On Second Thought: Episode 6, How Do I Get Tripp to Behave?

Trust me, it’s crazy to see your life on television. That’s why every week, I’m going to do a blog posts called “On Second Thought.” These posts are where I will go over the episodes of my Lifetime show as I process the issues presented now that I’ve seen them aired.  I hope you’ll join me for these weekly posts – which will undoubtedly be part-confession, part-explanation, and part-celebration of my life right now!

Episode Six, Air Date: July 3, 2012

This episode got real, didn’t it? Honestly, I wish I could pretend life as single mom is perfect.  I wish I could show you the photos of Tripp and everyone would say, “Oh, isn’t he an angel?”

But every parent of small children knows kids are not always good.  Even in the best circumstances, they’re tough, challenging, and frustrating.  (Right now, somewhere, my mom is smiling.)

My circumstance, of course, is not “the best circumstance.”  I got pregnant when I wasn’t married, and, consequently, my son doesn’t have his father in his life.  I have to deal with this reality every day of my life.  But our imperfect circumstances don’t mean Tripp gets to grow up acting any way he pleases.  He might be from a “broken home,” but that doesn’t mean he has to be broken.  As a mom, I don’t have to be broken.

So where does that leave me?  Sometimes, as you could see in this episode, I’m very confused. I hate to be “the bad guy,” and I wish I had a husband who could be the disciplinarian.  Many of you saw Dad make his debut on my show, and he did it by giving me a speech!  Nice!  Of course, I know I should listen to him, because (as I’ve mentioned before) I have the best father ever.

The Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF) has a great little booklet called “Single Parents,” which provides a great deal of helpful advice:

“You don’t have to be both mother father and mother to your child.  God is with you…  God assuredly has your child’s best interest in his heart, even more than you do.”

Okay, CCEF, I believe you.  But how does that mean I respond when Tripp talks back to me?! That’s the part I’m working through, and I appreciate all the kind words of encouragement as I figure all of this out!

Tripp, thankfully, did behave at Mom’s surprise party.  Again, I love my family so much, and I was so glad that everyone came together and pretended to like the cake I made.  (Well, it was better before Trig sprayed spit all over it to blow out the candles!) Mom liked her little pink pistol.  She already has a pink bb gun, so this is a nice addition.

After all, you can’t keep a bb gun in your purse!

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  • Bert

    You can always do what my Ma did, she’d either put hot sauce in our mouths or soap. And sometimes if that didn’t work a good ‘ol fashioned spanking.

    • Kim

      Yeah, I do agree with spanking sometimes. I sometimes think that’s what wrong with today’s children not being disciplined. No respect for others, others property or authority. So sad too because so much potential in these children are lost.

  • Kim

    The most important thing is to be consistent. Always follow through with punishment. But most important is to explain what they have done wrong and why they are being punished.

  • Naomi

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  • Cyndi

    Hi Bristol – just like Kim mentioned, consistency and following through. My youngest is a firecracker too and those type of kids can outwit you if you let things slide. He is young, but don’t underestimate his intelligence. He knows what he can get away with and you have to be that tough love parent. Be a step ahead of him..anticipate what he might be thinking and plan ahead, be patient, and he’ll be a the perfect child (according to his teachers) by the time he is going to school. love it!

  • MBN

    Boys will be boys. My husband works on the slope and sometimes I feel like a single mom. Its hard because we expect instant results when we correct out children when really they are a work in progress. My boys are still so little and they are learning how to behave. Spanking doesn’t phase my three year old. He will be more motivated to behave if I take one of his favorite toys away and make him earn it back. Each child is different, but you are just the right Mom for your child!

    • Emma Lora

      MBN… that was a great post!!

