Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Not Sure On My Status?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Not Sure On My Status? July 25, 2017

AnsweringAnother sad letter. This young lady wants to know if she’s ruined goods because she was sexually abused as a child.

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Not sure on my status?

I know this sounds really odd, but I seriously don’t know if I’m a virgin or not. I was abused when very little (before puberty), so I’m inclined to think not. But I’m not sure. And how do I tell the person that I may marry?

Most of the responses she was given were good ones, about not being responsible for the abuse someone else did to her as a young child. Yet one of the ladies warned her that it might be off putting to a good Christian man. What would you tell her if you could?

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