Sex Outside of Marriage Causes Infertility?

Sex Outside of Marriage Causes Infertility? August 5, 2018

Another day, another unscientific cause and effect post by The Transformed Wife’s Lori Alexander.   She hints in one passage that those that commit what she thinks of as fornication can be punished by infertility. Lori claims in a backhanded way that sex outside of marriage causes infertility.

I think it is pretty safe to say that the entire world knows by now that Christian worldview, Quiverfull, Evangelical, Catholic, Maiustream, Fundamentalists and every flavor in between understands that the church frowns on sex outside of marriage. Lor is not revealing some obscure truth here, she’s just pulling another whip out of her personal bondage and discipline version of theology.

In other words Lori is saying yet again that the sacrifice of Jesus and possibility of restoration is completely meaningless, that the only reality is being shamed and pushed by your possible sin. Right before quoting a scripture that means just the opposite. Is Lori even aware of the constant contradictions in her own words?

In matters of sex, within or outside of marriage it is really not Lori or anyone else’s business. But yet again Lori cannot resist shaming, blaming and making others fear. How very Phariseean!

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  • Jennny

    That’s hilarious, I taught in a school in the poorest square mile in Wales. So many feckless folk (sorry don’t mean to sound snobby.) Many unemployed who lived on state benefits. Child Benefit could add up to a useful sum for your drugs or alcohol if you had several kids and didn’t bother to use it to feed and clothe them properly. Kids used to say, not infrequently, ‘My mummy’s got a new boyfriend and she’s having a baby’. The school nurse said you’d think we were living in rural India and women had to walk for 2 days barefoot to get contraception, it’s free and very available here…I need no proof of the falsity of the sterility argument…I could have wished it were true in that area, so many poor sad mothers with more babies and neglected children than they could cope with and reckless dads fathering literally a dozen or more kids by different women.

  • Tawreos

    “…she’s just pulling another whip out of her personal bondage and discipline version of theology.”

    Worst, Dominatrix. Ever.

    “…but they will deal with the regret and possibly the scars (infertility and/or disease) from it all of their days…”

    Just remember folks, if it is “legitimate” sex outside of marriage, the body has a way of shutting all that down, so don’t worry.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    It’s not inconsistent at all. The theology finesses all the hippy Jesus-talk of forgiveness, redemption and anything else. The important thing to remember is that for Lori, all religion is reduced to “afterlife insurance”. The only thing signing on the dotted line gets you is a “get out of jail free” card from God from his eternally burning you in hell. You’re still evil, you’re still punished, you still, crucially, don’t get all the nice things good little girls like Lori get and aren’t in any way equal to her, no siree! It’s just if you are very good from here on in, and display sufficient remorse (publicly, obviously) and don’t try and pretend to be really, properly Christian like Lori, you might just get let off the actual fire.

  • Aloha

    “Chlamydia and gonorrhea are important preventable causes of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) and infertility. Untreated, about 10-15% of women with chlamydia will develop PID. Chlamydia can also cause fallopian tube infection without any symptoms.” (from the CDC)

    Some STD’s can cause infertility, all the more reason to use a condom. Of course, the same Conservative population that rails against abortion and pre-marital sex, is also against condoms. They enjoy shooting themselves (us?) in the foot.

  • Aloha

    Is a child from a previous relationship a “scar”? Lori lists all the bad things arising from pre-marital sex, but never mentions her most favorite beloved BABIES.

  • Cynthia

    Maybe Lori could occasionally remember that her oldest daughter is going through infertility despite there being no signs of her ever being with anyone but her husband, and could try to learn what sensitivity is. [She’s been brutally insensitive about it before.]

  • Anonyme

    Oh God…Todd Akin. I’d forgotten about that hot mess.

  • Nightshade

    Don’t want STDs? There’s this nifty device called a condom. If Lori weren’t so hell-bent on not learning she might know that.

  • Hannah

    My mum managed to have four kids whilst not being married to my dad, they’ll have been together for 31 years in October, and they’re still not married! Meanwhile I did get married and have so far avoided pregnancy (thankfully) and I’m keeping it that way!