  • Page Hall

    You are doing great. I love it that you let Tripp sleep with you; my kids slept with me for years even though their father was present in the household. If he knows you love him, he will strive to please you the majority of the time. Other times he’ll rebel but by being close to my kids, I never saw it until age 16 or 17, and my oldest (son) really never did it! In a way you are fortunate to be the sole parent; he is learning your values, your personality, and in that, his way of life. Also don’t think that when the father IS there, he is always supportive of the mother… you don’t have a kid playing two parents against each other, that is good! Your love is obvious, as is Tripp’s strong spirit; it may not always be easy but I think you know to follow your heart and you will go in the right direction. When in doubt… ask your mom! :)

  • Michael Mills

    You are doing a great job as a mother. Just keep God first in your life and continue to be an example to Tripp. He’s a good kid. I hope you find the right person in your life that not only loves you, but also loves Tripp like he’s their child too. I admire everything you are doing. We, your supporters, all love you. :)

  • Barb

    I enjoy the show. I also appreciate when you don’t bash Levi as much. Yes, he is missing out. But, one day he will realize that on his own. Let Levi and Tripp figure that out. Don’t influence Tripp’s attitude about his father. My mom talked terrible about my dad. I hated him and didn’t even know him. But now, we have a growing relationship. He needed to grow up.

  • Theresa

    “My home isn’t broken”–YES!! such a powerful statement. And God is clearly with you. Your Father and Husband. I agree with spanking with control. I know my daughter is fearful of even giving one swat if she is out anywhere in her car. She explained that there are cameras everywhere and people are quick to report “child abuse”. My method was– help the child understand what he did wrong, discipline, then hold him to show you still love him.

  • Heatherann

    Read the book Shepherding a child’s Heart! It’s a wonderful book and soooooo helpful with the right way to discipline children. I have two and they respond much better when I use the advice from the book.

  • Thomas Hubbard

    All we can do is give some advise on raising cats since we’ve had no children. You think kids can be a problem, with cats in the end they have you under control. But as for me as a child I was a Angle?, just ask my mother? There is one thing I’ve noticed about children being a Uncle Tom who hung out with the nephews many times. It was when it seemed they were behaving was due too fustration and we would work things out.

  • robin ball

    Much like a puppy.
    You ignore the unwanted behavior, tone your reaction, allow them to fuss a bit then welcome back with hugs and acceptance. :-)

  • Sue Lynn

    Love the show!!!! Love the entire Palin family!

  • Lotta Hoskins

    You are NOT the “bad guy” for disciplining Tripp, I know it may feel like that but on the contrary you will be the “good guy” for it. Children need and want rules and boundaries. Tripp will grow up loving and respecting you more for disciplining him then not doing it! Be consistent, give him warnings if he don’t behave he will go in time out,follow through , explain why you put him there, make it for 3 minutes one minute per year of child. After complication have him say he is sorry, and then give him lots of love. (Supernanny’s technique works awesome!! : ) )

  • Sarah Swafford

    I understand how you feel about the back talk from the kiddo. My 5 year old sometimes gets the nerve to back talk to me. I bop his mouth (not real hard) when that happens. The first time he said a bad word, he got Cocoa Powder in his mouth. He thought he was getting a treat with that because he obviously thought he was getting sweet chocolate. Cocoa Powder is quite bitter. My mom used Cocoa Powder on me when I used bad words. It’s better than Hot Sauce or Soap in their mouths. I hope some of this a little helpful.

  • http://www.bearizona.com Sean Casey

    Bristol,
    What can we expect in your “Bearizona” episode? Did you go to Bearizona Wildlife Park in Williams, Arizona (www.facebook.com/bearizona)?

    I have been getting “Google Alerts” since I am the owner of this park. We would love to give you and Tripp a VIP tour sometime. Tripp would love the baby bear cubs.

    Sean Casey
    Bearizona Wildlife Park, LLC

  • Cindy Peak

    You say to him calmly, what his father should be saying, “Tripp, you cannot talk to your Mom or your Dad like that. That is disrespectful. I know you love me and I love you, and because I love you, I cannot allow you to act this way. So you need to think about this, and sit in this chair in the corner. And when you are calm, please come and tell me what you thought and we can talk about it.” You might also mention to him the promise of God that his life will be long if he honors his parents.

    Do it now. Because the longer you wait, the harder controlling him becomes.

  • Jinky

    maybe you can start to raise your son without all of the cameras around like most people do??
    you have made your own choices to put yourself and your son on TV and now you have to live with the results. at least now that the show is on so late that it is losing even more viewers, most people are just ignoring it now. i noticed your mom didn’t FB or tweet about the show yesterday as she has in the past so it sounds like she wants the bomb of a show off the air as well. at least you got paid i’m sure so that fits with the palin mo.

