Put Down That Phone!


Last fall, Kai complained that all her friends had smartphones and she didn’t.  On one hand, she complained because she wanted one SO BAD.  On the other hand, she noticed that during lunch, rather than chatting or gossiping, laughing or telling stories—all the things one would hope to do with a gang of best buds—everyone was staring at their device.  She could only twiddle her thumbs in thin air.I suggested she say, “Hey guys, let’s put our phones down and talk.”  She looked at me like I was … [Read more...]

Chocolate=Lies, Sex=Truth

HAPPY 5TH BIRTHDAY PATHEOS!  Patheos has asked us to re-post favorite blogs from the past 5 years.  Here's one I wrote almost exactly 2 years ago--it's still true.What does it mean when you desire a hot fudge sundae more than sex with your loving, gorgeous, faithful, and servant-hearted husband?When I was still nursing my 2nd child, I attended a women’s conference with the goal of talking to friends about nurturing my marriage while having zero sex drive.  One friend, a former missionary … [Read more...]

A Scrambled Egg–Not All Yellow, Not All White, Mixed

Ling--the Scrambled Egg Photo by Dorothy Little Greco

Several months ago I blogged on What Cheerios and Kids Can Teach Us About Race, looking at some of the attitudes about biracial families.  Right after,  I wanted to post Ling's college essay about being biracial (with her permission of course) to present an inside view of what it's felt like.  But we worried it might mess with the college application process.  So I'm posting it now that all that's been decided! by Abigail Chuan-Ling Tuan MacLean A couple weeks ago my Mandarin teacher walked ove … [Read more...]

Decision! Colby College 2018

After what’s felt like an arduous 2 year process, Ling has decided to attend Colby College in Maine.   She posted her decision on Facebook Saturday night (181 likes so far), the acceptance form’s in our mailbox right now and the decision’s made 3 whole days before the final deadline!Whew!Can I say it’s been quite the ride?  After 20 some college visits (which apparently is a little out of control judged by the straw polls college admission officers have asked at admitted student days), an … [Read more...]

Leaping into the Abyss of Absurdity (also known as Faith)

Kai leaping off the rocks at Waimea Beach--same place I love to watch 40 foot waves during the winter.

During freshman “Intro to Philosophy” I learned that Kierkegaard described faith as a leap into the abyss of absurdity.  Yes!  That's what it feels like, I thought to myself.  Ever since choosing to follow Jesus at age 3 because I heard believing in him meant I’d never have to die and that sounded like a good deal to me, I had struggled between  deeply hoping God actually existed and science with its rational worldview.I experienced many “atheistic” moments where an invisible yet omniscient, … [Read more...]

Chi-Paos, Fried Cheese and the 5-2 Diet


10 years ago I made a big mistake.  For our 10th anniversary renewal of vows, I got a Chinese chi-pao.  Scott suggested that since I didn’t get one for our low-budget wedding, this would be the time to splurge.That was all well and fine—my 10th anniversary tailor-sewn chi-pao was and continues to be the most expensive piece of clothing I’ve ever purchased.My mistake was doing Weight Watchers for the 10 months beforehand so that the dress was fitted to my body at my lowest weight since our … [Read more...]

Snow Day Tale


Growing up in Hawaii, there are a bunch of activities I never anticipated my grown-up life would entail:Taking my own trash to the dump because our town doesn’t have trash pickup Skiing every winter Making sure all windshield wipers stick up before a snowstorm so they don’t freeze to the windshield Not being able to see as I drive in the dark to the gym because I’ve sprayed wiper fluid to clear all the snow/grime off the windshield only to form a sheet of ice so I can see even less … [Read more...]

Top Tips for the College Application Process

You might have noticed a dearth of blogging in the month of December.  Yet I spent the month immersed in a writing process—unfortunately, just not my own.Between December 10th (when Ling found out she was deferred at her early decision school) and January 1st, my daughter wrote 7 college applications—with a total of about 25 extra essays.It isn’t that we hadn’t warned her all fall.  We knew she had little chance of getting into her top choice with an acceptance rate of 9.8% (30% of its st … [Read more...]