Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is it Possible to Become Pure Again in God’s Eyes?

AnsweringYoung lady has a sexual relationship in the past and is now wondering how to not be considered a pre-licked candy bar (Michael Pearl’s words) in the eyes of God.

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Is It Possible To Become Pure Again In God’s Eyes?

I was raised in a semi-Christian home, and I have always had faith in God. From the ages of 16-18, however, I dated a non Christian and we had a sexual relationship. I am out of this relationship now, and I am committed to the Lord. However, I hate having this huge stain on my purity. My dear new friends have purity rings, and I would so love to get one to show my new heart concerning purity. I just don’t know how God would feel about that since in reality, I am not pure. Help please~

That poor girl! That’s a lot of guilt and self-torturing to carry around. I have to admit I was expecting all of the commenters just to add more guilt and condemnation, but they did not. They mostly suggested that since she’s already repented of her actions that she was now pure, and should go ahead and get a purity ring to symbolize her inner purity after repentance. What would you advise?

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