  • Jose

    I am sure Tripp will find in your heart everything he needs. You are a good mom!

  • louiseharas

    Last night, Bristol and Willow bickered and had a childish spat. They called each other names, over and over. You’re crazy. You’re a psycho. You’re crazy. You’re a psycho. Bristol and Willow owe a big apology to people who really have mental health issues. They don’t like being called crazy or a psycho. Bristol was the first person to respond when someone used the dreaded “R” word (even though it didn’t refer to Trig.) She was so angry, asking people not to use that word because it insults the disabled. Calling people psychos is just as insulting to people with mental health issues.

    • blueniner

      Spoken like a true Liberal drone, if you want to be a critic go over to MSLSD and listen to language they use on their cable show.

    • Emma Lora

      Louise did you at one time use the name Roberta? You sound just like her. Same kind of self-righteous outlook….. Sibling do that and learn to work things out. I would take a sibling who wnats to spare over a self-rightious one any day.

      • BlueVA

        Ever the meddling den mother, eh, E.L.? How much are you paid to be Bristol’s bodyguard?

        • Emma Lora

          LOL Don’t know them. Never met them. Just someone who will not be quiet when someone is wanting to ridicule, or self-righteously, childishly “tattle” etc. on someone else. Your kind (liberals) can go on another site… but your kind can’t help but troll so you can have a snark fix. Palin are very nice people as most conservatives. If I had the opportunity to stand up to support someone else I will support. You may not understand that mindset.. you apparently like to express against someone. So be it.

          • BlueVA

            And again, who appointed you Bristol’s online bodyguard? Does she need you to defend and “snark” back? YOUR KIND thinks they are doing the right thing, but all YOUR KIND ends up doing is making yourselves look a little obsessed and know-it-all. YOUR KIND gives Bristol too little credit for being able to answer naysayers on her own. YOUR KIND should chill…

      • Jellybean

        Emma the cheerleading captain of team Palin!!!

        Bristol, Bristol, we love you
        Sarah is our hero and you are too
        We love you when you’re lying, we love you when you’re whining
        We love when you’re quitting, we love you’re when you’re xxxxxxx
        Go Bristol, go Sarah. Yeah Palins!!!!

        • Emma Lora

          Hello Jellybean and Blue VA and other verbal bullies.
          There is a lot of verbal abuse in society and those abusers/thrashers who go on sites to abuse (I call it snarky) are hoping they can intimidate people into doing nothing.. Physical abusers have the same M.O. keeping their prey from taking action. Too often cowardly people sit back and watch as somone is bullied and do nothing. When I see bullies verbally act abusive… I will not sit back and do nothing. If it is on this site or another. Bristol is courages and handled herself. I am not doing this to defend a strong prey. I am doing this to challenge a bully. If you are hoping I will watch and sit back, do nothing, then you are revealing who and what you really are.

          • Emma Lora

            Jellybean, Blue, ETC.

            If I may continue.. In show # 5 we see S.Palin speaking and interrupted by verbal bullies. Thousands of people shouted them down. A great example of society(conservatives) standing up against bullies, instead of just watching the abuse. Just thot you needed a great example of standing up to bullies to understand the concept. If you don’t want to have a change of heart… why don’t you go to a like minded snark-site and have a bully-fest..

          • BlueVA

            Emma Lora, you, also, are a bully. You immediately jump on any comment that doesn’t fit YOUR criteria for how comments should read here. AGAIN…who appointed you judge and jury? Sure, you’re exercising your right, as are we all, to comment when and how we want, but you, in particular (and actually, you’re the only one who does this, from what I see), take the time to go to EACH AND EVERY comment that YOU judge to be unacceptable, and you bark at the commenter. You seem to believe that this is your blog. You seem to believe that you have the right to scold and condemn. You are no better than anyone here, whether they’re speaking on Bristol’s behalf or not. Why are you like this, E.L.? If you hate snark, then why do you return it so readily? If you want to defend and make a difference, then why don’t you hop off the Internet and go into your community and do something? I’m not a Bristol hater…but you’ve apparently tried your hardest to box me into who you THINK I am. Look in the mirror and examine why you’re here before you keep glomming onto everyone else’s comments and stroking your sense of purpose by knocking others down.

