Quoting Quiverfull: Saying I Love You is Not Enough?

Quoting Quiverfull: Saying I Love You is Not Enough? January 5, 2017

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Outdo One Another

Editor’s note: This is again one of those pieces or ideas that upon first glance isn’t bad, until you look deeper at what’s being said here. Notice that it mention nothing about receiving kindness in return or having any reason to not do these things? It’s great to show love to those you love, but I cannot help but think that behaving like this to a petty tyrant of a patriarch just might increase his abusive expectations and inflate an almost insufferable ego.

Sometimes we need to stir ourselves out of the rut. The good thing is that you don’t have to stay in the same old routine. Nothing ever happens without making it happen, but you can start to make it happen. Hebrews 10:24 (TLB) says: “LET US OUTDO each other in being helpful and kind to each other.”

I am sure you tell your husband every day that you love him. Even this can be a rut. Can you think of more exciting ways to remind him that you love him? Don’t say it once a day–perhaps ten times a day and in all different ways. Prepare his favorite meals. Do and say loving and kind things to him that you never have before.

OUTDO ONE ANOTHER. If he is especially loving to you, find a way to be even more loving back to him.

Begin this fun stimulating one another to love and good deeds among your whole family. Encourage the children to be competitive in showing love and doing nice things to their brothers and sisters.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • AuntKaylea

    Love is not a competition. Approaching it as one is a recipe for misery and poor mental health.

  • Rachel

    Scrolled down to write almost the same thing, but you phrased it better. Love is not a contest, it’s not a game.

  • SAO

    There was a book, The Happiness Project where the author took some ideas like these and tried them out and wrote about it. When she was on her super nice month, she commented that she noticed that it wasn’t always noticed, appreciated or reciprocated and she had to struggle not to feel resentful.

    I think it comes down to a thoughtful thing done at the right opportunity is valued, but over time, small things are more work for the doer than appreciated by the recipient.

  • Saraquill

    I buy snacks for my husband and text him cat pictures for the sake of brightening his day, not to be in a pissing contest.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I do little things for my husband regularly, not expecting gratitude or payback or heaven’s brownie points, just because I love him. It does not make or break the marriage.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Then there’s the problem of whether the recipient actually wants the “nice things” the doer is forcing on him unasked.

  • megaforte84

    For instance, I had the hardest time getting my parents to understand that a lot of my favorite foods are only my favorites if they remain treats that are only available once every few months. If they show up in the refrigerator every week, there’s going to be a food spoilage problem.

  • guest

    Again, she takes a principle that is good and twists it so we hardly recognize the principle.
    I get tired of these ladies teaching the same thing over, and over and over and over again. Just go out there and DO something good for someone and don’t spend so much time writing about it!

  • Jennny

    IMAGE is everything, put on a creepy show of being touchy-feely and God is glorified. Bruce Gerencser wrote of a pastor who admitted when he didn’t have money to put in the collection plate, put in a folded piece of paper to look like money as he wanted to set an example to his flock about giving. Hypocrisy from him and Nancy, the reason thinking people are leaving the christain churches in droves.