It’s easy to respect your husband if he’s a nice guy. But what about when he’s insensitive or sarcastic or leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor or refuses to help out or is just plain mean? What if your husband is a jerk? Every husband does jerky things now and then. And I’m not talking about jerks who are physically or emotionally abusive. I’m talking about a man whose behavior makes you cray-cray. A man who makes decisions and... Read more
Are you married to a guy who’s always right? It can be downright frustrating to have iron-clad ev-i-dence he’s wrong, and he still denies it. You want him to admit he’s wrong, but sometimes you have to ask yourself, “Is it really worth it?” In most cases, it’s probably not. When’s the last time he said, “Wow, Honey, thanks for telling me all the things I’m doing wrong. It really helps”? Probably never. Trying to prove he’s wrong most likely... Read more
How you remember the days. Horizontal hula, knocking boots–whatever you called it, you couldn’t get enough. He was so hot. Before bed (or any time of day), you donned your lingerie or even hopped in the sack in your birthday suit. Now you’re scratching your head and asking yourself, “Why don’t I ever want to have sex?” He’s still sexy, but now at the end of the day you barely have energy to put on your raggedy plaid pajama bottoms... Read more
You could talk for hours before you got married. It seemed you could talk about anything. But somewhere the lines of communication have unraveled. Now when you try to talk to him, he just walks away. Or he gets angry. Effective communication in marriage is getting harder and harder. “I’ve had it. I finally just blew up,” Kendra posted in her Facebook group. “He’s so rude. Whenever I try to talk to him, he just walks away.” Kendra’s problem is... Read more
Making a decision to leave a marriage is serious and shouldn’t be made lightly. Sometimes there’s good reason to end a marriage, but believing ‘you deserve to be happy’ isn’t one of them. Happiness in marriage isn’t something you deserve. Staying in an unhappy marriage can affect your mental and emotional health. But you don’t have to settle for dissatisfaction and mediocrity. You can learn to see your marriage differently. You don’t deserve to be happy, but you can choose... Read more
Your but can interfere in your marriage because it’s a major driver in body shame. Your but skews your body image and may cause you to withhold intimacy–not because you’re not attracted to your husband but because you’re more concerned with the way you look than with pleasing him. But I’ve gained weight. But I have C-Section scars. But my body doesn’t look like it used to. But I have saggy breasts. But I’ve nursed five kids. But my stretch... Read more
Suffer from PMS? You’re cranky. You get headaches. And your husband? He doesn’t want to be anywhere near you. PMS is common, and it’s a common problem in marriage. Everyone suffers from it from time to time. Here’s the good news: There’s a cure. Perfect Marriage Syndrome. It occurs when a wife thinks her marriage should be well. . . perfect, and she places unrealistic expectations on her husband, thinking he can make it that way. He can’t, so he... Read more
Whether you like it or not, you married a mama’s boy. We all did. A mama’s influence –negative or positive– hugely impacts how your husband sees himself and how he treats you. If you’ve been married for any length of time, you probably understand this. As frustrating as it can be at times, you can learn how to deal with a mama’s boy. If you’re looking at your husband and scratching your head, look to the kind of relationship he... Read more
Your husband’s an attractive guy, but sometimes you’re just not in the mood. It might have nothing to do with him. But–you know the drill– when you’re not in the mood,. . . well, you run the risk of upsetting him. Not because he’s an insensitive jerk or you’re a bad wife, but because your desire to have (or not to have) sex with him sends him a message. And he responds to your message like a man who’s been... Read more
Ever been in the middle of a mild disagreement with your husband when he started acting like you just said, “I drained our bank accounts and plan to run off to Belize with the UPS guy”? Okay, that’s extreme, but his reaction seemed excessive for the situation? That’s exactly what happened with us last week. Let me explain. I was enjoying my Krispy Kreme maple-glazed delight as we drove down the interstate discussing the pros and cons of a car... Read more
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