          • Emma Lora

            Blue,
            There was no reply button so I shall reply here. You certainly gave me much to think about. From my perspective I only respond to an original negative post, or the first negative punch. I do not create an original negative post but do create original positive posts. I failed to remember that many “trashesr” are sometimes very fragle themselves. I had no idea I could make someone feel knocked down. My blog? of course not. Bristol especially and her supporters are the light of this blog. I challenge original negative posts, but nooo I am not judge, jury, just one who challenges…. apparently with quite a punch.

        • Emma Lora

          Blue, since there was no reply button, i will reply here. You certainly gave me much to think about. I had no idea I had it in me to knock people down. I failed to remember something I learned a long time ago. Sometimes people that want to put down another who never attacked them in the first place (Bristol , Palins, others) are also the most fragile. If you felt knocked down, I aplogize. Apparently challenging your negativity felt like a blow. My blog?…of course not. Bristol especially, and her supporters are the shining light of this blog. I never challenged a positive post, but do challenge a negative one or write in general in response to negativity already posted. I never start the first negative punch…. but you reminded me how fragile some are. I shall take that into consideration and let me know if my responses are too much for you. but try to understand my concept of a bully. A bully goes after someone who was going “their merry way” w/out bothering the bully in the first place.. .but the bully needs to be careful, someone may challenge them.

          • Emma Lora

            Oh blue… I am so sorry… I thot the 11:59 post was rejected, so I wrote a shorter one. Both said about the same thing. but thanks for giving me “things to think about” I won’t post an original negative post if you won’t Deal?

          • BlueVA

            I don’t even know how to take this. I suppose you’re well-meaning, but you’re also very mistaken if you feel that you hurt my feelings. I’ve read many posts on this blog and watched you often “challenge a negative post in response to negativity already posted.” You knocked “Roberta” down at every turn. How is that elevating any conversation? It is entirely possible that she was geniunely concerned for Tripp, but like many of us, she found it difficult to articulate that over the Internet. All you do is lend credibility to the very comments that you feel you must refute. It takes two to argue. Why don’t you just leave people’s comments alone, unless you want to argue AN ISSUE and not the perceived “fragility” of the person’s whose post you don’t like. And for my part, I’ll start by ignoring your negative comments from now on.

  • Elizabeth

    Bristol,
    After watching your show and reading your post I feel compelled to tell you that you do not need a man to make sure your son is disciplined and and grows into a man of faith and character. I am a 48 year old mother of seven children ages 9 to 29 with one 2 year old grandson. I have been married to the same man for 30 years. I have done all the discipline in those 30 years. My husband doesn’t like confrontations . In fact, I tell them all the time when they are not minding “I don’t need your Daddy to make you mind”. Yes it would be better for all of us but it is doable. Just say what you mean, mean what you say and be consistent. You don’t have to have a husband you just need a backbone. And I know you have that. You can do this. You and your family have our support!

  • Traci

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  • Traci

    Bristol, I’m a mom of 4 boys and my youngest is starting to push boundaries the way that Tripp is with you. Even after all these kids, I still have a hard time because they are such a big bundle of squishy sweetness. It’s complicated! My husband is the strong one, but even he finds their charm deceptive sometimes! =) Stay in the Word daily and God will give you the strength and wisdom to guide Tripp in a way that is pleasing to the Lord. We are sorta old school with our kids and don’t take any disrespect or backtalk. They can give opinions and grumble about chores, but disrespect is never an option. At Tripp’s age, you can’t lay the hammer down too hard, but you do have to be consistent. That’s key for sure! Trust me, you will be able to strike a balance between playmate and silly mom with disciplinarian and teacher. It’s a constant juggling act, but it is possible. Parents that say you have to be one or the other are just wrong. God wants us to love and enjoy our kids as well as guide and correct them. Blessings!!

  • Emma Lora

    When I was raising my kids yrs ago the constant reminder was.. listen the them.. explain to them… love love love and discipline and last but not least… set the example. you are doing great. Snarky commentors have their own snarky anti-Palin agenda.. Reject them!

  • Emma Lora

    MBN in a recent post said it well…. Don’t expect instant results.. he is a work in progress. Tripp has many around him that love him… and will love him for years… Continue to do your best and he will be fine!!

