ve really got to up (yaaaaaawn) my wife game?” Then you fall asleep. If I hold my husband’s hand and it’s not Sunday, he thinks something’s wrong. If I’m not thinking about it, my PDA (public display of affection) won’t go... Read more
I’d been rejected. I didn’t want to tell my husband because I was embarrassed. I was afraid he’d think less of me. Or he’d laugh at me. Rejection crushes your confidence. It knocks your emotional PH off balance. When your emotional PH is off balance, everything’s affected. I walked around with my lip poked out for a while. Then I dragged out my Bible and flipped though it. My fingers felt like lead. I landed on a verse about suffering.... Read more
Hard circumstances and marriage have something in common. One hundred percent of marriages go through hard times. And hard circumstances can tank your marriage. You may remember the story of how my fiancé dumped me months before the wedding. Imagine how that experience crushed me. It affected my trust barrier. It affected my self-esteem and my self-worth. And it affected my relationship with my future husband. He had it bad because for years. I was lost in a maze of... Read more
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