  • Nightshade

    I wonder if Lori blames her daughter for her infertility? Or more precisely what specifically she thinks her daughter did, since in Loriland women always bring these things on themselves.

  • Tawreos

    How could a woman ever take care of an actual baby if she doesn’t have her husband to practice on until he gets her pregnant?

  • AFo

    Religion has condemned sex outside marriage since it began. People have been having sex outside marriage for even longer. Time for the holy rollers to admit they lost this battle and worry about something that actually matters.

  • The Jack of Sandwich

    Nope. I had sex with my future wife long before we were married, then got her pregnant a month after I married her and started trying for kids. No infertility there.

  • Eris, elder daughter of Nyx

    If sex outside of marriage causes infertility, then I guess we don’t need to worry about all those unmarried women having abortions.

  • The Student

    It doesn’t, but if it did… good! I really don’t want any sprog!

  • Saraquill

    Has Lori not read her own holy book? Hagar was not married to Abraham, nor were Lot’s daughters married to their dad.

  • Saraquill

    I’m still struck about how Henrietta Lacks contracted the cancer which killed her. As far as I know, she was always faithful. Her husband was not, and gave her a cancer causing virus.

  • SAO

    Exactly my thought. And shotgun marriages are a myth.

  • Martin Penwald

    I think it is pretty safe to say that the entire world knows by now that Christian worldview, Quiverfull, Evangelical, Catholic, Maiustream, Fundamentalists and every flavor in between understands that the church frowns on sex outside of marriage.

    Ah ? Newt Gingrich didn’t seem aware of it. Josh Duggar neither.

  • Mel

    So scientists are finding that HPV can be transmitted through some oral contact. It’s not as effective a transfer rate and doesn’t always make it from the oral mucosa to the cervix – but HPV has some pretty nasty tricks up its sleeve.

  • Mel

    I immediately thought of 3 couples I’ve known over 15 years or so who essentially married the only person they ever dated and were kind of verbal about not having sex before marriage who then had major infertility issues.

    Yeah, STDs can scar fallopian tubes – but some women have wonky fallopian tubes, fibroids, a mild bleeding disorder or phospholipid auto-immunity issues without ever having been exposed to an STD and some men just don’t produce viable sperm in a pristine reproductive system.

    It’s just not that simple. The lady who wrote the “In A Shoe” blog had the same realization when she declared that ectopic pregnancies were mostly caused by things people could control like avoiding STDs by not having extramarital sex and not using birth control. Boy, did she get a deserved earful from women who nearly died from an ectopic pregnancy while being a proper virgin bride who married a virgin groom and immediately started having their quiverfull of babies. Like most pregnancy issues, correlation doesn’t do a great job of describing what the average patient looks like. Yeah, women with a history of some STDs and some birth control types are at higher risk – but most ectopic pregnancies happen to low-risk women.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    You are misunderstanding the nature of fundamentalist morality. To be “moral” is to join in in the enthusiastic denouncement and persecution of acts true believers are required to regard as immoral. Actually not doing them (so long as you express the proper remorse when caught) is basically an optional extra.
    Remember, Real True Christians are justified by faith, not works.

  • Cynthia

    I’m not from a conservative Christian background, but I had a tough time psychologically dealing with the fact that I was having miscarriages, despite the fact that I had planned my first pregnancy to be “perfect”. The message I got from the media and books like What to Expect was that I had to do a billion things right, and if something went wrong, it meant I failed. Needless to say, I learned the hard way that it is possible to be 26, at the perfect weight, with the perfect prenatal nutrition, no prior sexual partners, following every single guideline – and still find out in the 17th week that the fetus died 7 weeks earlier.

  • lady_black

    My son is infertile due to Hashimoto’s disease. He will likely not ever be able to father a child without all kinds of expensive interventions. He has sperm, but they don’t swim well. It’s not always the woman.

  • texassa

    How else are they going to scare uneducated women into patriarchal purity?

  • persephone

    Well, some religions.

  • MadScientist1023

    If that’s true, how does Trump keep having kids?

  • Jezebel’sOlderSister

    Question — what if the man is commuting infidelity?