  • Sam Adams

    My advice; consequences, consequences.
    He must learn limits. He must learn what “no” means.
    When you say no, there is no further negotiation, you mean it, and you don’t change your mind.
    If he doesn’t learn no means no, he won’t know the meaning of it when he’s taking risks as an adult he shouldn’t. (Bet you can name a few risks all males foolishly pursue!)
    He won’t be able to tell himself no when he needs to self-parent as an adult.
    He’s too young to lecture so time outs are a good first consequence but they may lose effect.
    I believe in mild spankings as the last consequence (3 strikes) especially for little ones. Short and sweet.
    But most of all, REWARD good behavior verbally or with activities he likes, explain to him in advance concretely what you expect from him in a given place or situation, and make sure he gets exercise and is fed on time to reduce insulin swings.
    You probably know how evil sugar is, especially if either parent was involved with drugs or alcohol before conception and the child has AdHD type effects.
    So serve carbs including the starchy ones with a protein, too to balance them out and keep energy levels even.
    Lots of naps keep irritability down, something else you probably know.

  • Alexa

    I was a single mom for a long time. I also felt the same way I did not want to be the bad guy. But at the same time I knew I couldn’t let my son act the way he wanted. I was told to spank him, I tried. It did not work and I hated doing it. So we went with time outs and explaining to him what his done wrong. Kids are not perfect so you will always be the ones to correct them. You can discipline your son an also love up on him. My son always try’s to push my buttons I do not let him get away with it. And at the end of the day his always wanting kisses and hugs from me. So you can do both. I was a teen mom and single I’ve done it for four years and in stilling learning everyday. Good luck!

  • Mark Miller

    As I watched that episode, what came to mind is, “Tell, don’t ask.” None of this, “I’m going to put you in time-out, okay?” Okay?? You’re asking a 3-year-old’s permission? What sense does that make? The reason you’re his parent and not just his friend is he doesn’t know any better. You do. Being a parent means exercising the authority a friend doesn’t have over him. Having, I’m sure, gone through your parents’ discipline, you know that it doesn’t feel good, but you also know that your mom and dad loved you while they were doing it to you. Tripp will know the same. Don’t worry that he won’t think you love him. It’s not about being “the bad guy.” It’s actually about being “the good guy.” You’re the good guy for teaching Tripp good behavior. It’s the bad behavior that’s “the bad guy,” but Tripp needs to realize that. He needs to see that “the bad guy” is what’s getting him in trouble with you, because he’s going along with it. Disciplining Tripp doesn’t mean that he’s a bad person. You know that. It means what he’s *doing* is bad.

  • David Dempsey

    That is a really good Photo of you and Tripp, Bristol. He looks So much like you. Good post,too.

  • Pat

    Bristol. You have money. What is stopping you from getting some parental counseling? You turn to people on the internet for parental help? Get serious. Pick up the phone & dial some help instead of waiting by the phone for President Obama to call you.

    • Emma Lora

      Pat, there are many many reality shows. Bristol is including her viewers via interreaction. Most who enjoy her show interacct positively. Some few who watch her show choose to view the whole thing with negative responses. If you like the show… it will show in your response. If you don’t that will show as well. If I don’t like a show… I choose to move on… what are you going to do?

    • Nikol

      Bristol, I was a young single mother as well. I feel bad you call yourself and tripp broken, but happy to see that you are rising above that feeling. At 21 I had my son and his father was in and out for several years. I am now 35 with 2 of my own children and married into 3 more. we have the new nuclear family, the yours, mine, and ours. It was so worth waiting for, because like you I got pregnant out of wedlock. God provided the best man for me, and we are very happy. nearly 7 years together and almost 4 married. I didn’t used to think of myself as broken because my sons father and I were never married, I did feel different. And I would tell my son that, we were different in a good way. We were a cool duo. I didn’t want him to feel lost. So I used this to my advantage. Cool kids weren’t rude, weren’t mean, and didn’t talk back to their moms. I was also like you a bit of a giggler at the innappropriate moments and that’s what gets you each time you try to punish him, becuase now he thinks he is funny. I would create a time out space in your home and your parents home if that is where he spends most of his time, and every time he does something innappropriate he goes to that time out space. You need a timer, so that when his time is up, which is 1 minute times his age, then he hears the bell and gets up, he has to come to you and apologize for his poor behavior. Otherwise he goes back to his time out space. I have 5 kids now, ranging in age from 2.5 to 21, I raised my husbands three from the time I met them, and even for the up to 10 year olds they still had time outs and it worked for them. after 10 you gotta do stuff a bit differently. Oh and one more thing. I watched the episode last night where after tripp swore at your sister she suggested washing his mouth out with soap. i have been a cop for 10 years, and most child services wouldn’t think highly of that. that was old school, my mother did it to me, and before I knew better I told my son I would do it to him. but it isn’t a good idea. you could offer to make him eat something he doesn’t like – in turn for his fresh mouth. good luck. it isn’t easy raising kids…but your doing fine..

