I have a concern and I’m considering the option of seeing a sex therapist. I have been dating a wonderful and righteous LDS man for about a year now. We both have had unsuccessful first marriages in the temple. His marriage lasted 16 years, mine was over a 35 year period. We are striving to keep the commandments and be guided by the spirit in our dating with one another. We have fallen in love and we have high expectations... Read more

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. My husband suffers from a few mental health issues that have put a very big strain on every aspect of our lives. He has a lot of issues with guilt and hanging onto guilt as an obsession. A few months ago, he viewed pornography for the first time. It was really hard for me to hear that he had done that. I was filled with worry about if this was... Read more

This information is taken from: The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine, MD Anterior Cingulate Cortex (ACC): Weighs options, makes decisions. It’s the worry-wort center, and it’s larger in women than in men. Prefrontal Cortex (PFC): The queen that rules the emotions and keeps them from going wild. It puts the brakes on the amygdala. Larger in women, and matures faster in teen girls than in boys by one to two years. Insula: The center that processes gut feelings. Larger and... Read more

A great book I’ve just come across that I’m enjoying and finding useful is: Scream Free Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel, LMFT I believe the principles taught in this book are useful for anyone who finds themselves in a “parenting” style relationship (for example even with grown children, spouses, their own parents, co-workers, etc.) Read more

I feel like my temple marriage of nearly 20 years has eroded over the years through neglect and is now (in my opinion) almost unrecognizable. We don’t argue or fight, but neither do we discuss our relationship, our thoughts, or our feelings. We have become more like co-habitants that get along rather than the type of interested, engaged celestial partners that to me defines what a marriage should be. For several years now, I have tried, although admittedly in a... Read more

I am in the military and am on my first deployment. It has been a great opportunity to serve but I am quickly learning that it is extremely difficult because of the sexual pressure that builds up from being absent from my wife as well as the temptations that come with that. My wife and I have a great life together and enjoy each other very much while I am at home. Overall, this has helped us to grow closer... Read more

What a blessing in disguise this blog is!! As I read the posts last night (in the middle of the night) there were so many thoughts going through my head. I’ve seen a variety of therapists. Only left one because I didn’t like her in the beginning. However, all the others have ‘left’ me as they have changed jobs or retired. Even though the common theme I read about last night was sexual in nature and that is not the... Read more

My wife has been involved in a relationship with a former boyfriend, a spiritual or emotional affair it might be called (as per the article in the September Ensign by Kenneth Matheson). It developed to a point where there was a short period of intense romantic involvement, including discussion about being together longer term, but there was no sexual contact (I think one brief kiss at the end when she finished it) I have personally found this completely devastating –... Read more

Due to the ongoing sexual issues/questions being brought up on this blog I will try to give some weekly sexual tips that hopefully couples will find helpful to spicing up, rethinking or communicating about their sex lives. Not all of the information will apply to every couple. Just use what you might find helpful and be willing to challenge yourself in the process. Husbands: Realize that your wife has a natural need for affection. Make it a goal to hug... Read more