Our Second Baby

Our Second Baby March 8, 2018

We are finally half way through the pregnancy and that means…it was time to find out the sex!


In some ways I feel silly caring so much about this, considering that knowing someone’s sex doesn’t really tell you anything about them. Boys can be into “girl” things and vice versa and I’m all for that. Individuals should do what makes them happy and follow their heart regardless of traditional norms.

Nonetheless, I really wanted one of each: a boy and a girl. And considering how difficult I find being pregnant I don’t think I can go through this again. So this felt like our last chance if we were ever going to have a girl.

And luckily the Gods were smiling on us.

It is a girl!

Her name is Priya Ilana.

Our criteria for our childrens’ Hindu names is that they be short and easy for non-Indian Americans to pronounce. Not everyone agrees with this principle. And I agree that there is a problem with changing South Asian names to make them more…paletable to Westerners. Nonetheless, we are caving to it.

Priya means “dear” in Sanskrit. When my mom first told me what it meant (a friend had a daughter of that name when I was ten) I thought she had said “deer.” And I was like, hmm. That’s a little odd but nice.

Ilana is for my best friend who died eight years ago. In a way I feel as though she gave me my desire for children. She always had a drive to be a mother and it never wavered. She was confident and ready for children. I was less certain at that time. I was in my twenties and still feeling like I was not ready to be selfless enough to be a mother. But as soon as Ilana died I was hit with an enormous biological desire for children. It feels as though she purposely passed it to me.

There was also the sense that I could potentially get her back if I had children. It was irrational but it felt like maybe I could sort-of snatch her soul back. But that was eight years ago and that feeling has faded.

I’m glad to finally have the opportunity to honor her in this way.


Browse Our Archives

Follow Us!

What Are Your Thoughts?leave a comment
  • Congrats ❤️❤️❤️ Amazing news. Happy women’s day btw!

  • M Raghavan

    Congratulations! I hope you will be performing punyAvahAchanam and nAmakaranam in accordance with Traditions

  • genesislover

    Congrats! I’m so happy for you and it’s a beautiful name. I’m currently pregnant with my second daughter, so I know how tough pregnancy is on our bodies. We want a boy, so I suppose someday I’m going to be doing this again. Lol. I’m glad you’ve got your boy and your girl.

    • Ambaa

      Oh man, I’m relived that I don’t “have” to do this again! I don’t know. It’s hard to be really sure you’re just done.

  • Maya Resnikoff

    In Jewish tradition, we offer the wish that the birth should come at a good time- so that’s the wish I’m sending you- that the second half of this pregnancy should be healthy and manageable (I’m pregnant too right now- I know too well to offer “comfortable” or “easy”), and the birth should come at the right time.

    • Ambaa

      Oh, congratulations! That’s so wonderful.

  • mishiboo

    I’m going to read this. I’ll be sure to come back. thanks for sharing. and also This article gives the light in which we can observe the reality. this is very nice one and gives indepth information. thanks for this nice article

  • Sushil Kumar

    I will be gifted bhanji yey. So happyy. Love fom your bhai.

  • mishiboo11

    Very good blog post i’ve got to suggest and even bless you in the tips. Degree certainly a sticky area of interest. Then again, will be some of the top rated information of the precious time. As i treasure ones own blog post and even watch for alot more

  • showyourfacewithpride

    Congratulations on getting a little Subhadra for your little Krishna! Have a safe pregnancy and delivery – God bless.