      as for Pat, I am sorry you feel this way. I agree she does have money and resources, but I also agree that on a weekly basis I call up my very best girl friend and we chat for an hour or two, and when we chat we talk about the frustrations of parenting. in that frustration we discuss alternative ideas to what eachother is dealing with. Bristol is doing no different. True this isn’t a two way street. She won’t be calling me to chat, but she is opening a dialogue accepting information from other parents who have been through the same thing. Smart girl I would say. I am extremely proud that she has created GOD as her center. She isn’t going to take the wrong advise from anyone particularly if it goes against what she believes.

      • Nikol

        I forgot to mention before the time out you can do the 1,2, 3 is the time out…My daughter got used to it and by 2now is when she either says sorry, or gets moving. and my son used to do the same thing. but he was when I said one. good luck

  • Rosali Elzig

    Bristol motherhood will never be easy. And Tripp will never be the perfect child,or adult but been raising him all by yourself in your way and giving all the worries to God will be just the right way you have to do. You don’t need internet counselors or any book to discipline your son. Just follow the step your own mother did with you.{don’t think about the mistakes you did} remember! no child,or adult will be perfect. I raised my children the way my mother did,and it worked. If you need advise ask you mother and grandmother nobody will give you better advise than them,because they are the ones who loves you and your the most. But if you still wants to hear some good opinions from a mother from another country,who raised two good kids in a old fashion way,call me i will have a little talk with you…just ask your grandmother,she will tell you who am I. God bless you and Tripp.

  • Piscean Gal

    I agree with Pat and Mark. Bristol should NOT be asking Tripp for permission to put him in timeout. He does the “crime” or infraction, sticking his tongue out, shouting I HATE YOU, etc…he does the TIME. Don’t ask for his permission, just PUT him in TIME OUT. Children are a product of their environment. I agree that parenting classes are a MUST for Bristol. She seems to be so lost in parenting Tripp, acting almost like she is his sister. I agree with WILLOW, that Bristol is a 20 yr old immature mother. Bristol also needs to stop acting/being/playing the VICTIM role. OH WHOA IS BRISTOL, raising a son all on her own, no father figure around. BULL…I don’t know for a fact that Levi is NOT around. Maybe he is, just not when Bristol thinks he should be, or maybe not at her beckon call, whatever the case may be. My personal thought is that he IS around, but it’s easier for Bristol and family to put him in a bad light. ANYWAY… She needs to stop playing victim. MANY mothers raise their children, both girls and boys without the biological parent in the picture. Bristol has a seemingly GREAT support system, she needs to utilize it, but on the other hand, KUDOS to Todd and Sarah (OMG, DID I JUST WRITE THAT!?) IF they are, in fact, making her take total responsibility for her “Actions.” :-)

    • Anna

      umm, wrong “whoa”. you meant “woe”. and i think Bristol is being incredibly positive; maybe you are the one with a negative attitude.

    • Nikol

      well that was a bit harsh. I don’t believe she is asking for permission to time out her child. What I do beleive she is asking for is advise from people who had tried ad true lived the scenario. Have you? have you been a single mother at her age trying to make it? I see her doing several things I never did, as I was too obsorbed in my youth. Things that are right for herself and her son.
      a) she put God first in her life again. – excellent. It took me many more years to do that again.
      b) she is investing financially in her future in a positive way.
      c) she is seeking guidance and wisdom when having a hard time with her child. something many young parents either are too immature to do, or are to prideful to do it.
      d) she is an active parent. She is always doing something with tripp.
      e) whether Levi is or is not around, did you see the episode where he didn’t bother to show up at the fun playland place. She tries with him, as much as I did with my sons father, he is now in the picture but it took him years to mature to a point that he knew what he wanted. We aren’t to judge Levi or Bristol, we can comment, but judging them is wrong. She seems to make lots of efforts. and Levi has seem to show only financial gain from his son. This is the view from most of society when they see the things he has done against his son and bristol. I pray for him to find God, and grow into the father he has the potential to be.

