Reconciliation Does Not Fix THE Problem

The following post is from Andrew Marin, President and Founder of The Marin Foundation

The core of reconciliatory engagement must always be love. Love, in such a pure form, that the self-giving nature, some would even say humiliation, of Christ, is the central point to one’s understanding of the ever-reaching ramifications of the incarnation. Our incarnational work as bridge builders sets one foot in both worlds–identifying with both, while only representing Christ. This “de-centered center,” as Miroslav Volf puts it, enables us to live within culture’s fluidity, affirm its diverse hybridity, and yet not let it be a threat to the purity of our core identity.

Though what I don’t understand is the ease in which a variety of respected theologians I have been reading recently continue referencing “God’s perfect love” as the default response against any critiques of what compels one to engage in reconciliation. I find their response a copout. “God’s perfect love,” which has legs in the theological-banter-world, means absolutely nothing to those outside the faith. Using the Bible as moral justification to someone who does not view the Bible as a morally legitimate tool is like standing in a garage and trying to convince your next door neighbor you are a car.

Or, worse yet, expounding on about “God’s perfect love” to those of the faith who have been irrevocably changed by [repeating] moments in time not reflecting anything close to such love. Love must not be an abstract in order for contemporary masses to understand it—yet, even for one person.

As a bridge builder who believes in Jesus, I must contemplate the reality of the tension between felt-betrayal, -suffering, -evil, -exploitation, -exclusion, -violence, -conflict; and how God embraced all of those deep feelings, fears, hatred, and insecurities inside of us, through Jesus Christ on the cross.

How does one remain loyal to both the justice for the oppressed and to the forgiveness that Jesus-crucified offered the perpetrators?

The ultimate conclusion to such contemplation ends with an answer to the following question:

Do I either watch others be crucified or let myself be nailed to the cross?

The chosen state of humiliation when one lets themselves step into the disconnect and take both waring factions’ burdens upon themselves to provide space for redemption, opens the floodgates for all onlookers to have unrequested opinions:

You’re doing the right thing.

You’re doing the wrong thing.

You’re doing it for the right motives.

You’re doing it for the wrong motives.

You’re sincere.

You’re not sincere.

You have a hidden agenda.

You don’t have a hidden agenda.

To any of these your response must always be:

Does it really even matter what other’s, even those closest to me, think about the choice the Lord is compelling me to live within?

We must wrap our minds around the blatant fact that greatest limitation in seeking reconciliation is not that reconciliation does not work, but that even with the progress of tangible forgiveness, peace, dignity, and shifting outlooks, new conflicts and disagreements will continually be generated. Even so, I still believe engaging in such spaces are worth every second to live into the life of the humiliation, burden, and effort that Christ modeled for all his followers.

These days I see segmented arguments within the Christian world about the church go viral all over the interwebs. Why are millennials leaving the church? Why are millennials staying in the church? Maybe these catchy questions give Christian writers something to write about? I don’t know. I don’t really care, either.

What I do know and what I do care about is making sure those who claim Jesus’ name actually live like the man; not just write about what would keep millennials in a contemporary version of church the man never created.

But, if those who claim Jesus’ name do begin to live like the man, in even close to as widespread of numbers as those who do claim his name, there will be no need for the numbing amounts of input over who has the best non-statistical analysis of who is leaving the church [see: opinion] or the best statistical analysis of who is staying in the church (which, by the way, I think is very informative). Instead, everyone will be too busy loving people into the Church by placing themselves in humiliation’s way for another’s burden because that is what Jesus did. It’s a very simple concept–one just needs enough boldness to actually do it one situation at a time.

What would Jesus do? Indeed.

Much love.

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About Andrew Marin

Andrew Marin is President and Founder of The Marin Foundation (www.themarinfoundation.org). He is author of the award winning book Love Is an Orientation (2009), its interactive DVD curriculum (2011), and recently an academic ebook titled Our Last Option: How a New Approach to Civility can Save the Public Square (2013). Andrew is a regular contributor to a variety of media outlets and frequently lectures at universities around the world. Since 2010 Andrew has been asked by the United Nations to advise their various agencies on issues of bridging opposing worldviews, civic engagement, and theological aspects of reconciliation. For twelve years he lived in the LGBT Boystown neighborhood of Chicago, and is currently based St. Andrews, Scotland, where he is teaching and researching at the University of St. Andrews earning his PhD in Constructive Theology with a focus on the Theology of Culture. Andrew's research centers on the cultural, political, and religious dynamics of reconciliation. Andrew is married to Brenda, and you can find him elsewhere on Twitter (@Andrew_Marin), Facebook (AndrewMarin01), and Instagram (@andrewmarin1).

  • Melissa

    Really love this. “All you need is love” can be used as a trump card and an easy way out of having a messy conversation about what it really means to show love in certain situations. Those battling thoughts and criticisms heard by other people can really paralyze a person. I know it’s held me back from saying certain things or standing up for people who deserve it because I know that I will have to deal with all the negativity from people I care about. I hate it when it holds me back, and I have to constantly remind myself that it’s not about me. Thanks for the courage you show that empowers other people to have the strength to stand in humiliation’s way and take the hit for those who have been beat down too much.

    Would you say that in the original millenials article by Rachel Held Evans, that her point was not necessarily how to keep millenials around but rather that maybe we should stop and listen to why they’re leaving because it is actually for legitimate reasons? Such as not wanting a contemporary, relevant, coffee house church but rather something that is real that reaches the deep needs of their LGBT, atheist, postchristian, etc. friends? If a generation just wants more loud music, more charismatic speakers then it definitely is not worth our time to argue about how to get that to them. But I feel like from what I’ve heard from my friends and their complaints about the church is exactly what you’re describing here. They want to actually wrestle with the deep issues surrounding the church today and they feel as if they are always handed cookie cutter answers and a latte and are expected to be committed to the church.

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation Andrew Marin

      Hi Melissa! Thanks for the comment. I do believe she had the best intentions in writing what she did. I just couldn’t stomach another opinion article saying the same thing as hundreds before. It’s like beating a dead horse. The horse is already dead (e.g. We know why millennials are leaving); and here-forth, any non-scientific article about it is someone’s opinion that they are trying to promote as new and innovative. I will give her credit, she is amazing at summarizing. Also, I couldn’t agree more with your conclusion!


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