      Bristol your doing fine. just a little rough around the edges because of your age, but you are quickly smoothing those out. As for the person who posted she was too immature and a victim. If you haven’t walked in her shoes and for those that you are talking about perhaps you shouldn’t comment.

  • casy

    Bristol you are so wonderful. Tripp is such a brat but you love him. Maybe your parenting skills are not the best, but you are so immature no can find fault with you. It is just the way you were raised.

    • Truth101

      And you are a product of the way you were raised.

  • Jinky

    Saw the latest episode did not make the top 100 cable show (again) this past Tuesday…pretty bad when re-runs of Sponge Bob continue to beat you!

    Wonder if Lifetime will renew the series??

  • bellagrazi

    Bristol, you don’t have a husband who can be the disciplinarian. But you do have a boyfriend who loves you and your son very much. Let Gino share in disciplining Tripp. Tripp needs to know that Gino is the father figure in your household. Which means that he has as much right to discipline him as you do. Gino seems to have a calm, yet firm hand with Tripp. His method seems to be very effective. You seem to have the same method. Just keep it up and Tripp will be fine. I loved the surprise birthday party you and Willow planned for your mom. Her reaction was priceless. Haha The video of the photos was amazing. And the pink handgun was awesome. And the cake was baked with love. Haha Sarah Palin is blessed with a very close, loving family. You get what you give in this world and your mom is getting love back in spades.

  • Caitlin

    I really like your show and I applaud you for raising Tripp on your own, that can’t be easy–although he is just the cutest! I wonder why you can think that a child needs both a mother and father, instead of two mothers or two fathers, when even your own son doesn’t live in a situation under your definition of an “ideal family”. You seem to be doing a great job, so why don’t you want to give other people handed different cards like you, living non-Leave it to Beaver, different than the traditional nuclear family lives like you the same chance? What if someone told you that you couldn’t raise Tripp because he doesn’t have a mother AND father around all the time?

  • Anna

    Bristol, I just want to offer some words of encouragement. Raising kids is hard, especially really little ones (I have 2 myself). I want to let you know that even if you were married, a lot of the discipline would still fall on your shoulders. I got married at 30 and had my kids after that, and I stay home with them. My husband is at work all day, so I have to do most of the disciplining during the day. (As you know, you can’t tell a 3 year old – “Wait till daddy gets home” – that won’t work!) So, please don’t feel bad that you don’t have a dad in Tripp’s life on this occasion – even if you did have a dad around, discipline would still fall to you a lot of the time. A book that I think is really helpful is called “1-2-3 Magic”. I do a similar method with my kids and it works most of the time. You can do it! And when things get tough, I always try to remind myself that I’ll be happy later when my kids are behaving in public because I worked with them at home. (Well, that works for me most of the time!) Hang in there, being a mom is hard work and we are all in the same boat! I think you are doing a great job.

  • Carol

    Tripp needs his father.
    Just like you said, it takes two to raise a child right.
    Coarse it would help if the parents were adult-like.

  • NoRtHwEsTeRnKoDiAkSeAbRoOkWizArDtImEbAnDiTcOrNliAmArIe

    Bristol,
    you are the PARENT NOT TRIPP! What you need to do is give him a warning the 1st time,if he dose it again,repeat warning with the next time you hit,or whatever that bad behavior is you are going into time out then if he dose it again put him in time out.set a timer when you put him in and tell him when the timer goes off he can get out.Then you ask him if he knows why you put him in time out and if he no explain it to him why and if he does this behavior again he gets NO WARNING IT’S STRIAGHT INTO TIME OUT! Also don’t allow him to con you or make you feel sorry for him because once you do it then he will run all over you.when you say NO mean NO don’t just say NO and then when he whines give in and give it to him you’ve got to stand FIRM!YOUR strong just like your mom you can do it,after all your a palin!

  • Kimberly

    We have found that timeouts worked well for our kids when they were Tripp’s age.

  • http://thisisannalyn.blogspot.com Annalyn

    I was 18 when I had my son too. (I’m a month younger than you, and your son is just a month younger than mine). I’m also having a difficult time with getting him to behave. He is such a stinker! He can be a real sweet heart but he doesn’t like to listen at all. I’ve done time outs a lot, but honestly, he just doesn’t care. Lately I’ve been sending him to his room to cool off instead of time outs. If there is something really serious we try to think of a consequence that is logical or natural. We only use natural consequences when it’s appropriate (you can’t let your kid run out in the street and get hit to learn a lesson! But you can use a logical consequence such as not letting him play outside for a while).

  • Bo

    That’s a good question to ask your mommy, cupcake. After all, just look at what a wonderful brood she managed to raise . . . errrr, on second thought, cancel that. Trailer trash begets trailer trash. You’ll just have to get used to it, sweetpea.

    • Kelli

      And that seems to say alot about your mama Bo and the manners she must have taught you…Talk about the pot calling the stainless steel kettle black…

    • kat

      You do realize you sound like a complete jerk, right? You’re not being funny. It’s called being vindictive. Get a life.

  • MiddleRoader

    The most important thing you can do, Bristol, is follow through on your words. If you threaten a time-out, do it! If he’s clamoring for attention by screaming or whatever, tell him you won’t talk to him until he’s quiet and ready to listen. And then do it. The 1-2-3 method works too, especially with kids Tripp’s age and older. The first time you do it, explain that he has 3 chances, and on nr. 3 he will get whatever consequence you have decided on. After a few times, you won’t need to explain it any more. For example, say he’s has your car keys in his hands and you want them back. Say “Give me the keys, please”. If he refuses, say “That’s 1!” Wait about 30 secs or so. Then say “Give me the keys, please.” If he refuses, says “That’s 2!” Wait and ask again, then say “Thats’s 3!” and take the keys away, and don’t engage in any more conversation (unless he’s doing something truly dangerous of course.” Eventually, this will teach him to self-monitor and he is more likely to stop whatever behavior it is on 1 or 2 or 3. If, at the beginning, he throws a tantrum, ignore him. Later, when he’s calmer, talk to him about the event, and ask him what a good choice would have been. (return the keys). When he gets older, the behavior willl be more complicated, and there will be more choices he could have made. (for example, if he hit someone, the choices might be “count to ten first’, share the toy, explain that it’s not his turn to play with the toy, walk away, tell an adult, whatever.) Then you guys can discuss which choices are good and which “not so good,” or you can suggest other choices.

  • D0nna

    I can certainly relate to how helpless you sometimes feel when you are trying to raise a child. I was just as “stupid” as you are when I was a teen IN FACT WORSE! I got pregnant at 16, I did marry the father but we ended up having 3 children by the time I was twenty one! Believe me…controlling 1 is bad but having 3 under 5 was like trying to nail jello to a tree!
    I was a very good multi tasker back then and that helped but I came from a family that believed a good spanking could help and sometimes it does, but sometimes it doesn’t. God gives us the ability to have children while we are young so that we have the stamina to keep up but he doesn’t give patience until your older. That doesn’t seem right does it? I guess he expects us to learn patience by surviving the kids! What a concept. One day when you are a grandmother you will be much smarter than you are now and a lot more patient with little ones. You will see things differently and appreciate things differently. Right now the best advise I can givehas kind of already been given. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If he breaks the rules he has to face the consequences, that might be no TV, No Games, No Company and don’t buy him goodies all the time. Gifts should mainly come from you on birthday and Christmas. Other people give gifts randomly and that’s ok, but from you it shouldn’t be every time he wants something.
    I have learned that sometimes a good private talking to does better than a smack and if you separate them from the herd for a good heart to heart it has a lot more effect. At lastly, don’t raise him on television. History can prove that is a mistake.
    I survived my 3 kids at a very young age and we grew up together and were very close. We didn’t do everyhing right but we ended up with three College graduates, no druggies and all hard workers. I am proud of them. They turned out better than I did and that is what every parent hopes for I think.

  • Emma Lora

    Pat,
    for your sake maybe you should not watch.


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